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Hi Girls.... I am gonna have to admit something.... all this talk about bellies and seeing cons pictures is definetly stirring the urges in me to ttc again. And EVERYONE keeps asking me when are we gonna have our second and not to wait too long. The thing is, I don't know if we could afford the daycare costs of 2 kids at the same time..... and there is no way I could stay home and we still afford the mortgage and our lifestyles..... so I guess I am gonna have to wait. DH and I have been talking though and we are thinking about waiting 1 more year (so next January) and then going back to the RE and starting to ttc again. By then Nathan will be 2 and it might take a while to get pregnant anyhow (given my track record), so we figure we have to only do about a year of double daycare costs which isn't too bad. This of course makes me feel really excited that in a year from now, we could be ttc'ing again :) . I decided to use some of my vacation days (since I have about weeks saved up) and stay home today to just tidy the house and of course play with Nathan. He wasn't feeling too well (cough and runny nose) so I thought he could use his mommy today..... and then I'm not due to go back to work until the weekend and I'm doing Nights, so that gives us the whole week to play :) I can't believe the changes he has gone through in the last 3 weeks.... it's like he went from my little baby to a toddler over night. Oh I also forgot.... we went for his 1 year appt to the doctor and got his shots.... he didn't handle them too badly. However his weight is only 21.4 lbs and his height is 29inches..... which puts him in the 25th percentile for his group!! I know the doctor said he was healthy, but I just don't know what more to do. He eats A LOT but is just sooooo active he burns it all off. I feel like maybe I am not feeding him enough good foods, since right now he only wants finger foods and is refusing certain veggies. ( he only wants to eat broccolli and potatoes right now)....makes me feel a bit like a crappy mommy. Mia, I know Aiden was small too, how much did he weigh at 1?

As for Facebook.... I think I now have almost everyone.... even Jazzee.... so now I just am waiting to get Lynn...... are you planning on signing up? It really is a lot easier :)
Kiza, I hope you are feeling okay after your doctors appt. I hope you heal quickly :)
Cons, I'm glad the Breast feeding is going well, enjoy every minute, since I am sure you remember how quickly they grow up.
Allie.... how much longer till you start ttc'ing? I think I am gonna do what you did and try to use this next year to get in better shape.... which reminds me, Jess, how did the yoga go?
okay girls Nathan just woke up, gotta run.
ttyl,
Liezel <3

Hi girls. Denise, I know you're right. I should mention it to my doctor at my next appointment. Were you on the meds for long? And does stress during the pregnancy really contribute to your chances of having issues after the birth? If that's the case, then I can see why I did have a hard time. That pregnancy was so stressful. Wonderful, but scary and stressful too. Of course, I'm super-stressed about a million things this time too, so that's not good. Waggz, I added you as a friend. Now I think I just need Lynn. Liezel, thanks for starting the new thread. Don't worry about Nathan's weight. At Mira's 1 year appointment she wasn't even 20 pounds yet. And I want to say she was 29 inches. (I have it written down, but can't remember right now.) Same thing for her - she's just super active so she burns it all off. Our pedi reccommended a bedtime snack, as that's the only time she won't burn it right off. Maybe you could try that? You are not a crappy mom at all. You just have a healthy, active little boy! As for the yoga, it sucked. LOL. I did half the tape, and it was slow and boring. It was also hard to hold those stretches. And then last night my hips were KILLING me all night. They've been pretty good prior to this. So... I don't know. I may keep it up for a week or so and see if it gets any better, but I may just try something else. Any suggestions for something I can do while huge that's more fun than yoga? :) Ok, I've got to go find my planner. It has EVERYTHING written in it (including Mira's heights and weights, now that I think about it!) and I can't find it. I'm so afraid I left it somewhere. I've looked just about everywhere here and am having no luck. :( So the search continues...

