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Sorry I have not checked in for a while! Seems like time is going so fast and I go at a run nonstop. Just got back from the Dr. Did my Glucose test and had the regular check up. All is fine with the baby (other than keeping me up all night long kicking). I go back in 3 weeks and then start the 2 week check ups. I got all my paperwork filled out to get my tubes tied. I am glad to get it done. I will have had 3 children and I really want to stop there. This pregnancy has been a lot harder than my others so I cant imagine doing it again later. By then I will be in my 40's *gasp* lol
We have had lots going on, our 4 year old kitty got hit by a car and killed, so we have had a hard time with that. Then some little girls brought in a tiny baby kitten that was sick. So now I need to find a home for it. The week before that a friends house burnt down and lost most of their animals along with everything they own.
Then in a few weeks a friend of the hubby's will be visiting, and my baby shower is at the end of the month.
Congrats on the new babies and new pregnancy. I wish everyone luck and maybe later this summer I will have time to sit down.

Hi girls! I haven't checked in for a while either. Before anything,let me congratulate JudiSarah and her new baby and Chrys B for her BFP! I'm sorry I went through couple of last pages "really" quickly. CReating: How lucky, you will soon be done with it all!
LISA: Still here, still fighting and still positive!! You have my admiration girl. Shelly: Still around supporting everyone. I hope STACEY is ok, she hasn't checked in for a while either. And Erin and Kath with her twins.
As for me: Still no news! I have my ups and downs all the time. I go from really positive and hopefull to absolutely desperate and miserable. It's now been 3 years since I've lost our first one and over 2 since we lost our second one. Often, I just can't get my head around it and can't stop asking: WHY, WHY, WHY?? This is just a pure hell! I've got a week to go to start a new cycle and we should be trying Clomid this time. So far we have been trying naturally. I thought just to check my cycles and see what's going on, I've been temping this month and using Clearblue digital OPKs. As expected everything looks just beautiful, a smiley face on OPK on cd12, FF showed ovulation on cd13.. it just doesn't make sense. How can everything be so perfect, but still nothing's happening. I'm trying to "believe" that Clomid may help and perhaps it is not that far away now. You can't imagine how distant it has become. We've seen our best friends for the first time since they had their baby, little boy is now 7wks old. Seeing all three of them, they were just plain adorable! And I cried all the way home in the car that I can't give that to my husband..I'm so sorry girls, everytime I pop in here I am so miserable!
LISA, STACEY: I pray for your BFPs too!!

Hi everyone. CREATING and MAYBE: It is so good to hear from you. We have all been concerned and thinking of you.

This time of year must be just tremendously busy for everyone. At least it keeps me distracted from too much worry.

After I went to the ER, I went to see my dr. twice last week. On Thursday, we did another ultrasound, and everything still looked good. The baby was measuring 8 weeks 0 days, which is exactly on target according to my last period, which is good. I am still having some nagging pain where the clot is, but I hope that will go away soon. I am pretty terribly about overdoing it and then regretting it later. I had a good day yesterday, and I think I might have done too much. I am going to go a little slower today.

My next appointment is in 3.5 weeks. My dr. has me on a regular schedule, and he keeps marking 'normal pregnancy' on his little sheet. As long as he doesn't consider me high risk, I shouldn't either. It is just too easy to get paranoid when you have had a loss.

STACY: How are you doing? I have been waiting to see a post and hoping things have calmed down by now.

SHELLY: Good luck with school and keeping your family where they are supposed to be all the time. Scheduling gets crazy, I know!

Good luck to all of you and know that I am thinking of you. I have really appreciated all the support you have given me.

