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Hello everyone, just wanted to say I found the new thread! The bleeding from my m/c has almost stopped now. I was concerned yesterday because I woke up to lots of big clots, but I think that was mu body just getting rid of a load of stuff, with my endo and everything it can be a bit like that sometimes. Today the blood is brown and light for the first time so I think the miscarriage is almost over at last, which is a huge relief. Time to catch up with what I've missed yesterday!

Nanabon. I hope you get everything worked out i will keep you in my prayers.
Daniella the morning i went to the er with my daughter (it was like 2:30 am) they had went a head and kept me. I was three centimeters, but my contractions were like five min apart. then I had went to three and a half the doc came in there and broke my water. and it was like bam i was having her.lol. mind you i was doped up too. after they broke my water it didn't take long and she was here.

Daniella we will be married a year in August, but we've been together since July of 04 and known each other since 2 yrs before that. We talked about it last night and he admitted that he has felt old and unattractive lately. This baby will be his 3rd child, our 2nd together. He's 26 and going bald and sd that lately I haven't had enough time for him, so he just went on these sites to get a reaction I'm guessing to make him feel better about himself. I told him that that is not an excuse, and that I really don't need this right now. However, I want this marriage to work, so I'm calling a babysitter tonight and we're going out together. I told him if things don't get any better that I want us to go to counseling, that if he wants to make this marriage work we both have to try. I'm leaving to visit my parents tomorrow, so I told him to take this time and think about what he wants to do.

Hi Everyone -- I pulled up this new string and it is already long. I bet we are the busiest forum on this site :-) Sounds like everyone is doing well. I am having a hard time keeping track of who said what and by the time I scroll up to write I am lost :-)~ DANIELLA - Glad you are doing well. Too bad your doctor told you what he did. I guess there is room for interpretation when it comes to that stuff. It is all by feel right? No doubt your baby will be here before you know it. How nice that your husband is getting into setting things up and shopping. Soon he will not be on the computer at all. How could he when he has this beautiful little boy to watch over instead? :-) Oh and about the crib set I purchased yesterday. I opened it up when I got home and I absolutely LOVE IT.....It is so cute and I can not wait until I get to put a nursery together around it. We are meant to and will have at least one baby. I am starting to see some CM signs today too so I told DH he should be laying in bed waiting for me when I get home tonight "-) NANABON - I am so sorry to hear about your man and these internet sites. I do not understand that. They are just doing it for fun? Hugh? Why is that fun....Honestly, he and these other guys doing this must be curious what else is out there. Like Daniella asked, are you married, engaged or what? It can not be a good sign, sorry to say. I mean, I admit that I have a crush at my gym but that is simply a way of tricking myself to go work out.I think to myself "Oh, if I go to the gym, I get to see that cute guy" but I dont know about this situation you have shared :-( Have you talked to him about it any further? Dawn

NANABON - Sorry, I did not refresh before I posted my last message to see the other details you shared. What he has said sounds realistic to me. I often wonder, if I were single now would anyone want me? Maybe that is what he is seeing cuz he is feeling insecure about himself. And the going bald thing. WOOOOW -- that is a really really touchy subject for men. My husband is too and it is very hard on him. I have told him if he wants to do something about it he should but I will love him just the same. Does not matter - he still hates that he is losing his hair. Hang in there - it sounds like you had a good talk and if you both want to make this work no doubt you will be able to. For now - Dawn

Daniella...No my labours always started on its own but I did need my waters broke every time. The 2nd time they didnt brake my waters for hours they had so many other ladies having babes at the hospital at that time they didnt realise that her head was wedged up against it then I got a real bad nose bleed and they induced me I could feel the stuff running through me (it was the worst feeling) and she was born like mins later DH was like why didnt they do that hours ago I was in full labour for18hours.
Also Iv heard that a certain foot massage cab bring on labour..I told a massure that I was pregnant and she said Im glad you told me she had a lady in who she gave a foot massage to she didnt tell her that she was pregnant and later found out that she had M/C she said she didnt know that if it was that that had caused it but foot massagers can bring on labour.
Nanabon from what DH said sounds like all the more reason for counseling if its not just an excuse he has issues hope he knows he has done wrong and doesnt think this makes it ok to do what he did or is doing. Good luck hope you had or are having a good night.
DAWN who knows maybe your nesting for a reason.