Liezel, at Mira's 12 month (which was actually at 13 months because we had to reschedule) she was only 19lbs 7oz and was 29 3/4 in tall. I had that one on a growth chart online. Still no planner. :)

Hi Girls...Liezel - Im with you. All of the talking of bellies and babies, especially all of the feelings that everyone is describing of experiencing number 2 really makes me want to try again as well but I know that we cant afford it...and honestly, I dont think I could handle another one right now as it is. Things feel so hectic. We have pretty much decided that we would think about it when Aidan is 4 so we wont have two in daycare. Hopefully my biological clock will still be ticking then :-) Aidan was a little over 19 lbs when he turned one and he is only in the 5th percentile on his weight. He really is tiny...he eats a ton but just doesnt really put on baby fat. I wouldnt worry about Nathan. He looks so healthy and happy. I am actually surprised that he was so light, he doesnt look small in his pics at all...maybe its the cheeks :-) I added you on facebook as well and you have made me realize, I better get crackin on taking some pics. Denise - I also had depression after having Aidan and some anxiety. I konw I was that crazy mother at first. It took so much to get him here that I was terrified and probably slightly overcautious at first. I think that is normal for women who have gone through the losses that we have. I do wish we all lived closer as well...we should start working on planning that get together we used to talk about. Jess - I wouldnt put too much into your experience with your friends baby. It will be different when you are mommy and you are the one he is crying for. Kiza - I hope it cools down soon and that your back is ok. Waggz - cant wait to see your belly shots. I still post on piczo but havent since the end of the year. I will go post some christmas pics tonight. Big hello to everyone...I need to go do my 30 minute workout then back to work. Im making another attempt at losing weight...Allie - I may need some coaching from you :-)

Liezel, thanks for starting the new thread and for the lovely words you wrote. Please don't think you are not doing a good enough job with Nathan. That little boy looks as healthy as can be in his photos, perfect little boy. I hate, I mean HATE that whole percentile crap that they do. If your kid is not over 50 then Mothers automatically think their kid is too small. It is totally based on charting from the 1930's or something. They have to take into account the genetics of family etc. I don't care how much a kid eats they can still remain small due to their genetic makeup. So don't worry about all that junk. Jess, I stayed on the meds for about 6 mths. I do believe that the fear I felt throughout the pregnancy added to it, it's only natural. I am a anxious person by nature so that doesn't help. But that's who I am and I just have to face it. It won't change over night but I bet this time around knowing what to expect it will be that much easier. First time Mothers just don't know what to expect, it is like a shock to the system so even the strongest of people can feel overwhelmed. So I am hoping that now that we know how tough it can be and we are not going in with rose colored spectacles that it will be easier this time around. Wagzzy can't wait to see your belly shots, I need to get some photos on also. My friend who is a photographer wants to take some pregnancy photos for me so I have them to cherish. She may do them over the next couple of weeks. Mico, don't worry you still have time even when Aidan is 4. Look at me I'm 40 in June!!!! yikes.

thanks Girls.... you always know how to make me feel better. I know deep down that Nathan is perfectly healthy and fine, it just throws me a little when the doctor says that he is small. And trust me, I know the pictures make him look big, but I do believe the saying goes.... that the camera adds 10lbs...LOL
Anyhow his chubby cheeks and thighs throw people off too.... that is where he carries half his weight...LOL
So girls, I am so excited because we bought a new washer and dryer and they are being delivered today.... I am either getting old or I am way uncool to be excited over this...LOL
Denise, you really give me hope that I still have TONS of time for my second little one.... but then again I figure you are only as old as you feel and I'm sure you don't feel your real age, I know you definetly don't look it :)
okay girls gotta run, gotta make my little man some lunch :)
ttyl, Liezel
p.s. I wrote to you all on FB to give you Jazzee's info as per her request..... so now you can all add her as well.
Come on Lynn.... we are still waiting on you :)

Hey guys! I haven't written in forever.....thanks for the comments about my good friend who is pregnant with twins. She had good news last week and nothing has gotten worse, so she's still plugging away being pregnant. Both babies are still healthy, the boy is just very very small....but so far, so good. I am still working a losing weight. IT's so hard. I want to TTC in March!!!!!!!!!!! SO I have two months!!!!!! I'm really hungry, but am trying to really cut back. Jess, don't worry about your exercise, you'll be fine! Also, I've struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life. That's why I didn't stay on our thread when I was pregnant with Rachel and missed all that time with you guys!!! I just couldn't bear to see the words "pregnancy loss-miscarriage" everytime I logged in. So my husband banned me from the internet because I was so scared my whole pregnancy. I have way more to talk about guys, but will wait until I have a little more time. I need to tidy up a bit before piano students come! See ya soon!