I'm new to this site and need some advice. I recently had a miscarriage I was 5wks 3days along. I passed majority of the tissue April 2nd and some April 3rd. I lightly spotted the following week. We resumed intercourse April 10th, I wasn't cramping anymore nor spotting so we thought it was ok. We also did a few times the following week as well. I went in April 21st for beta check to make sure my levels had gone down to normal. The doc called me the next day told me everthing was good and I should start my cycle within the next couple days. It's been 2 wks since then and I still haven't had a cycle. I have read up on other sites that women have conceived within a couple weeks after miscarrying. I don't have my hopes up that I'm pregnant again. I was mostly curious as to when any of you had your first cycle after a miscarriage or if I should really be leaning towards being pregnant again? Last weekend I had some signs like I would normally before I start, soreness in breasts, achey hips, and very lightly cramping but nothing happened. That is also what I had right when I found out I was pregnant this last time. I do have a 5 year old daughter but it's difficult to judge from that pregnancy b/c I still had my cycle clear up to about 3-4 months, all that time I didn't know I was pregnant due to having a period. I also read that it could take 4-6 weeks before you do have your first cycle after a miscarriage, I'm at week 5 now with no signs really. My breast feel a little swollen and I'm bloated, but the light crampy-ness is gone and my hips don't ache anymore. I don't want to take a test bc I feel it's too early since I would be maybe 2-3 wks if I were again. If anyone can shed some light I would appreciate it so much. Thanks in advance.

Hello my ladies....Milley..I am glad to hear from you finally. I was worried. I am sorry you are still struggling. I am praying that the chlomid works for you !!! You so deserve to have that healthy baby inside you !!!!! Where are you in your cycle?? CHRYS....so glad to hear all is well with both you and little baby !!! Such wonderful news !!! JEWLZ]...I am so sorry for you loss. It is such a hard thing to go through and we will all be here to support you. As for the cycle...every woman is different. BUT....most women get their first af about 30 days after m/c. Some women do not get one for several weeks even months later. A m.c can really mess up your cycle, so dont count on it as you did before. As for getting pg right after...you dr should have told you to not have intercourse until after you first af. Most drs want you to wait for the lining of your uterus to heal before getting pg again...so it is thick enough to endure a healthy pg again. However...there have been alot of women who have gotten pg right after one and had a very healthy baby. Either way, whenever you get pg again..you are going to be scared, and worry every second of ever minute of the next pg. When we have a m/c it takes away the innocence. You will never have a 'normal pg' like other women who have never been through it. And they will never understand how you feel. ( alot of women try to compare a scare incident to what we went through). Anyways..I am sorry for your loss and we will be here for you if you need us. These are the most wonderful and supportive ladies. All I can say about you testing..is that you should wait...because most times your hcg levels are not back down ( below 5 is considered 0 ) and will show a false positive on a test. Call you dr and they can look into it further to see if you are pg again, or if you need a jump start to you af. As for me ladies.....I am ok..just running around like a chicken with my head cut off !!!aaahhh. But it is ok..will be worth it when I graduate right !!!

Hi ladies. this is my first time on this site but i need some advise on what to do...here is my backround. I had an ectopic pregnancy in December 2008 and had to have my left fellopian tube removed. i then fell pregnant again in March this year and it ended in a miscariage and D&C on the 14th of April. because of the ectopic, i have to monitor each month with home pregnancy tests because if i am pregnant, i have to get it checked right away incase its another ectopic (have to catch it in time so that i dont have to loose my last tube)So i tested yesterday (3.5 weeks after the Miscariage)and it was positive. I am now not sure if i am pregnant or if the HCG levels are just still too high and are being picked up on the test. can the HCG levels be that high to be picked up on the test?? I have not yet had my period and am not sure what to think... please help.

smmom2: Thank you for the advice. I will be calling my doc once they open for the day. I do remember her saying that I wouldn't have my cycle until my levels reach 0 and when she called me 2 wks ago to tell me the results they were at 0 and that I should start within a few days. A fried of mine miscarried 2 weeks before I did and her levels are still at 25 she still spots every now and then, her doc doesn't know why they aren't going down. She's been in and out of the office for testing so much.

anj3131: I took several tests when I miscarried b/c I didn't want to believe that I was they all were positive until my levels went all the way down. The line got lighter each time though. I would call your doc and ask that blood be drawn to make sure your levels are going down like they should. You don't want to risk losing your other tube. Best of luck with everything.

