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Oh, Maggie. I am sorry you have to go through this. I do think you are right to see a counselor about it. Have you asked your husband to attend with you? Maybe marriage counseling would be good for you two. I hope things get better, and I hope your pregnancy gets a little easier.

HEy maggie. Sorry you are having to go through this. Me and DH are on baby #2. OUr son is 16 months. We had a talk the other day because I told him he needed to be more helpful and sweet to me. I was telling him how nice all the expecting dad's are on baby story and those type of shows...lol. I made him feel kinda bad. He has been alot better since we talked. I think counseling is great though. I would love to have it sometimes. It seems like it would help sort out your thoughts. Goodluck and keep us posted!!

Thanks ladies. I will eventually ask him to go with me to counseling, but I'm not ready for that yet. I have issues that I need to work out for myself first. I hope that doesn't come off as selfish, but I have a tendency to get really bad postpartum depression and I want to start getting help now so that I don't fall into a serious depression when the baby comes. I know that I will not be breastfeeding so my OB is giving me Zoloft to start taking about 3 days after I give birth. I'm trying to be as proactive as I can be, but its hard because I've never had to worry about the state of marriage before. My dh and I have had a relationship that all my friends envied. Maybe we put each other on a pedestal. I just want to make sure that my feelings toward him right now are not just because of stress and anger, because as we all know we can do a lot of damage in a moments anger. I'm really scared that if I don't start dealing now it will effect my babies, and I can't have that.

That stinks, really..... my hubby is not as involved with the appointments as the first time either, but as far as helping I can not complain at all. I think as far as the excitement goes nothing is ever going to match the first time you were pregnant with his child. Maybe he thinks since this is #3 your a pro and don't need as much help?!?!? I wish I could say keep a tally of the things you do during the day and that he does....but knowing men you'd probably just insult him. Aww I'm really sorry!!! :{

maybe you should ask him to come to conseling with you!

I agree he needs to go with you to counseling! From the sounds of it, he isn't even aware of how upset you are and how he could change a few small things to make a big impact on how you are feeling!

I think that before you go with something like counseling, maybe you should just try telling him flat out how you feel. You can't get anywhere without talking and sharing the fact that he is hurting your feelings, he could not even really realize that he's doing it.

This sounds very similar to the men are from mars, women are from venus scenario. We sometimes come from different planets! This is very common complaint among marriages. The man not putting enough initiative, well honestly I think they can be just plain lazy about things that are important to us sometimes. Like household chores and communication, being more sensitive to our needs. These are all things I think quite a few relationships go through.

Sounds so familiar and I don't have two kids yet. Nice to feel like I'm not alone. Hormones definitely play a role, but you are right on this one. If you can get him to go with you to counseling so there is a third party involved that would help bigtime!