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I am very sorry for your loss. My daughter Emily was stillborn on April 21st at 28 weeks as a result of a placental abruption. Were you full term?

Hi Lisa, im so sorry to hear of your loss. I never experienced what you did, i had a d&c 8 weeks ago. after reading your post i had to write to you. it touch my heart and i wanted to let you know we are here if you ever need to talk. Take care lisa x

Thanks ladies, and sorry to hear about your loss Erin and your ordeal Jo. I am not sure how to reply individually hence the joint email.
Lost my boy at 39 weeks, I have a little daughter who is 14 months and with her when I had the little twinges at the beginning of labour her heartbeat dropped and she had to be delivered by csection. I was on the monitor for her and not sure why I didn't for our little boy. I was monitored heavily this time around and was also under a specialist who cleared me three weeks before I began labour. I am just kicking myself as I cannot understand why I didn't go on the monitor. It didn't even cross my mind! That is what is so frustrating - to think I could have saved the little man. He was such a healthy little buggar too! Obviously too perfect for this world. Something I just cannot comprehend though.
Have you got any other children Erin?

I lost my little boy (Daniel) at 37 weeks in May 2003. I thought I was having a normal 1st pregnancy and blamed the reduction in movements on the head being engaged. We were desparate to have another child straight away. I was suprised to conceive so quickly as it had taken 2 years last time. We found out we were having twins which made the pregnancy even more scary.At 21weeks gestation twin to twin transfusion syndrome was diagnosed the girls were delivered at 28 weeks.Eden weighed 1lb 2oz and Emelia 2lb 11oz.We never expected Eden to live.However they were both fighters and they are now 17 months old. They are both well although Eden is still very small for her age. I am terrified of pregnancy but the trauma and stress has been worth it. I hope my story will give you hope. You never get over losing a child but you can be happy again.

Thanks Lisa, I have a son at home Aidan, who just turned 2 in March. He makes getting through the day a little easier, I'm sure you feel the same about your little girl. I was told the next day that if the doctor that delivered her would have had 15 minutes more he could have saved her. It makes me so angry to think about because the first hospital that I went to misdiagnosed me as being in labour and dragged their feet until I started bleeding and then they finally figured out what was really wrong. I arrived at the hospital at 3:00am and was transferred to another hospital that could help us almost 10 hours later. Have you got access to any berreavement groups in your area. I just joined one last week and they are very helpful, it's good to sit and talk with others who have gone through what you are going through.

i have been threw the same thing .it happend on 8 june this year.i went into labour there was no trace of a heart beat had an emergancy section and my son was stillborn im so devastated.

Oh Amy love, I am so sorry, its all so fresh and new for you. My heart bleeds for you! Has the hospital given any reason why this happened to your little man? What was his name? My little son was Elias Anthony Michael. I am desperate to know what happened. Elias has had an autopsy but yet to have results.
Erin, I haven't got access to groups in my area but I haven't looked so something for me to do, its so much better being able to talk to people about it isn't it?
Karena, sorry to hear about your loss also, it seems so common really doesn't it? No doubt your little twins are keeping you very busy. I am definitely hoping to get pregnant again, I just it does happen, took so long with our little Esmeralda but then I got pregnant when Esmeralda was 5 months and I was breastfeeding. I was devastated at the time, but god if only I could turn back the clock ..........
Ladies, my heart goes out to you all! I am thinking of you. I have a lovely poem which a girlfriend gave me recently so I will email that out when I get a little bit more time.
Take care and much love. My home email is jim.lil@xtra.co.nz if anyone is interested.
xxx

My son was stillborn on May 4, 2005. This was 2 days after we found out his heart had stopped beating. He was 5 ounces and 6 1/2 inches. I was 20 weeks. I miss him so much! I have a daughter that turned 11 months the day my son was stillborn. (my husband had his 30th b-day 3 days later and mine was may 12. Also we found out he had passed away on my sister-in-laws birthday) We were waiting for testing to come back to confirm but they believe he had down syndrome and with that a heart problem that made him pass away. However, they were unable to grow the cells so we will never know for sure what was wrong with him. My sister had a baby girl that was stillborn and she had turners syndrome this was 7 years ago Aug 12. What are the chances....
Eza


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Hi Lisa, I had a stillbirth @ 34wks in 1998. It was due to a placental abruption for which nobody could give me any reason. Last July I had a beautiful healthy baby girl but I never expected her to arrive safely. Although it took me a long time to move on, there is a light at the end of the yunnel. I think that the best advice I could give anyone who has experienced a stillbirth is to talk to people about what happened and how you feel, don't try to cope on your own.