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i`m also in that age group (44) I had my first pregnancy and first miscarriage, just over a week ago. The strange thing is that I was never really nuts about having a baby, and with no oppertunity (no partner) never really thouht about it. Now I have a lovely younger man who is mad about kids and now I wanted to try, and thought hey if this works -good- if not, then fine. But then I got pregnant and I was happy about it (nurvous because of my age, but happy) then the miscarraige. Very sad but also aware that nature was at work here. All that leads to the fact that now I REALLY want a baby and I wonder if its really me thinking this, or the hormones messing with me. Anyway I`ve been talking to alot of ladies at a similar age and who have all had successful pregnancies and it seems to be that although there are some things that we are at a higher risk for, we can still do it if we really look after ourselves. I mean good nutrition and excercise. And if it would make your whole family happy to have a new addition I say why not? Nature has a way of looking after everything and 43 isn`t as old now as it used to be, if you understand my drift?

felt heaps better after reading your answer because I to was wondering if it was my hormones playing tricks because I had sort of came to termw with the fact that we wouldn't have any more. so I went from shock, panic, to disappoinment to depressed trying to think what to do next all the in space of 2 weeks. think also,well in my case anyway people haven't been as supportive or understanding 1. due to my age and 2. because of my son so that has also been hard. thinks I will give it another go for a couple of months because I wonder if I don't if I will always down the round regret not trying. please let me know how you get on.

Alison: No one can tell a woman if she should try or not try. It's just something you feel inside. If you feel healthy, then why not try again? You can make a deal with DH that if you miscarry again, then maybe you guys will think about not trying again after that. But I don't see the harm in trying one more time. If a miscarriage should happen, just prepare yourself for that. But on the flip side, should you carry to term and deliver, then it's all worth it.

Glad I could help a little, Alison. I`m going to wait for one or two cycles before we try agian. I have a wonderful support from my acupuncturist. I know this sounds very alternative and I`m not a `new age` kind of person, but she has helped me alot with this and other health issues. A misscarrage does put a bit of stress on the body and she suggests that I give my body a chance to build up again. It is still amazing how well the body does its thing. I didn`t need a D&C and stoped spoting after 1week. So I`m doing better than some women younger than I am. I`m quite optimistic although I will be a little more hesitant to make plans,It would be hard to deal with another miscarrage but after reading a few other forums I see that this a normal response after a miscarrage. I hope you get what you want. Look after yourself.

let ur self have a normal period and try again. i did and now i am 18 weeks now.

jamima can I ask what age you are? I have started to take the low dose asprin , anything is worth a try and will try for a couple of months and that way I can never regret not trying. still got a very slight discharge which makes me think my periods will never come!

just reread my first thread and I think I have chopped the beginning off LOL trying hard to be positive