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Medical Termination At 20weeks!!

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 15th, 2009 3:38 PM
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leah86 - August 9th, 2009 5:45 PM
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to try and cut my story short...my little boy had a large cyst on the brain an the consultant confirmed he would be v handicap.i was induced and gave birth at 20wks.I'm devastated.i had v low risk triple test and I'm only 23 and have a healthy 7 yr old boy so this was v unexpected.I'm finding it very hard to justify what Ive done even though i know he wouldn't of had a good chance in life,unable to walk eat talk etc.im trying to cope with my guilt aswell as my grief.i hope when the results come back from my placenta that the chances of this happening again are nil.the doctor said most cases like this usually end in early miscarriage,unfortunately my Luke stayed put.we held a small funeral and hes here with me now.i want the pain to stop and hopefully try again.it seems like a life time away at the moment...so much for cutting my story short,i had to vent.xoxo

gbsmom - August 10th, 2009 11:12 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of your very sad situation. One of my college roomates had a similar story, and she eventually found post-abortion counseling really helpful, although she couldn't do it right away. She found, though, that she actually felt worse talking to a "prochoice" support group, surprisingly, since they sort of denied that her child was really a person, and she ended up feeling better talking to "prolifers" who acknowledged her pain and loss, rather than trying to minimize it. I hope that helps, and again, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and I wish you the best in recovering.

jaa - August 11th, 2009 1:40 PM

Leah, I hate to say anything to add to your pain, but for the protection of your doctor's future patients, I have to tell you that the choroid plexus cyst, in the absence of other markers usually means NOTHING. I only tell you this so that you can see if you have a case against your doctor and if so, you can prevent him from pushing termination on someone else. I just can't believe he said your baby would be handicapped or miscarry on his own, when there is actually a 90-some percent chance that his body would absorb the cyst as he continued developing NORMALLY. Like I said, I am really sorry to add to your pain, but your doctor needs to be stopped!!! Let us know what you find, and what happens with that doctor. Best wishes to you and your family, and please please please find a new doctor for your next baby!

SashaP - August 15th, 2009 3:38 PM

Leah I had to do the same thing 4 wks ago. I too had a little boy, we found out when I was 15 wks that he had an encephlacele. He had no chance of having any quality of life if he even survived the pregnancy. It is the worst feeling to have to decide your childs fate. I know we made the right choice but it doesn't make it any easier. We had already lost 4 pregnancies before Carter so this was a kick in the gut. The test results came back yesterday and he didn't have any syndrome associated with the encephlacele so the genetic counsler said we had a 99% chance this would not happen again. We were told to start taking 4 mg of folic acid daily for prevention. Have they suggested anything like that? Again I'm very sorry for your loss. Do mind me asking if you held him at all for closure? I held Carter for over an hour and it really helped the healing process. Good luck and I hope you get some answers.