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 | amysue - July 11th, 2009 1:10 PM |
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Hi I am very new to this.But I have no one to talk to. Last July 4th I misscarried. I was about 16 weeks pregnant. We were getting ready to find out if it was a boy or girl. It has been a year now and I have been wanting to have a baby since I misscarried. We were trying when I conceived. I wanted to start trying right away but my husband didnt. Now its been a year and we talk about it alot but he always tells me he isnt ready. Ive tried to discuss how I feel, he just tells me he is sorry. Now he is talking about getting fixed. I feel like he is being very selfish and it hurts me. Now I feel like I am alone. I want our relationship to work but I know what I want and he knows what he wants. Am I crazy to think he is selfish.???? PLEASE HELP
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hi amysue
ur not really crazy to think he is selfish, its a normal emotional response.
I feel that maybe he feels that by getting "fixed" he wont have to go thru the heartache of another miscarriage. however that is not the answer. not all pregnancies end in miscarriage.
I can relate to how he mite be feeling as i myself have had 3 miscarriages. my recent one being only october last year. i do however have a 6 yr old lil girl.
after i miscarried last year(we weren't trying) me and my bf decided to have some alone time and it worked. it has certainly helped us grieve for our loss and made our relationship stronger and we know that when the time is right that we will be blessed with another child.
you do need to understand that this must have affected him badly as most men bottle things up.
really hope this helps hun.
missy
xxxxx
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My husband is so emotionally disconnected I feel like I'm going through this alone. I am suffering my second miscarriage in 4 months. The most recent I am still going through my hcg has dropped 194,101 and yest 82. My husband tried to start a fight yesterday and all I can do is cry. I realize this also affects him. Last time he could just tell me everything would be ok. I know it will but I need morenthan that. In my case, my husband wants to continue trying. But I just can't stand to lose another baby. I'M terrified! And feel alone.
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