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2 posts on this thread and the last post was on June 28th, 2007 8:21 PM
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cnasmom - June 27th, 2007 8:21 PM
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I spotted 3 weeks ago at 6 w and 4 days, but i saw a good strong heartbeat so the doc was encouraged. well monday i had this awful feeling pass over me and yesterday i spotted just a bit, so i called the doc and had some blood work done, and went in today for an u/s. they said my hcg was very encouraging very high. well she did the regular ultrasound, and i said i didn't see the heartbeat neither did she, so she did it vaginally and still no heartbeat. i cried. the baby was measuring 9 weeks and 3 days, and i was 9 weeks and 5 days. i was devestated. friday i am scheduled for a d&c cuz i am not bleeding or spotting now. but they are going to do an ultrasound agian before that. is there any chance that the baby could still be alive??? i know it probably isn't i didn't see or hear a heartbeat, but i can't lose all hope. i should be thankful i have 2 beautiful healthy babies at home, but i am still so crushed.


Tory1980 - June 28th, 2007 3:15 PM

I am sorry to destroy your hope but I would very much doubt it if they couldn't find a heart beat from either scan. This happened to me in January at 14w4d with baby measuring 11w3d. It was my second miscarriage but I have three healthy children at home. I was devasted, as I am sure you are and although thankful for the kids I just felt like a complete failure and that my body ahd let me down. I went through phases of not wanting the kids near me at ll and then needing to have them beside me all the time. It gets easier but even now there is days when it hits me like a physical blow. Take each day as it comes and I do hope for your sake it is good news on Friday. Take care.

cnasmom - June 28th, 2007 8:21 PM

thank you so much for your kindness. this is the most awful thing that can happen to anyone. mine was only measuring 2 days shy of what i really was, and last time it wasmeasuring a couple days shy. so my poor baby had just passed. this is so hard, andi am terrified about tomorrow. i have the d&c tomorrow. its scary knowing i will no longer be pregnant. i know how you feel about the kids tho, i have been losing my temper so easy since yesterday, i know its not their fault, they are just babies, 2 and 15 months. but its still hard to have to cope with this.