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No you are not over-reacting that would drive me absolutely batty. You are probably a lot nicer about it than I would be. My dh has been playing his stupid x-box 360 a lot more too now. I would go nuts if he had a friend living in our house first off and than was up all night every night with the friend playing. I would probably tell him that he needs to cool it and spend more time with me in the evenings or the friend goes...good luck. I know I'm not much help but I have sympathy for your situation.

I don't think you are overreacting at all. This is one of the reasons I will not buy ANY kind of game station....every woman I know that has one in their house complains that their dh ignores them to some extent to play the game. You are not being childish at all. Childish is ignoring your spouse to play VIDEO GAMES!

I wouldn't say you are overacting. I would say you have a valid point. If my dh did somethig like that I would feel that he didn’t care for me anymore. Not even talking about sex but that part would suck too. I think I would feel like he doesn't give a hoot about if I am there or not. What did he say? Anything?

I agree with the others. I would DEMAND more you and him time at night, and if he doesnt get the message, then have his blanket and pillow on the couch waiting fro him and the bedroom door locked ! : )

I agree that it's your husband in the wrong, but if you approach it in the wrong way it wont get solved...I have had the fight about the computer games SO many times...if I approach him by saying, "I would like to do XYZ with you tonight, can you make the time?" it goes so much better than when I get in his face with the "I hate your computer games, you spend more time with them than me"...once I learned to approach him the right way, he has become very good (for the most part) about giving me my time with him.

Good point allie.....

My dh is 55 years old and still lives so that he can play xBox everynight. My problem has been going on a bit longer than most because I worked for Microsoft and worked on the xBox development back when it was a partnership with Sony. Let me just say that demanding (as has been suggested) your dh stop playing your xBox isn't going to get you any ground..except for the ground outside the house. There is something primal about these games that men just love. I don't get it. Having had this problem for 9 yrs now I can tell you from experience that you and your dh simply have to agree on acceptable playing times. Our ds goes to bed at 8pm. The time before 8pm is family time and we are all together - no game playing. Once our son goes to bed he can play his xBox and I have some time for myself. He can play as late as he wants but he has to be able to wake up, on time and without my repeated prodding, the next morning. Believe me, there are some mornings when I can tell he is in agony because he's had only 2 hrs sleep. Oh well!! I don't cut him any slack and expect him to be full form. I just make sure that he punished himself with excessive gameplay. Nagging to stop is ineffective and only builds two-sided resentment.

Thanks everyone. well when I got home from work dh and I had a little argument about it and he said that if I have a problem to talk to him about and not bottle it up and then shout at him just as I'm about to leave for work. I told him last weekend that I was not happy with him playing his bloody game everynight, and he said ok and that he understood why etc etc, then that night and everynight after he is playing his xbox 360 game. I was like what the hell did we talk about over the weekend, it must have gone in one ear and out the other. I have told him that I don't mind him and his mate playing the game every other night and coming to bed later than me, but if he starts playing it everynight again then he is on the sofa. I have met him halfway now so hopefully he won't go back on what he said.