Bee- I couldn't imagine a foot massage bringing on a miscarriage. lol... thats kinda funny. Yes, it helps release hormones that helps with labor, but that wouldn't happen early in a pregnancy. They also say kissing has the same affect and tell you to kiss your hubby during labor at the hospital. I think I'll tell my hubby to rub my feet tonight, hehe. ;) ___Coda- in order for you aunt to be right, I will have to go into labor within the next 2.5 hours. God I wish!! But, it doesn't look that way. I was really hoping this weekend and really wished your aunt was right. Oh well!! I am going to go take a good power walk later and hubby and I have a bunch of running around to do today, so maybe it will help. We have lots of stairs in our house and I am constantely running up and down many (MANY) a day. lol... hopefully that helps also. ___Dawn- the crib we have (well, STILL waiting on after 2 months now) is the Storkcraft Aspen cherry wood crib... the crib set we have is the zanzibar theme. I will send pictures as soon as we finally have the crib together. They couldn't ship the dressers that went with the crib because of being overseas... so, we (wait, I... lol) painted our old dressers the same color as the crib and they look brand new. So, we finally have the whole babies room together, just waiting on the storkcraft crib and changing table. ___Tansy- Didn't I guess you would have AF this weekend?? LOL... if Codas aunts guess was as good as mine, I would be in labor right now. hehe.. anyhow, thats good that things are starting to come together. __Nanabon- stay with your gut feelings... I sure hope all works out!! You sound like a strong woman and I think it will all come together. Just sucks having that kind of stress right now. Things will get better!!

Hi everyone

This is my first day on this site, just thought I'd introduce myself have had 2 m/cs last one was 2 weeks ago, I'm going to ttc as soon as I get af, I've found its too hard to track ovulation this cycle.

After my 2nd m/c it was great to come to this site for encouragement.

Hi to all. It sounds like everyone has been busy. Daniella-hang in there. Your wonderful baby boy will be here soon. Dawn-Good luck with the bding. Coda- how are you feeling? When is your due date? I forgot. Helene- Is the morning sickness getting any better yet? I am just waiting(and I sure dohate that word) to see if I get Af this month or not. It is due to start on the 29th. So one more week of waiting. I hope this is the lucky month for all of us. I hope everyone has a good weekend. I have to work :(

Yea Daniella I couldnt imagine that either
it was what Id heard about releasing the hormone.
Lavinia welcome sorry for your losses and good luck TTC.

Coda- I'm sorry, but your aunty was wrong! :( Darn!!! Oh well... it would have been real neat tho. Hey, soon enough though. I just thought it would be cool for this weekend. Although, I believe things happen for a reason and maybe the reason is because this allows time for hubby and I to spend some quality time together... Plus, we are still getting everything in order. :) My whole thing is I don't want dh to waste all his work leave without the baby... so, he needs to come soon. hehe.. Its so crazy, one minute I am sitting here trying my hardest to hold on to him... next, I am trying to hold him in, lol.... and now I want him out. Gosh, what a vicious cycle. lol ___B&K's mom- have my fingers crossed for ya. __Dawn- what we looking at now?? Just past ovulation?? __anyone get Christi over here?? Think she needs the link from the other site to come here. Maybe she is like I was and didn't realize that if you click the hyperlink up top in the subject line, you can pick a different thread. lol...

Hi lavinia, I've only been here a couple of days myself. I miscaried a week ago. It wasn't my first m/c either. We're actually trying again straight away as I miscarried naturally, though I've no idea when I will ovulate. I've found in my short time on this thread it has been very helpful and everyone has been so friendly and supportive. I hope you will find that too :)

awww danellia sorry my aunt was wrong its only the 21st in england thou lol so i will let her know tom. i dont really know what her succsess rate is with due dates hehe. i am okkies had the oddest thing happen to me today i was out shopping with troy and my shoulder and arm was sore then i looked down at my hand and my pinky and ring finger had swelled up like sausages!!! any one else had this? they have come back down now but i have been feeling a bit dizzy . but rogue has been kicking so not worryed about her. helen how are u? fingers crossed for u b&k .sorry for u losses ladys hope that bfp comes for u both soon!! dawn how are u holding up??

