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Hello!
This same thing happened to me. Well, i was in your daughter's boat. I was 18 when my mother got pregnant with my little sister. I am 19 now, and my little sister was born a few months ago. At first, I was really upset and a little confused. I am excited to be a mother myself, so the anger and frustration i had at first turned to excitment because I would get experience helping with a newborn. I have learned a lot from my baby sister and the shock i had at first is longgg gone! So basically, just give her some time! And hopefully, like my situation, this newborn will actually bring your family closer together like it did mine :-)
I hope this helped!

My father was 50 when I was born. He lived until he was 83 and died when I was 33. My mother unfortunately, died way too early - when she was 63. I was only 28. So at 28 I lost Mom and at 33 I lost Dad. That's very young to lose parents. But I've never once been sorry that I was born or felt that my parents had somehow been "unfair" to me by having me so late in life. I never felt cheated either when it came to my parents' ability to do things with me because of their age. I think for the most part you should just quit worrying about that part of it. I say "for the most part" because the one thing I AM conscious of because of how early I lost my parents is the things they never had a chance to teach me. So if I were to have a late-in-life baby (I'm trying) I think I'd keep a journal or something of "life lessons and miscellaneous tidbits" that I think are really important to pass on...just in case I forget or don't get to it or get hit by a bus or something.

Regarding the loss of freedom - believe me, I understand completely. I don't think you should feel guilty about having those feelings. I think they're valid. From what I've read, a lot of older moms find creative ways to give up less liberty than they did earlier, while still giving the child what he/she needs. I feel some of the same concerns and I'm deliberately TRYING to get pregnant. I don't have any words of wisdom for you on that one. I wish I could help more. If you decide you want this baby, I hope it's "sticky" one. Good Luck.

Hey Aspen how is it going. I haven't been on in such a very long time just been real busy at work. I know what you mean about losing your parents at such a young age I lost both my parents at the age of 28 9 months apart and today is my daddy's anniverssary. Both of my parents died at the age of 53 and like you I didn't feel cheated. It is never a day that goes by that I don't think about them or think of some of the funny things that happened when I was growing up. You have to fill me in on what has been going on. I do have some good news I now only owe $150.00 and I have a surgery date of November 24, 2009 and I have to do all the pre-op stuff on November 18, 2009. I so nervous and scared at the same time but I am also happy because this is going to tell me one way or another if I will be able to have another baby. This cycle I have been taking it real easy not even thinking too much about anything I let my VIP expire on fertility friend and I take my temp when I remember and guess what I didn't even use any opk this time around. I am on cd18/4dpo and just waiting to start my cycle so I can start taking birth control pills that way I can have the surgery after my cd6-12. I will keep you posted. Talk to you soon and I miss you. Krissy