YEAAAA - Its so nice to log in and see some posts! SHELLY: Your so right, it will be worth it all when you graduate. Any vacations planned this summer? You deserve one! CREATING - wow girl you have a lot going on! I am so happy to hear that your baby (and you) are doing great. That is such a blessing. How many weeks to go? Hang in there girl. I am sorry about your kitty,that is so sad! And your friends house burning down, that is downright scary - I worry so much about fire. How devastating.... I hope things get easier and less hectic for you so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. MILLEY - there you are! I was so happy to see you checked in. I am sorry you are still ttc and haven't gotten your BFP yet. Its frustrating when you can't figure out why... I am charting too and your right, you can have the "perfect" chart and do everything right and still not get the result we want. Its so hard! Don't give up - your turn is coming... maybe clomid is just what you need. You never know. Isn't it so hard to be around babies and pregnant women still? I lost my first 2 years ago in November, April and my 3rd 2nd anniversary loss is in the fall, I just really thought I would have a baby by now. And yes the pain is less and I feel I have "gotten over it" as much as I can, but still I have to go to a cookout this weekend on mothers day where my DH cousin is expecting twins, I love this girl, but I can't bring myself to go and watch everyone fawn over her and there will be a few newborns there too and I just don't know how I can face it. I know that sounds incredibly selfish of me, but its the way I feel. Its pure jealousy and I am not ever a jealous person but there it is, I am feeling sorry for myself and I can't help it! No one who hasn't been where we have knows how that feels and how you have no control over it at all. Just know I feel your pain, sending you hugs! CHRYS: Thanks for checking in - so glad to hear all is well with your baby. Keep us updated! We care! JEWLZ: Welcome and I am sorry about your loss, it is devastating and it changes you forever but you will still have that baby you wanted - it sounds like you could be pregnant again. Have you called your doctor? Best of luck to you - I hope you get the outcome you want! We are here if you need anything! ANJ3131 - First off, I am so sorry to hear about your losses. And losing your tube on top of that must be hard. I think you should call your dr. asap - because if you are pregnant then you need to be sure all is well, I would think the Hcg would be out of your system from your m/c in March. Keep us updated and best of luck to you! Well girls, I need to get some work done. It was nice hearing from all of you! LISA xoxo

My doc just called me back. She said it is odd that I haven't had my cycle yet b/c typically after your levels hit 0 you start give or take a couple days. She asked me if there were a chance I could be pregnant again, I told her theres def. a chance. She told me to wait 1 more week and if I still haven't for me to come in to draw blood b/c it would be too soon to tell on a home test. I'm not going to get my hopes up, but I'll keep you all updated. Thanks so much for all the advice.

Hi ladies, thanks so much for your advise and well wishes. I eventually called my doc and he said that i had to go for the bloods imediately. I did get them done, i will get the results tomorrow morning from my doc. I think i knew i had to do the bloods, i was just too affraid that i would be told that i wasn't pregnant...i just wanted to believe i was pregnant even if it was just for a little while. I need this to be positive.

Creating...forgot to tell you I am soo glad all is well. I cant believe you are that far along already...already doing your glucose test!!! Have you gotten results yet??
JEWLS and ANJ31 ...anytime we can help let us know. I know the feeling of just needing to 'feel' pg again. It is a longing that we all have. Some of us for a very long time. I pray you both get your healthy bean !!! If your HCG levels are below 5 then it will read a negative on a hpt. Of it is above then you can get a false positive. That is why they want to do a blood test...they will take your hcg levels and then do them again a couple days later. If you are pg then they should ATLEAST double every other day. That means you are pg. Sometimes they dont quite double but things could still be fine. And sometimes they triple. SO it is different for everyone. JEWLZ..... As for your friend...there can be alot of reasons. Her dr should do an u/s with saline to see if there is any left over tissue ( which is a typical cause of levels remaining the same) and also for scar tissue. Or it could just be that her body is taking longer to get back to normal. I am sorry for your friends loss also. ANJ31.... Ectopic pgs are tough, I am sorry you lost your baby and one of your tubes. I dont blame you for being extra cautious. Being pg is so hard for us that have lost so much. I pray for a healthy positive for both you ladies !!! And all my other ladies on here as well. LIS....Love you girl...it is mine and my hubby;s 5 yr anni this fall and he has mentioned maybe going somewhere. But honestly I dont see it happening. Carson will be one this summer and it will be hard to find someone to watch our kids. I just need a bit of break. But its ok if I dont. We are also finishing our landscaping this year and our basement...so we have enough to keep our hands full. Plus school !!!! So I may just have to seetle with dreaming about one someday !!! Besides...it may be to hard for me to leave Carson quite yet.OK...going to go watch Lost on the computer and catch up. Hope you all have wonderful news tomorrow and healthy babies !!!

