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I found out on the Monday, had a scheduled D&C for the Wednesday and miscarried on the ward before I got to surgery. I ended up having the D&C the following day anyway due to heavy bleeding and a scan showing retained tissue. I was 14w4d and had a scan to check why I was having brown spotting so it was a huge shock to find out the baby had died at 11w3d. I am sorry to hear you have lost you little one. Take care.

indenial, I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. There is a possibility that it could happen before the procedure (that is what happened with my miscarriage in January, but then with my last m/c in May I got in for the d&c 2 days after I found out I would miscarry. The one where I miscarried naturally though it took 4 weeks from the time the baby stopped growing to expel on it's own... (((HUGS)))

Thanks girls. A part of me wants it to happen naturally, which is why I scheduled my D&C for late next week. I just think that the procedure seems so clinical and depressing, but I guess it's just the whole experience that is completely depressing. At least I've stopped crying every 5 minutes, I just feel emotionally bruised, but I'm so glad to be able to talk about it with y'all.

I didn't like the idea of the procedure either but I thought it was for the better. You usualy miscarry within four weeks of the baby passing but I couldn't stand the thought of the waiting - I have three other kids at home 4 and under. I didn't want to go and have the tablets because I was afraid they would send my husband home however it happened after they put tablets in to soften my cervix for the operation and I was later told that in these cases visiting times become obselete - husband/partner stays with you at all times. There was a lot of blood which freaked me out a little but I was glad I was in the hospital in some ways and in others it made the whole thing worse - it is something very private and being on a ward is pretty public! The procedure itself was easy - get knocked out and wake up in recovery. I had a few cramps afterwards and the bleeding was practically non-existant next to what I had before it. You will feel emotionally bruised and battered for a good while so don't expect it to disappear anytime soon. Make sure you grieve for the baby you have lost - I know you are probably hoping it hasn't happened and they are mistaken but until you grieve things will only be a hundred times worse. You do have time to wait to miscarry on your own if you think you can handle it. Do what is best for you. Was this your first baby? Ask what your blood group is also and if it is negative ask for Anti-D after the operation or if you lose the baby before then. Take care.

I found out my baby stopped growing on a Monday. Dr's said if I don't miscarry by Friday they would schedule a D&C for the Wednesday after. I really wanted to expell it on my own but the dr's said it would be better. I just happened to have my first appt with an acupuncturist who specializes in infertility that next Monday. When I went in to see him, I told him that I wasn't pregnant anymore and that I was going in for a D&C on Wednesday (in 2 days) He told me if I wanted to have a natural miscarriage, he could "help me". He did the thing with the needles, and about an hour later I started bleeding! I passed everything by Tuesday so I didn't have to have the D&C. I dunno if he really did anything... but I was pleased with the outcome.

Thanks for the info. I've actually been over on the Signs of pregnancy board for 6 mths, ttc for a year and this is my first pg. Jademaiden, I have actually thought of going to my accupuncturist, but I'm a little scared about what would happen, so I'll just wait and see. Tory, I've certainly been to all of those misdiagnosed miscarriage sites, and I did schedule a 2nd ultrasound for my own peace of mind, but I know that my baby is gone. We actually saw the baby perfectly clear, and he was just too small and no heartbeat, so I think I've moved past the denial stage (despite my screen name). I actually think that the whole infertility thing is helping me push through this miscarriage. Someone said on here that they've lost the innocence that comes with pregnancy, and I totally agree. I was so excited those first few months of ttc, but after a year and even through my 2 months of being pg, I was just distrustful of my body and it's ability to reproduce. I think I'll eventually get there, I just won't enjoy it as much as most people, which is horrible, but a fact that I'm resigned to.

Indenial, I understand the lack of enjoyment in a pregnancy. However you will have a greater reward when you hold your little one. I loved my kids but I think if I make it to term this time I will truely appreciate the baby as well as love him/her - does that make sense to you?

Tory, I completely understand. It truly makes you see what a miracle each baby is. DH and I are going to the beach for a couple of days, to just destress. I hope all of you have a wonderful weekend.