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4 posts on this thread and the last post was on September 28th, 2005 9:00 PM
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Craig Gall - September 3rd, 2005 8:22 AM
 [Original Post]

Hi all,

My girlfriend is pregnant at 14 weeks and 1 day. I am the father. I am struggling to keep up with the changes my girlfriend is going through and this week she has out of the blue told me that she does not like me and never has. I keep hoping that it is all as a result of the major changes she is experiencing. She tells me that she does not like me at all. and that she has felt this way long before she was confirmed as pregnant. She cant explain why she does not know.

I am on here to hopefully find out whether anyone has experienced anything like this with there partners and that i am not alone with this. Its hard as i love them both soo much and it hurts greatly especially as i have today gone to collect my things from hers.

I hope there is an answer and that it is the answer i need.

I thank you for reading and replying to this post.

Thank you all.

Alisha - September 4th, 2005 11:34 PM

I felt this way towards my husband when I was pregnant. Nothing he did seemed right, I would cry over everything, and I had horrible mood swings. All you can do is listen to what she has to say and if something bothers her then try to make it better if you can. Let her know she is going through an emotional time and that you are there for her. If you are going to get your things from her house maybe she wants you to tell her you dont want to go and that you want to make the relationship work. Oh, and bring chocolate! I hope I have helped you. Will you post again to let us know how it turns out?

Craig - September 5th, 2005 2:48 PM

Alisha,

Thank you for the reply. I went round picked my stuff up and never felt so much like i was getting kicked out the door.

We are chatting and it is although she realises what is going on. We are talking but we are just stepping back now to take things easy.

I really hope this goes well. I dont want to loose her and the baby.

Thank you for the reply.
Craig.

A R - September 6th, 2005 6:18 AM

Hi. I had a miscarriage, but whilst I was preg. I was lashing out at my husband all the time, and when I had a miscarriage I burst out that it is all his fault that I had to go through all that pain. So just relax, and remember that we women have crazy hormones, and nothing we do or say is meant seriously, especially at such a time. I miscarried nearly 2 weeks ago, and I cam,e back to myself after a few days.
Congrats and good luck to you both


Katie - September 28th, 2005 9:00 PM

Oh boy can I relate. I got PPD with my second daughter (now 28 months). Ever since her birth, I cannot stand my husband of 10.5 years! I also have not found the right med to treat my PPD. Our marriage has never been "perfect," but I've always loved him. These days I just have to remind myself it's my mind playing a trick on me (and the trick does include thinking back and wondering maybe I never did love him -- even though I really know full well I did!). Hang in there. Even if things don't work out with your gf after the birth, your relationship with your child is forever.

Katie