Hi girls! Liezel don't worry about nathan, he sure looks good to me! But I know what you mean, it's the one time in life you want to hear large instead of small, but he certainly looks good to me. Well girls it's day 9 for is here and still so far so good. Matthew hasn't noticed a change yet, although Dj goes back to work next week so it might be more obvious then. But newborns sleep so much so I am usually able to spend loads of time with matthew anyway. I have absolutely no routine this time.. With matthew I had a half routine but this time round it's too hard. So when he cries, I feed him, when he's awake I carry him around with me and when he yawns I wrap him and it's off to bed. This isn't too hard with matthew, it's only when I'm feeding but if I feed in Matthews room I can read him books and play with his toys with my other hand. So it's MUCH less stressful than I was preparing myself for. So don't stress too much jess, having the two littlies is, so far, not that out of control. Denise you don't have long at all!! I wish we could throw you a shower!! Tomorrow I am taking 'the kids' to mandurah to visit my parents.. It's a 40 minute train trip followed by a 15 minute bus ride (cause I can't drive after a c-sec whatta crok) but I am kinda excited. Be nice to escape the house (and husband lol). Xx

Hey girls, glad you are all well, Cons you are one brave mumma, catching a train with 2 little ones only 10 days after surgery, take it easy girl, you still need to heal. Glad all is working well though.--------------Liezel, had to laugh about you getting excited over your washer & dryer, Yep it's official, we are getting older LOL.---------------Denise, are you starting to get nervous yet? It's so not long now, I miss being pregnant.----------Allie so glad your friends babies are hanging in there, thats good news, keep up the good work with the weight loss.-------------Well I hope everyone else is travelling well. My boys have gone fishing for the night, my girls are staying at my mum's so I have my precious princess all to myself & I'm loving it. She only has to make the slightest sound & my 8 yr old picks her up, she always has her in her bedroom, she thinks she is a real doll, she even gets her up in the mornings & changes her nappy ( wet & dirty ) then plays with her for an hour or so before she brings her into me to feed, I don't think I have been out of bed before 9.30am since the holidays started. I'm going to be stuffed when they go back in a couple of weeks. Plus I think Mia will notice the difference of not having a house full of people waiting to pick her up,she'll have to learn to be patient again LOL!. Anyways, goodnight from me, TTYLxxxxxxxxxx

HI girls, I am so sorry for being MIA. Work is crazy and laptop is acting up. Ok I need to get on facebook, how does it work. I need to see Wesley! and to keep up with you ladies. I am clueless about facebook so update me ladies and I will join asap. Liezel don't worry about Nathan's weight, I am with all the ladies percentiles don't mean anything as long as babies are healthy and growing. As for healthy eating I am not the best mom to ask for that,lol, ava loves to snack and I am always giving her finger foods, mostly gerber snacks she loves those crunchies. I started making some of her meals and i moosh alot of veggies into one meal but she is getting wise to that and prefers her flavors separate. Picky eater already. Ava hasn't had her one year shot yet because she has been sick and now I can't get an appoinment until the 30th so I will let you ladies know what her growth rate is then, she usually in line with peyton. Which reminds me Cer how are you? Mico can I join you on the weight loss train? Ugh I didn't make any new years resolutions but I will see what I can do to better myself,lol. Cons can you email me a pick of wesley before I join facebook? I am dying to see him! Big hello to all the ladies! ttyl ghost whisperer is on

Just a quick post to let you know I finally put some belly shots up on facebook. It really is so much easier to put them on there. Lynn, it's really easy to sign up. Just enter your info and you're in. Then search for us as your friends, and send a friend request. It's pretty simple. Ok girls, hope everyone is doing well. I'll post more tomorrow. xxx

Hi Girls, what a busy weekend i had. It was Kians 7th B-day yesterday so we had a bunch of kids (14) plus parents at the ice rink for a party. Kids had a blast and so did the parents!! I could not go on the ice so I got to sit back and laugh at everyone falling down. Kian had a blast and got tons of great gifts. I am sooooooo glad I did not do it at home it was worth the money to have someone else do it plus the kids had a much better time. So in regards to the infamous shower of mine LOL my friends called me last week and said they want to throw me a shower on Feb. 22nd. Now keep in mind that one of them knew my Sister had pretty much bailed on me so they kindly offered. So wait till you hear this.... my friend asks if Feb. 22nd is good for me and I say sure, keep in mind I am due March 12th so I will only have three weeks left (if I make it). My sister is going to brazil with work from Feb 14th to 27th which she used as her excuse "in so many words" not to do anything for me. So I realize that she will not be here on the 22nd and basically decide to go ahead with that date anyway. It will be difficult to do anything before the 14th (which is when she leaves) so I really do not have a option. So my firend tells her yesterday that she is throwing a shower for me, I did not know she toild her. So she calls me this morning all ticked off saying "how dare my friends throw a shower for me without checking with her first to see if she would be available"!!!!! can you believe it????????? so I came right out and said well you had told me on numerous occasions that you were having a shower for me and then you never said anything again so I assumed you changed your mind. So her response was "well I don't recall ever saying that, in fact it never ever entered my mind to have a shower for you" Now talk about a double insult!!! I just could not believe it. Oh shoot I have to continue this story later, someone at my door.....to be continued.

