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no sorry no advice on how 2 cope every1 is different and copes differently.i had 2 termanate my luke at 20wks as he had a large cyst on the brain.no 1 can say ewt to heal you or make you feel betta.you r in urown rights to b moody,upset,angry and a right bitch.!!!i miss my baby so much and would do if i was 20wks or2 weeks! my fella understands its so much different 4 us girls but we still argue but its normal dont beat yourself up just vent yourself go mad fight n scream...he sould still b there 4 u when yr finished.if hes not then goodbye!!sorry 2 b so blunt but thats wot i told my bf an he still ere.just b strong an remember what will b will b.xxx

sorry i just said terminate! i gave birth to my little boy,an just because we diddnt c the colour of theire eyes or hear them cry dosent make them anyless human.xx

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, i also miscarried at 9 weeks about a week and a half ago and i totally understand what your going through. We already had names picked out, bought a heap of baby things, our baby was already loved so much as I'm sure yours was too, it doesnt matter how far along you are when you miscarry the pain is still the same.

You have every right to be upset and angry I am too but everyone deals with these things differently, guys tend to block it out and pretend nothings happened but it doesnt mean they're not hurting too they just have a different way of showing it.

I hope you and your boyfriend are able to work through it together, try not to push each other away cos you probably need each other more than ever in order to work through it. x x x

Hi,I lost my baby on July25th and it seemed like everyone I talked to were not understanding the way I felt.I do not think I have gotten through the pain but I have decided to take it one day at a time.My partner is so wonderful,the day I came from hospital bearing the confirmation that we had lost the baby,he was there and he is just the best thing that has happened to me.I still cannot bear the thought of being in the same room as a mother with a baby,and it has been made so hard by the fact that my colleague whom we share an office with,is also expecting and our EDDs are in the same month,it is quite painful to see her so excited about her pregnancy,while mine is no longer there.even writing this has just brought tears to my eyes.I miss my baby,I miss the feeling of knowing that he is there,he was only 7wks but I spoke with him every single day from the time I knew I was pregnant.
I hope it does get better,coz this pain of having something so precious taken away from you,is one that I cannot even put into words.

PS:Sorry for babbling,but it is comforting to know that am not alone in this.

Lynn,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It is the hardest thing. The only comfort is that i have talked with so many women that have lost their first pregnancy and then gone on to have healthy babies soon afterward. I know that doesn't replace the baby that we have all lost, and many people don't understand our loss and think we should be able to get over it quickly. I'm having a hard time understanding why this happened but I just need to have faith that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
As far as being around pregnant women/ infants, it is hard and i think its natural for it to be hard because it is a reminder of what we lost/should have. I'm not really sure how to deal with these feelings either.

Amy,
Thank you very much,it is so nice to know,someone understands what am going through.I have found that it actually gets better with time,it is only the times when you see baby clothes or hear the sound of a baby crying......but we all need to take it one day at a time.

YES,YOU ALL ARE SO VERY RIGHT WE JUST HAVE TO HAVE FAITH AND REMEMBER TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS,ITS DOESNT REPLACE OUR LITTLE ANGELS BUT IT WILL HELP US WITH OUR UPCOMING CHALLENGES.JUST BE PATIENT WITH UR MAN,THEY DEAL WITH THINGS SO MUCH DIFFERENTLY THEN WE DO AS WOMEN.I LOST MY DAUGHTER ON AUG 3,2009 I WAS 24WEEKS.IAM STILL DEALING WITH MY LOST AS WELL AS MY BF,BUT WITHOUT HIM I REALLY DONT KNOW WHERE I WOULD BE RIGHT NOW,HES MY BACKBONE SO JUST GIVE HIM & URSELF TIME.THE LOVE & JOY YOU ALL ONCES HAD WILL RETURN IAM SURE HE STILL LOVES U JUST AS MUCH..GOD BLESS YOU.....& IT GETS BETTER