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Dear AshleyB, I totally understand your pain. I had a mc at 8 weeks in Oct and lost a baby due to premature birth in April. It is the worst feeling what you are going through--I'm so sorry for you and your dh. On a positive note, I had a d&c after my mc and found the experience to be a good one that allowed for closure. Now I am pregnant again, 9 weeks, and everything is going well. Don't give up hope! I'm so sorry for your loss!

These sorts of miscarriages (around 8 wks) are very frequently the result of chromosomal problems and are random. It's still a loss, but you still have fantastic chances for the future. I had a mc like this last time (i've had four - BUT I do have a beautiful little girl, no medical intervention, no progesterone, no nothing....) and it was much harder than the ectopic I had or the two blighted ova. I had seen the heartbeat at 8 weeks, too. Then by ten weeks the whole baby had just vanished and there was an empty sac. Doctors think it was a chromosomal problem. All my tests are normal, and husband's too. Couldn't get the tissue culture from the mc to grow in the lab, so no definite result there.

Ya same here I was about 10 weeks or so along too. and I found out Oct. 31st that the baby was dead, no heartbeat and that the baby was already gone about 8 to 10 days age before that. I had a D&C Nov. 2nd. I had no signs either. This would of been my third baby. We have a 6 year old girl and a 4 year old boy and decided we wanted more so we tryed again. But I lost it we are now trying again.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies-it's been a hard day. Johnna-what was the d&c like?

Ashley, I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in August after seeing the heartbeat at 6 weeks. It was most likely chromosonal issue that caused it. I ended up having a d&c which was relatively painless (I did wake up with bad cramps after the surgery but morphine stopped the pain really quickly). It was my first pregnancy as well. Since I had it I've talked with many women who have had miscarriages who all went on to have healthy pregnancies. My heart goes out to you...

Hi ashley , I am so so sorry for your loss, i was pregnant for the fist time this past september and we heard a heartbeat at 6 weeks and then no hb at 8 weeks and i had a d&c 2 days later and also didnt experience and bleeding or cramping prior to the 8 week scan so i was totally shocked when the dr told me there was no hb, I was devastated and im still very sad, the d & c is definitly the best route to go. we waited on cycle before ttc again ( i wanted to ttc again immediatly) so i got af about 6 weeks after my d & c and we started ttc and i just found out on christmas eve i am pregnant again!! You are more fertile 3 cycles after d & c or natural miscarriage which makes your chances of falling pregnant again very high, It sure did for me. Once again i know exactly how you feel and what you are going through and your life is changed forever and a pregnancy will never be innocent again but i believe everything happens for a reason and with time it will get better and soon you will have your sweet little baby...I hope i was able to help you.

I got pregnant with my daughter (my only successful pregnancy of the past 5) 2 weeks after a D&C for a blighted ovum. I was definitely extra fertile. I could tell by the cervical fluid and took advantage of it. That was my second pregnancy. I'm glad I didn't wait 3 months to try again, as I've never had another good pregnancy.

Ashley B. The D&C was not painful they put you asleep, I was afriad at first but it is really not bad, nothing to be afraid of really. I did really great and did not hurt then 3 days later I started feeling alittle pain kinda like light labor pain but that only last 2 days but it was only off and on but not to bad.

Thanks so much ladies. I can't believe how common this is. I really appreciate all your kind words. It's tough. Right after christmas- we just got our bassinet and my family bought the baby stuff for christmas. I know its better now than later in the pregnancy. And everything happens for a reason but it still doesn't help my heart. I appreciate hearing your stories and gives me hope.

I have had three D&C's and never once has either doctor offered to put me in the hospital or give me any meds other than demoral. The demoral makes you a little woozy, but it still hurts terribly. If your doctor will put you under, that's great. Sometimes it's an insurance issue. The truth is, without being put under, it's really awful. I just want to prepare you, or see if you can get your doctor to check you into the hospital. I had one D&C in the hopsital while under, and it was nothing. I woke up and felt fine. It was much less emotionally and physically exhausting, despite the anesthesia.

Ashley B. If you want to email me my email is jgarrison@sofnet.com and we can talk more and help each other out.

AshleyB- I'm sorry for your loss, especially during the holidays. I was in your shoes earlier this year and I also have no children. It was hard for me, but honestly it got easier as my hormones leveled out. Now I'm just teary eyed every once in a while compared to daily. Hang in there. I don't know if you're a reader, but it helped me to read some grieving books.

Hi ladies, My husband and I just suffered a miscarriage a week ago today (few days before Christmas). This is my third miscarriage and I feel so depressed...not wanting to get out of the house at all and especially not wanting to face everyone we had told about our pregnancy. I was 10 weeks, but our doctor said the baby had died a while back. I know I have to get on with my life. Any advice on how to tell friends about the miscarriage. I'd rather do a bulk email than have to tell about our loss over and over again. to all of you suffering loss...my thoughts are with you. Anna

Hi everyone. I just thought I'd update you all. I went in for another u/s today and still no hb. So I had the d&c done today. It was done in the hospital in the O.R. and they put me out so I was oblivious to what was going on-(very thankful for that). I'm having some bleeding and I have painkillers for the cramping and stuff. So I'm doing ok. But still very sad. Doing much better though. Somehow between yesterday and today I was able to somehow really detach myself from what was happening and the reality of it all. It helped me get through it all. I'm ready to focus on the future and trying again in a couple of months for a healthy successful pregnancy. Thank you all for your friendship and support-I really appreciate every one of you who wrote to me. Thank you so much. Good luck to all of you.

Ashley B, I went through almost exactly what you explained. I went in for my first u/s at almost 12 wks and the baby only measured about 8 weeks with no heartbeat. This is my 3rd m/c and I was absolutely devestated bc I tried to do everything right. I just had my D&C 6 days ago and am having a lot of cramping and still bleeding pretty heavily and am quite discouraged. I cannot wait to try to get pregnant again, but don't know anything about after a D&C. I was young when I had my first mc and passed it on my own and my 2nd i ms at 4 wks and didn't know i was p/g but this time we tried and were plum tickled. I have to survive for my 5 mo old stepson bc i'm the only mommy he's got but i just feel like i have to try again. If you want to talk feel free to email me at apritt02@cebridge.net. I would love to hear from other ppl going thru the same things and what their doing and advice.

Hi all...just needed to vent alittle. I'm having such a hard time since the d&c because I haven't had any bleeding or pain so I sometimes forget and still think I'm pregnant. Like when I'm eating or drinking. I make my decisions like I'm still pregnant. Slowly reality is hitting me. I"ve gotten so used to thinking of myself as "WE". That now I feel very alone and empty.