Hey ladies! To answer your question B&K , yes and no. Haven't puked since Tuesday morning but sometimes i think tha it is just sheer will and fear of vomiting that stops me. Wed & Thurs morns were good, but Friday was mildly nauseous and had heartburn (yes, got those tums) and today is that lingering yuckiness. I have developed a severe aversion to green vegetables and salads which is making eating healthy a challenge. I thin the only gren veggie that doesn't bother me is green peppers which is weird because I was never huge on them before. And i had peas the other day, although it wasn't my favorite thing. And I spend half my day burping incessantly. Otherwise, I am doing well. Had the strongest craving for french fries smothered in ketchup earlier this week and when we went food shopping dh was like, lets' get french fries and I was like YEAH!!! ha, ha! He was so funny - doc told him to cut out all the sugar (he's gained wieght and his sugar and blood pressure are up) so he was all excited to find a ketchup with reduced sugar and sugar free ice cream. He was a skinny kid and never had a weight problem in his life until he quit smoking 6 years ago - he ate the equivalent of two men and burned it all up like nothing - hope this baby inherits his old metabolism! I on the other hand can just look at food and it adheres itself to my ass and hips. Hey Coda - take your rings off and put them in a safe place. A friend of mine from college who was like a size 3 didn't take her wedding ring off when she was pregnant (she slept with them on) and they had to cut it off late in her pregnancy because her fingers swelled so much. That doesn't happen to everyone, but if you are swelling at all, I would leave the rings off for a few days so they don't get stuck. And don't sleep with them. I alwyas found that my fingers were more swollen in the morning. Daniella - yeah, stick with cotton - the other ones have alwyas brought me grief. There are more varieties of cotton these days - I guess they finally figured out that some of us can't do nylon and microfiber (although if the microfiber is mixed with a high percentage of cotton you may be able to - ehh, why bother?). Allie - so sorry for the BFN. Definitely call your ob/gyn and tell him/her everythign and lay out your goals and frustrations and say - I want some advice and action! Dawn - That sounds really cute! The past few months I would wander through this Target that opened recently and I would just meander through their baby section casually because they have this crib & changing table that I really like set up on display. The one day I was in there getting stuff and I wandered by the crib and thought, Oh wow, I am pregnant this time! (yeah, sounds like a blonde moment, but I think you get what I mean). So maybe my crib stalking is the same as your bedding buying! ha, ha! Bee- are you sure the masseuse wasn't talking about reflexology massage? I could see how that could stimulate things elsewhere in the body. Daniella - I think you should take 1/2 mile walk, have sex, get a foot massage and down that primrose oil, woman! Tell little JPD (I forget the initials!) that he needs to make his grand entrance while Daddy is here to witness it! Lavinia - welceom to the board. I hope al goes well for you. There are sevral ladies on here who have been through m/c twice and some have moved on to full-term pregnancy,so stay hopeful and we are here to help you. Tansy - glad that your heavy bleeding seems past - that is a milestone in itself.

Shauna/Nanabon - I wanted to address you in a separate post. I am so sorry to hera about what is goign on with dh. It sounds like he is having a really early mid-life crisis. Dawn is right - men are severely sensitive about the hair thing. The good news is that he doesnt express unhappiness with your relationship, his problems seem to stem from his low self-esteem and his fear tha his youth is slipping away (oh, my as I get ready to turn 38 next weekend the thought of youth slipping away at 26 does bring a smile to my older, wiser lips! but don't tell him I said that!). Everyone hits thta where is my life going and how did I get this old feeling at different points in their lives. The bad news is that he is trying to validate his manliness and attractiveness through these sites. And it is different than looking up porn - these are actual people, so he is paying with fire whether he realizes it or not. He seems like he is stuck between wanting the fantasy of other women validating his attractiveness and the love and comfort of his family. I think you idd the right thing by confronting him and telling him that this is unacceptable behavior, that you will not tolerate it, and that he needs to work with you on this marriage. You have made it clear that you love him and find him attractive. He needs to realize that if his wife's love and attention are not enough to quiet his insecurity, the attention of other women isn't going to either (it seems to the outward eye that it would, but many a man/woman who has come close to or had an affair has realized this too late). The bets way to figure that out is therapy, both marital and individual. I have had a few friends who went to couples therapy early in their marriages and they are still together very strong. ANd the interesting thing is that in all the cases, one of the spouses ended up also doing individual therapy to deal with their own issues (in one case the wife, the other it was the husband). As for his argument that if you have something to say to each other, you will simply say it - if that was the case, then why is he looking up dating websites instead of telling you how inadequate he feels? Also, these friends of his who are going on these sites - are they married? Gotta wonder about them and what their priorities are. Good luck honey, No one needs this kind of stress, but I am glad you are being proactive - stay strong and stay firm in your resolve that he must stop this behavior and work with you, and continue to let him know that you love him and value him but that you will not share him with anyone but your children.

Phew...just found out that you guys mived and caught up on my reading! Welcome to the new ladies, sorry that you have to be here, but find comfort in knowing we have all been there and it does get better. Hey, look at Daniella and Helene~! Glad to hear you BOTH are hanging in there. Nanabon, I am sorry, but self esteem issues are no excuses for possible unfaithfulness. Talk about with your wife...don't go looking for validation with strangers and play with fire! Especially, in your 1st year of marriage! Sorry to feel so strong about that, I just feel like he got caught and is making excuses to you. Too opinionated? i apologize. I am just hanging out to see where my cycle may be this month. I thought I noticed a change in cm but, i opk'ed 2 days in a row and the 2cd line was lighter than the control line which means a neg. Anywhoo, glad I found you ladies again!