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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a very difficult thing to go through, and what you are feeling is normal. I felt the same way after my miscarriage. I felt utterly and completely useless. And like a failure to myself and my husband. I feel much better now. Time helped me to deal with my loss and to try to move on. We may never know why this happened to us, but you can know that this was not your fault. It happens much more frequently than most people realize. My doctor told me AT LEAST 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. She said that was probably an underestimate. So please don't blame yourself. Give yourself plenty of time to heal, and take care of yourself...

Hi muslimah, I am sorry for your loss and that you are going through this difficult time. Your miscarriage was definately not your fault . JessC531 is right - about 1 in 4 pregnancies end up in miscarriage. It is very common but not something you hear about a lot until it happens to you. It is nature and there was nothing you could do to prevent it. If you click on the link on the left that says pregnancy loss there is information about miscarriage. You are allowed to cry - you are suffering a loss. Take care of yourself and rest. The ladies on this forum are great for advise and support and to listen. xx xx

I had my miscarriage only a few days ago (on the 23rd) and I, too, was at around 5 weeks. You feel like a big failure, like you're some horrible person thats being punished or maybe just not good enough to have a baby... but thats not true. Allah (Or God, fate, whatever you believe in) wants you to have a perfect child. For whatever reason, a defect happened in our perfect babies that would make them unable to survive. God is trying to spare us a greater heartache. It still hurts, though. Take time to mourn for your loss and to heal from it. Don't lose hope, because like they said, many women experience miscarriages, but there is no reason to believe that you will never be blessed with a child. When you do have one, you will make a wonderful and loving mother because of the hardships you had to undergo to get to that point.

Hey muslimah, It's not your fault. M/c is just one of those things that happen, and no one has any control over it. I know it's difficult and that you are in pain, but know that it is not your fault and you are not being punished. It just happens. It's part of living in this imperfect world. Just give yourself time to heal and don't blame yourself. It's going to take time for you to feel better but eventually you will. I have had 2 m/c and I know how your feeling, and while you will never forget your baby and it will probably be with you for the rest of your life, you will eventually not feel so agree or hurt. It's normal right now though to feel those things. It's normal to wonder if "maybe I did something?" But you didn't. It's normal to wonder if God is punishing you. But He's not. It's normal to feel jealousy of those who have healthy happy babies and pregnancies. But you wont always feel like you hate those who have a baby. And it's normal to feel like crying. Please allow yourself to cry -you need to. You need to cry and scream and get your emotions out. You can't keep them locked inside, it's not healthy. So, try to let yourself grieve. Don't blame yourself and know that this is nothing that you did, it just happens...Give yourself time and one day you will be blessed with that baby you so want. Hugs and Prayers.

Thank you all so much for your good words and advice. it has helped tremendously I do not feel so alone anymore knowing that many other women have gone through this. my thoughts and prayers are with you all. thank you again. I shall keep you updated if I get any good news in the future. since reading your replies I have been able to express my emotions and begin to understand. Allah and the good prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) are with you all. Many thanks once again. xx

as salamu alaikum, dear muslimah i too had a miscarriage and felt exactly the same as you but please do not give up hope and faith in Allah (swt). you are not to blame for anything it is something beyond our control you will be rewared for your patience if not now but in the hereafter inshallah