Okay I am back. So yeah she pretty much lied and said she NEVER said she would have a shower for me. THen she says "I am your only sister over here" duh? yep you are all the more reason you could have organized something. I swear I was stuck to the floor with her. She then asks me why can we not do it when she comes back (27th) which it would have to be done on March 1st, 11 days from my due date. I'm like ummm don't ye think that is pushing a bit close for me. So I sat back and thought about it today and have decided to move it to March 1st if my friends can do it. It's just not worth the hassle of feeling bad or guilty that she is not there. I am willing to take the chance that I could go beforehand. If I don't move it she will just portray me as the bad one who "left her out". I am so tired of my family right now I could pull my hair out. I am the youngest of 8 so my whole life I have been the servant to them all and if I step out of line they can't handle it. My dh gets so mad..furious actually. He was so happy I confronted her today, he has been so disgusted by her behavior with me. Ah well, hope you enjoyed the saga!!!

Hey Denise, you poor love. I think you are mad to change it to fit in with her. Stuff her is what I say. ( sorry but family shits me off aswell ). I think by keeping it as it is, & telling her AGAIN WHY, she might start to rethink her attitude towards the was she treats you. YOU!!!!!!! are the important one here, it's all about YOU & YOUR BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is your time to feel special, even more so with all the heartache endured over the years. Stand tall girl & don't look back you are a strong woman & if her toes get stepped on by that, well so be it. You do what you need to for you & your family ( DH & DS ) it will sort itself eventually, you are carrying such precious cargo, please think about yourself right now. You know we all love you. xxxxxxxx

Ahh Kiza, thanks so much..............man I need you over here to sort her out, I know you could take her down , LOL.
Well I did move it to March 1st, but it actually was the best thing to do. Now the ball is in my court as she will have to go and look bad in front everyone and she CAN"T portray me as the bad one. Like my firend said, if I go beforehand she will have something after. This actually makes me feel much better, my Sis can be very dangerous so she is kinda cornered now. Man this all sounds so evil, my family is nuts I tell ye. But I really appreciate all your support and wish we all lived closer. It's just nice to vent with you guys and get your opinions, so Thank you!!

Hello girls. Denise - let me start by saying that Im glad you are surrounded by good friends who are there to support you and celebrate your pregnancy. It is great that she volunteered to throw the shower and is being flexible with the time. It is unfortunate that you sister has behaved the way she has but dont let her and whatever her issue is take away from the joy of your pregnancy and the love and support of the friends who have come through for you. Does your doctor think you may go early? LB - it would be great to have another diet buddy. I have been sticking to a very strict diet over the last week. Cut out all simple carbs, sugar, bread pasta and have been trying to excercise about 30 min a day and so far Im down 8 lbs :-) I know that most of that is water weight but its always nice to see the scale move a bit. Jess - You look great. You always carry so perfectly. How are you doing with names? Cons - you are amazing. After having a c-sec you are already traveling with your two bubs...brave girl. Kiza - that is so sweet that your daughter has taken to Mia as she has and what a big help. When do they go back to school? Well girls my baby is officially a big boy. He has started putting words together and is such a strong willed little boy. Im thinking he may be hitting the terrible twos a little early though...he has been Mr. Independent lately and throws fits whenever he gets frustrated or doesnt want me to do something for him. Does anyone elses toddler behave that way. The first few temper tantrums he threw really caught me off guard, but now I just let him go through the motions and when he is done he goes back to his normal delightful self. Dh and I are planning a vacation and I cant wait. Im really looking forward to some time away. The grandmas are going to be splitting the week caring for Aidan. This will be my mom's first time for more than a few hours so it will be interesting to see how this goes. Well back to work as usual. I hope everyone is doing well. ttyl.