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I started trying to have a baby 5 years ago. My husband and I were both 29 years old. I didn't get pregnant for an entire year so I consulted a fertility specialist. He did the standard tests and diagnosed us as "unexplained infertility". We did 2 failed IUI's, 1 failed IVF, and 1 ZIFT IVF that resulted in a pregnancy, but I miscarried at 10 weeks. The miscarriage was natural, but I kept bleeding for 2 months afterwards, which turned out to be an incomplete miscarriage. I had to have a D&C anyways. After the miscarriage, I was so heartbroken and I decided to take a break from the shots, hormones, and all the artificial reproductive medicine. I started seeing an acupuncturist who specializes in infertility. To my surprise, I got pregnant naturally only 3 months later! I had morning sickness, my beta HCG numbers were extremely high.... it felt like a miracle! Unfortunately pregnancy #2 turned out to be a blighted ovum and I had another D&C the day after Christmas in 2006. I started seeing several new doctors, one of them was a highly recommended fertility specialist. He did a miscarriage panel on me and found I have the MTHFR mutation. I started on Heparin shots (blood thinner), got pregnant again, but miscarried at 5 weeks. 4 months later I got pregnant again while on the Heparin, and miscarried at 6.5 weeks. Finally my doctor suggested doing a hysteroscopy. I had done several saline ultrasounds and a hystosalpinogram, which showed I had a small 2 inch fibroid, but all the doctors said it was small and far enough away from my uterine lining. When the RE did the hysteroscopy, he found the fibroid was distorting the shape of my uterus. Fibroids are rarely the cause of miscarriages so I had a tough decision to make. Two months later (november 2007), I had the fibroid removed via abdominal myomectamy. It took me several months to recover from the surgery, and I was still doing the blood thinner shots. But in August of 2008, I found out I was pregnant for my 5th time.... and in April 2009 I had a baby girl! It took me 5 years to finally have a baby to hold in my arms, but it DID happen, even though I was so convinced that I would never have a baby of my own. I know it is so difficult to believe it will happen for you too.... but YOU WILL GET TO THE OTHER SIDE!!! Please, have faith in your body, do your own research, and empower yourself. I went through 5 different doctors - two OB's, two fertility specialists, and 1 fetal-maternal specialist - before I found one who helped me. It's like you are climbing Mt. Everest and something keeps knocking you down...you have to keep climbing... and you will eventually make it to the top. I went through failed IVF's, 4 miscarriages, had to struggle for 4 years before I finally had my baby girl. Please...don't give up!!!

Hi, I will post my story here as well...it's hard to remember all of the details now but basically starting with a somewhat unplanned pregnancy in 2005 which I miscarried at 6 weeks (reasons unknown) I became obsessed with wanting to have a baby. Back then the timing was not right so it was all put on hold for a while. When I became pregnant again (and I always fell pregnant VERY easily) it was later in 2006 and that pregnancy showed a heartbeat but the baby measure 2 weeks behind from the start (and I knew when I ovulated due to charting and temping) so when I went to a scan at 11ish weeks there was no heartbeat and I passed the baby naturally not long after. Path reports didn't show much. After that it all sometimes becomes a blur, but I did find out that I had MTHFR as well, and was put on folic acid , baby aspirin and vitamins. I had 3 (if not more) chemical pregnancies after this amongst another loss at about 8 weeks. That time I did not go to the dr. until 8 weeks and they did an ultrasound to find the baby measured 5 weeks and there was no heartbeat. That time the path reports showed a trisomy 2 which is really rare and is incompatible with life. I was of course devastated. In all of this I started researching here, online and in books. I had 2 OBs, 2 perinatologists and also did acupuncture and went to a naturalpath. Eventually in October of 2007 when I really was ready for a break (I know, that 's what I always heard) I got pregnant once again and got the positive test 2 days before I was scheduled to see a fertility specialist at a university hospital about 3 hours from me. We took the trip and that morning before my appt. I woke to red blood and was hysterical when I went in to see him. He was wonderful and met with me for almost 2 hours while I cried for a lot of it. I had gotten copies of ALL of my medical records for the past 5 years