Hi all, well the results are in and im not pregnant. it was the hormones still in my system from the last pregnancy. i think i knew that it was negitive...i just wanted to hold on to the possibility that i might finally get to be pregnant. I have waited for so long and everything seems to be against me. I have been told that i should get my period within a week or so then things will go back to normal..whats that??? it just so hard to get up in the mornings sometime and people tend to be there for you when it happens, then forget and get on with there lives. I just want to goi back to being happy. sorry for the sob story...just needed to vent. must get to work now. ill keep you all posted.xxxx

Ok I'm happy to say that I finally started my first cycle last night. In a way I'm really relieved that I did and wasn't pregnant. I know my body needs to build back up to be able to carry somewhat safely (more so to ease my mind a little). We will be TTC around the 19-20th of this month so cross fingers and hopefully things go well and I have a little bundle of joy soon. I'm really glad I found this site and have women to talk to that have gone through the same thing as I have. It's hard to talk to others that haven't gone through this experience. I wish nobody had to honestly. Thanks so much ladies. *crosses fingers*

Wow, a lot can happen in 24 hours! JEWLZ and ANJ3131 - I am so sorry to hear about your losses, but I am glad that you also have found this site. I have drawn immense support from the ladies here, and they have answered my questions about things that no one else understands. Please feel free to vent here. We have all done it. Then, in a few months, we can all celebrate together too.

I am really glad that you have both gone to have blood work done. That is really the only way to answer the questions about hcg levels after a miscarriage. I pride myself on being low maintenance, but I have given that up in this area. If I have a question, I call my doctor. Even if he did get tired of me, he is very compassionate, and wouldn't let me know. Having a good doctor is so important. I even went to the ER recently. The initial bill came, and I almost fell over, but I was so afraid that something was seriously wrong, that it was worth it to go.

Which reminds me, CREATING, you'll have to let me know how the procedure is for getting your tubes tied. I am considering it after this pregnancy. (I'll be 34, still young in the way I feel, but probably done with gestating.) It would be nice to be done with birth control. I'll certainly have met my deductible this year!

LISA - When will you be testing again? I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

SHELLY - I can't believe you are doing renovations and going to school with a child less than a year old in your house! You are my hero.

As for me, I am still paranoid. I have felt remarkably better in the last few days, which has me worried. I still have heartburn and mild nausea a few times a day, which I keep telling myself is a pregnancy symptom because I don't feel this way when I am not pregnant, but because of the way I miscarried, I just still worry. I get so frustrated when I search on the web for information and people say, 'As long as you aren't cramping or bleeding, things are fine.' That was not my experience. We went in for a check-up and there was no heartbeat on an ultrasound. There had been no development for 3 weeks, and I didn't know. Then, I went another week before the D&C and still no bleeding! At this point, I wish I could convince my doctor to do an ultrasound every week so I could know everything is ok. I haven't asked, but I have thought about it. I am 9 weeks today. I have seen the heartbeat twice this time, and once was after the date we lost the baby last time, which did make me feel better, but I am back to my old level of worry since my symptoms are lessening. Last time, my placenta was apparently still growing, so the continuing sickness and expanding waistline really made me think everything was ok. I had no clue. I don't have the massive headache and high blood sugar that I had with the last loss, so that is keeping me slightly sane.

I would really love your opinion on something. My next appointment is scheduled for May 27 (I'll be 11w 6d). We are leaving for Disney World on May 29 (the due date for the baby I miscarried). Here is where my paranoia comes in. What if something is wrong again? I will not want to have surgery and then hop in the car for a family vacation. I could not go and let my 7 year old go with her grandparents. Or, I could reschedule my appointment for the week before, and that way have time to recover if necessary. (Isn't this completely ridiculous logic? I can't believe myself, to be honest.)

