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First things first, I have been a member of this site for over 3 years now, and one BIG thing I have learned about the teen pregnancy link is 95% of it is children lying to get attention, they will even lie about being pregnant, making up bogus claims and stories to get attention. I dont understand it, i guess they lack attention at home and that is one of the ways they try to make up for it, but just know that most of what you read there is fake. For the 5% that is real, its coming from teens who have just as bad a life as their kids will have, and the vicious cycle will continute. They long for something to love, and something to love them unconditionall y, and a child seems to be the answer they all come up with... its not logical but remember you are dealing with teens who dont fully understand the ramifications of their actions... and their emotions and hormones are still all messed up and wrong. And sadly yes kids are having sex younger and younger.... it goes down younger than 14...and thats scary but its from parents being "too busy" to create relationships with their kids where they actually TALK to eachother...Now my mother was anything but a good parent, but she did make sure I understood sex and its consequences and she always wanted me to come talk to her when i thought I was ready, now had we had a better relationship maybe I would have, but the fact that we didn't kept me from telling her...which makes me STRIVE to have a better relationship with my daughter (and soon to be second daughter) so that indeed they will be open and honest with me... Im not saying its foul proof or that i can guarentee that they will, but I will feel better knowing I tried.

The awful truth is that most parents are too consumed with their ownselves that they dont take the FULL amount of time required to show ther children the affection and attention they crave...which is why kids are "rebelling" and trying to be "adults" way too soon...these kids have been left to manage their own feeling and they feel that since they have been left to "parent" themselves that they are indeed ready to be adults, and what makes you more of an adult than having your own child to care for? Its not logical, its irrational but its the truth and sadly no amountof "talking" to these girls now will help... its a lost cause if you try to convience them they aren't ready, because you will get the same answer from all of them, that they are different that you dont understand, they aren't like everyother 16 year old trying to have a baby, believe me when I first joined this site, I tried and it doesn't work, and it just upsets you more...so i have learned to stay away from the teenboard to keep my stress down... its the way our society is going, and honestly i dont see it being able to be changed...i will do the best with my girls, and raise them how i feel best, but i cant change how all the other parents around me do...so i know i can't change how their children will grow up, and its sad yes...but a waste of energy and time to get too worked up over... some people just weren't meant to have kids, yet we can't change that now.... i must commend your mom for hving such a brilliant idea...i do think i shall borrow that... when the time comes to show my girls what having a baby is REALLY like, since on tv they dont express to you the stress of worrying NONstop...the lack of sleep.... and just how endless it all is...cuz at the end of the day, it really isn't the end of the day for a mommy now is it? Its a 24 hour job...lol... and tv never shows you that... its not always blissful and happy and babies dont always smile and coo, they cry, they get sick and it worries you to death... they need CONSTANT attention, and kids these days dont get that...its like having a kid in a stroller at the mall is the new "in thing" but unlike the other "in things" you can't just put a baby in the back of your closet when your "over it" but they dont get that...and sadly most times their parents end up raising the child instead... (and did those teen grls ever ask their parents if they wanted to have to raise ANOTHER child, to start back at square one??) im not saying having kids is a bad thing, but once your children are grown or reach a certian age and you are done having children, doesn't that constitute you the right NOT to have to raise your own grandchild as your own??? (just a pet peeve of mine) i mean they had their kids they raised them and now its time for them again, and yet they have to start all over because of something their child did, (some girls that get pregnant it is an accident NOT on purpose and i dont attribute bad parenting to that, just a lack of attention that the girls crave hence why they seek out having sex because they feel it is love and attention...) GRRRRR and yet i have 2 girls (one here and one on the way) and i get to worry through all this when the time comes!!! (what are the boys telling them, what are thir friends telling them, do they understand that sex is JUST that sex, not love not attention not the answer!! (lol this is why my husband said we would of had less to worry about had we had boys LOL)

But i get where yu are coming from, and i feel the same.... its just where things are going now days...and i fear we cannot change "the world" just make sure our kids dont fall into it as well... and if for some strange reason they do, know that we tried EVERYTHING to prevent it... because your right tv glamourizes sex and kids... all the stars are having babies.... and all the shows now show how sex is so great and terrific... (not saying sex isn't but it shouldnt seem so MAGICAL on regular tv) I rmember being in chool and all the girls would tlak about not being virgins, and i would lie and say i wasn't either (the sad part i was 11 saying i wasnt and so were all the other girls) it was already "glamourized" in 6th grade to us... and peer pressure was pretty bad... so its coming from EVERYwhere!!

Sorry to ramble on...

I agree. Makes you po'd that there are millions of women out there who CAN'T have children and are grieving b/c of it and then there's these floosy teen girls who just take this precious gift from God and play around with it like its nothing. The way our (men & women's) reproductive systems work is absolutely amazing. Most people don't even realize the power they hold just being a fertile human. And guys?? Absolutely clueless when it comes to what's inside their semen. They just think its so fun. Do they have a clue?? No. Up to 150million sperm to make a baby. And they just let it go cuz it "feels good" Whatever. Teens these days. I agree with you wholeheartedly.

Well said Tish!! I agree with you 100 percent!! It just blowed my mind when I read some of the stuff in there. I hope with all my heart most of those girls are just looking for attention and not really wanting to make babies!! You would think parents would know about the programs that monitor what web sites their kids are going to and then question them why they are getting on a site like this. I was on the problems getting pregnant board for a long time and it can break your heart. Ughhh it really just makes me so sick for the poor little ones that are affected by bad choices.