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Hi Kaeli...I have a slightly different story but thought I would share anyway. My sister-in-law had a brother who passed away and she wants to carry on the family name as well as does my brother. I think they are going to use her last name as the baby's middle name and then use his last name for the last name. Not sure if that would work or not for you. Also, some cultures use both parents names, you could hyphenate it.

Then he should've made it your last name too. I think the baby should have your last name since you will be the caregiver, if you get married then you can change the baby's name along with yours.

Usually the baby carries the fathers name and if you plan to stay together i would say his last name. Or give you baby both last names.

Tell your boyfriend to go through labour for god only knows how many hours and then he can name the baby whataver he wants. Tell him how important it is to be a family with this child that you carried for nine months.

I, personally, would want the baby to have the dad's last name. I personally do - since I'm not married. We are engaged and it is up in the air as to when we will wed. There is so much stress and so much going on right now to come up with a wedding and I don't want to wed with a basketball stomach staring out at everyone, so I have my doubts as to wedding before the baby's born. I have no doubt that he will have his dad's last name, though. I just personally hate that I may not have the same name. But it is definitely a personal decision that you and he must decide. Best of luck to ya.

Give the baby your name. I had a friend in the same situation and her and her boyfriend ended up not getting married and eventually broke up and the baby has his name.

My oldest son has his dad's name. We did not marry. I married someone else an dhad m ore kids. I did not cause any problems for me for my son to have his dads last name. I am pregnant now and engaged and I think I will give her her fathers lasst name also. I am not interested in paying $500 to change her name after I marry.

What if you were already married? Would you give your child your husbands last name? So what's the difference now.
I think you should give your child your boyfriends last name.

Kaeli, I am in a very similar situation. As the father and I have been together for 2 years OFF and ON... and now that I am pregnant, he's being very demanding about choices when it comes to the baby. AND, if i do not comply, he's threatened to get a lawyer... over this. EVEN just the last name. So, I dont know what rights I have, but someone told me the last name has to be agreed upon. Which will make it a little more confusing. At this current time we arent really seeing each other, and he doesnt contribute to the pregnancy(as far as the baby is concerned). He calls... thats it. So, *sigh*, I have more than one decision. If any one has any suggestions here either, let me know, or where to find "laws" and rights of the birth mother.

I know here where i live they make you watch a video and sign to agree on the last name. Normally you do give the baby the fathers lastname. Then if you breakup, the baby still carrys the fathers name thats just kinda how it goes. I know my mother was married to my father and then divorced him but she did not have my name changed when she re-married. My hubby is hispanic and they take the mother maiden name, and the fathers and hyphen it like others mentioned it. Fathers last name going first and mothers last. To look something like Javier Ivan Roman -Rodriquez. Just an idea! Good luck!

Dani, that's how I'm doing it. My son will be named Isaiah William Cabrera-Smith

I think the baby should carry on his fathers name, he is the father and did have a huge part in it also. Also, you dont want the child growing up and people wondering why him and his daddy have a different name. Even though you are the one taking him places (like every other mother also does) Hes still the daddy and always will be and its because of him that you will be blessed with your child. Goodluck in whatever you may choose

I'm in a similar situation, except the father and I aren't together anymore. I've decided that since I AM the mother, and a single mother, the baby will have my last name until I'm married. I'd feel the same way if we were still together. As long as my last name stays the same, my child will have it.

Wow, thank you everyone for all of your comments. Seems I am not the only one in this situation. And of course all of us seem to be split down the middle as to which name he should have, which doesnt suprise me. But everyone has a valid point for their way of thinking, so I guess it just comes down to choosing... And that is the hard part. Again thank you to everyone who responded, I really do appreciate it, and I will keep you informed as to what we decide! Good luck to everyone!