If I reschedule for the week before, will the dr. be able to hear the heartbeat with a doppler? (I should be nearly 11 weeks.) That is basically what I need for reassurance - to hear the heartbeat.

Feel free to laugh at my paranoia. I agree that I am ridiculous. I asked my husband this question, and he wasn't sure what to do. He understands my concern and is trying to appease a crazy pregnant lady. I need more informed opinions.

Thank you all! I apologize for the ridiculously long post.

Happy Thursday girls! JEWLZ: I am glad you sound so positive about your results, yes its disappointing, but there is a reason for everything. As hard as it is sometimes to accept, I promise you that when you have your little bundle in your arms, you are going to know that waiting for him/her made it even better and this tough road we have all traveled will make us better mothers! (I have my fingers and toes crossed for you girl!)ANJ3131- I am so sorry your test results showed negative. But don't give up hope - you are going through a really tough time right now but I promise you it will get easier - time really does heal, it wont ever go away and sometimes it stings you at the most random times, I think for me anyway the hardest part is that no-one really understands, our hubby's can try but they have no idea how it feels when you lose something that your body was growing. I have found so much comfort on this board (and so many new friends!), I hope you find that comfort too. Sending you hugs and hopes that everyday gets a little easier. SHELLY: My anniv. is this month (6 years) and I want to go away even just for a night up to the coast or something, but we haven't booked anything yet so I am not sure if we will get to do anything. You will get your time to yourself eventually. Its like my mom was just telling me, you spend all those years when the kids are small running here and there and not having a moment to yourself and then you get to her age and you would give anything to have that back, she said her house is just big and empty now and her and my dad miss us terribly everyday (and my brother and I have been gone for years)... I try to remember that when I get stressed. Although I only have one child and he is pretty independent I can't imagine having more than that! Your my hero too! CHRYS: I am still waiting for fertilityfriend to confirm O this month (I am on CD11), so testing in a few weeks. I feel so good about my chances this month we are trying to BD every other day until O is confirmed. Ok I say we because obviously it takes two... but DH has no idea when I O or any of that. I hear so many stories about the pressure it can put on men so even though he knows we are trying, he knows nothing about my cycle, but lucky for me he is an easy mark if you know what I mean. I haven't been turned down yet! Have you thought about getting a home doppler so you can hear the heartbeat? I know they aren't fool proof as I have heard both good and bad about them, I guess its a personal choice, but it might be just the thing to set you mind at ease. I understand your fears, but I just know this is your keeper. Like Shelly said before, we all have lost our innocence, which we can't get back. I dont think your the least bit crazy for thinking about your trip. We have all learned you can't count on anything with pregnancy. I say go earlier so you can set your mind at ease for the trip. Ask for a u/s so you can see the heartbeat - will your dr. do that? Then you can go to Disney and be free from worry for a little bit - ok you might still worry but at least you will leave knowing that everything is fine. I wish you happy days! Ok girls, I tend to babble alot - sorry about that. Talk to you all soon! Much love - LISA

Hello ladies...first I need to share some very wonderful news. For those of you that remember Jourdan ( ie. MrsHath) she is allowing me to tell you all that she is almost 14 weeks pg !!!! She has lost 3 babies and this is her 4th pg. She had some bleeding and some scares but baby is very strong and healthy hb so far !!! She will find out the sex ( provided baby cooperates) in 3 weeks. After all she has gone through..she deserves this healthy bean !! ANJ3....it took me a few weeks to start feeling any sort of happiness again. And even then it was minimal. It will come..give yourself some time. As for everyone else....they cant begin to understand how you feel unless they went through it also. And most women are naive about it unless they have. JEWLZ...I am glad you got your first af...now you can focus on ttc again and bding in a couple weeks. Do you track your cycle...your 'o'?? LISA]...I dont know about hero...but thanks for the compliment. I think I have jest learned to juggle so much. I cant wait for dh and I to have some alone time together...I just dont know when it will happen. I hope you and your dh get yours...especially since if you have a baby you will need it. !!! OK ladies...off to dance for me, actually for dd...I am just the chauffeur. !! NICE !! have a wonderful day ladies !!