or so and brought them along with a detailed document I typed up of what I'd gone through, dates, etc. what I'd been tested for and what I had heard I could be tested for. He took me seriously and we got a plan right away. I was started on progesterone high dose that day and kept on with my other protocol of vitamins, baby aspirin, etc. Then I went for my first u/s at 6 weeks it was good and again at 8 weeks. Then I got scared and asked to be on the Lovenox blood thinner since I had the MTHFR and he said yes to the lowest dose. I started the shots at 8 weeks and had a perfect pregnancy delivering my daughter late actually. She will be 1 year old in 2 weeks exactly. It happens, and I remember my OB telling me after that last loss to just not give up. I've been on this board for a long time now and I've seen MORE women than not go on to have babies . Cases where I thought that person would never have a baby after so many losses and tries and they all did. I spent hours on here reading everyone's stories and it comforted me. I met jademaiden (who posted this thread) on here and we really helped each other so much. I owe my daughter to her in part because she researched a lot too and gave me tons of ideas I'd never have come up with alone. Anyways, I don't know what worked exactly, how or why but something did. Maybe it was just luck or it could have been the meds or the acupuncture who knows, but I'm really glad I found this site.

I fond this board back in early '06. I had just had my 2nd m/c and was devastated. My dh and I had tried to get pregnant in late '05 and had lost that baby. I had seen the doctor and was told after a couple months it was fine to try again. In Feb of'06 I got pregnant a 2nd time. I was a little nervous but told myself that everything would be fine. I mean what were the chances of it happening again? You read all the time about how common a m/c is but you don't hear about how common multiple m/c's are. For 3 weeks I was thrilled and over the moon, excited about this new little baby that I already loved. And then it happened -again. I was devastated. For the 1st week all I could do was cry. For the 1st month I cried multiple times a day. For the 1st 3 months I cried multiple times a week. It was hard. Probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Not only did I have the pain of loosing the pregnancy but the fear that perhaps I would never be able to have a child. In July of '06 I found out for the 3rd time that we were once again expecting. It was never racking. I was terrified that every time I went to the bathroom there was going to be blood. I was terrified at every doc's apt (until I got far enough along to feel her moving), that they wouldn't fine a heart beat and she'd be gone. I made the doc give me a really early u/s (6w's) and had them check my HCG and progesterone levels. I was an emotional wreck. However, despite my worried and my 2 back to back m/c's all was fine. My dd was born a healthy 7lbs 12oz at 1 day short of her due date, April 4th '07. It was amazing. I have sense gone on to have another dd born July of'08 w/o any problems. Both pregnancies went great. Although I had a lot of physical pain w/ my 1st pregnancy and was physically sick through out most of it, and then had pregnancy related depression during my 2nd dd's pregnancy, medically both of the pregnancies themselves have gone great. My dd's are lovely healthy children and PROOF to all that even after consecutive m/c's you can go on to have healthy wonderful children.
I found out after my m/c's that 2 m/c's are not that uncommon. I can list at least a 1/2 doz ppl who have said to me in the last couple yrs "Oh, you had 2m/c's? I did too." All these ppl have children and all these ppl were just ppl who in passing it some how came up. How many more ppl are there out there who I know, that it's just never come up, but who have also suffered m/c's? I'm sure the number is not low. So to all the girls who are going through this, know that a m/c doesn't mean the end of your chance at having children. They are so so common. Don't give up hope. You can go on to have a baby, and in almost all cases you will. You are not alone. Many women have been where you are. As one who has been there please take my word when I say, you're babies that you lost will never be replaces and you will always have a scar from their loss, but it does heal. It wont always hurt the way it does now. Give it time. Allow yourself to cry and grieve. You'll get through this and the chances are that you will one day hold a child, who can never replace the one you lost but who you will love just as much and who is your baby in your arms. Hugs and prayers for all. There is hope!