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one of the mistakes i made when i was younger was to think i knew what someone else really wanted. i made huge assumptions about other people all the time forgetting myself as the projector. if bf is giving you information & you don't believe him what does that tell you about you? you can turn this into a very long drama or nip yourself in the bud. it took many years of therapy to start turning around. read all you can on co-dependancy. single motherhood has huge pros & marriage has huge cons. best of luck.

I believe iampg is right. Also the best thing is to concentrate on your baby and yourself. It could be the responsibility that has him behaving this way. Give him some space and time and if he doesn't come around just accept going on without him. It would be ideal if he could be a part of your childs life in some way, but he has to come to that decision on his own. Good luck.

My concern is what kind of partner and father is he going to be if he is trying to bail out of his responsibility NOW!!
Even if he sticks around for the birth, when is he going to decide, Hey this is hard, I didnt want this to begin with""?
He is telling you something that you need to listen too...and believe what he is saying. Then if you decide to keep this guy around, dont be surprised by his future actions, because the past is the best predictor for future actions.
I suggest you at least start thinking of Plan B...gather support from your family, WIC, Social Services...etc...so that you can be prepared to do this on your own should you need to.
You could find it very empowering...difficult..but empowering.

I agree with everything these women have said. If he keeps breaking up with you, that should have been a HUGE warning sign to you that the relationship is volitle, unstable, and that a child should not be brought into the mix. He doesn't sound like a keeper anyway. Do you really want to be with someone who is selfish enough to deny the fact that he even fathered this baby? You may think you love him, but if you repeat to yourself all the negative aspects of this person, and not his few positives, then you just might wake up and see things for what they really are. He sounds like he has some growing up to do.