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It's totally normal to be worried and nervous about a subsequent pregnancy. I conceived again right after my m/c and so far, so good. I've read in books and been told that you a) don't relax until you reach the point in gestation you had the m/c, b) don't relax until you reach the second trimester, or c) don't relax until you deliver a healthy baby. I didn't hardly believe I was pregnant, and I didn't let myself really feel pregnant or start getting attached to this baby until just recently. I'm feeling more easy now that I had a great u/s at 8w4d even with some scary looking spotting, and I have strong pregnancy symptoms now at 10w2d, and those didn't start until 9w. I think once I have my first prenatal appointment, where we hopefully hear the hb, next Monday, that I'll relax even more, as that's the point I lost the last one. If we don't hear the hb (which is totally normal) I'm not sure how I'll react. But I know too much now to just go blithely on with pregnancy thinking all is going to be hunk-dory like most women do, and I don't think I'll really believe everything will be just fine until I've got a healthy baby in my arms. I think that's one of the saddest parts of having had a m/c -- we are never innocently enjoying pregnancy again but on constant vigilance for signs of something going wrong (as if we can do a thing about that). . .. .I know there are others out there who are pregnant again after a m/c (Daniella, are you there?) who may have more to add. Good luck, try to not stress, but know you are perfectly normal! Hope your bloodwork turns out well.

yes it's normal to be scared I know because thats how I felt pretty much my entire pregnancy after m/c Feb 2005 and the good news is I gave birth to a healthy baby girl Feb 21 2006. I recommend buying a heart doppler so you can check baby heart beat when ever you feel nervous. But of course relax and enjoy the next months.

You are normal Nat. I long for the carefree pregnancy days of my first two where miscarriage was barely a fleeting thought. I have had 2 miscarriages in a row, and am now 11w 5 days pregnant. We had an U/S at 8w3d and saw a heartbeat, and I relaxed, for about one day. I just have to tell myself, that worrying over every little thing is not going to change the outcome of this pregnancy one bit. I can choose to take each day and be happy or worrry myself sick. I have to decide each and every day. Sometimes each and every moment! God Bless you Nat and hang in there!

Thanks for responding to me. You are very helpful. I went to the Doctors on Tuesday and my blood work came back fine. I went again today and just found out everything is looking good but since my one level is borderline, they want to put me on Progesterone. Is this a common thing? Your thoughts.

Nat- I'm not sure about your progesterone question, but I can assure you any nervous feelings you have about being pg after m/c is PERFECTLY normal. I am 6wks 1day today and feeling more and more nervous each day. It isn't fair we have to have these feelings of fear that most pregnant women don't experience - on top of all of the other feelings that come w/ being pg. I was sitting in the waiting room at my ob's surrounded by healthy pg women that seemed to not have a care in the world. They were also getting u/s and were angry at how long it was taking b/c they 'really had to pee'. I was angry at how long it was taking b/c the longer I waited, the more nervous I was becoming. Susan W is right - you might not relax until you are holding your healthy baby in your arms after delivery. Just keep positive thoughts and hang in there! (((HUGS)))

hey nat. i had m/c in october and i am 18 weeks pregant.

i was scared of losing this baby, but now i have had my first scan. i know everything is ok and i am going for my second scan on 28th april

Jennifer, I've had the same experience now twice sitting in the waiting room to find out if everything is OK (I had to have another emergency u/s this past Monday after a terrible bleed and my midwife couldn't find the hb with the doppler). All these women were sitting there complaining, and all I wanted to do was go throw up from nerves and really had to choke back tears wondering if my baby had died. I wanted to smack some of those ladies. I did throw up before the first u/s and did pee :) from stress; the last time I threw up from stress was before the first solo surgery I ever performed, lol. They only tell you to drink all that water, but it's really not necessary to hold the entire 32 oz unless you are really really early. And I won't be one of those who can relax at the point at which they lost the last one; the reason I am bleeding is I have a big subchorionic hematoma :( The specialist thinks it will be fine, my midwife thinks it will be fine, but it's still scary. Hang in there ladies!!

I have had 3 m/c in the past and am now 9w pregnant. I'm worried sick all the time. I had a little bleed a week and a half ago and had to have a emergency u/s. Everything was fine. I was the same as you Susan, I felt like I was going to throw up the entire time I was waiting to go in for the u/s. Then when they told me the baby was alive I had no idea how to react. I made her check it about 7 times. I don't feel any safer though, maybe when I get to 12/13 weeks I'll relax abit, but I can't see it. At least we all have each other!