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Well I think its good that your worrying about something like this instead of pondering and stressing all the possible things that can go wrong. You are on the right track. Well, to tell the truth, I never really thought to much about what your worried about. I figured everyone came and visited in the hospital the first few days, and that was it. Hum. Well tell them you don't want company. The should call before they come over so make sure its only 1 or 2 visitors at a time. Good luck!

Hi I think your hubby should tell her (as its his mother) that when you come out from the hospital you both need time to adjust and bond as a family, the 3 of you and the dog! Also explain that trying to get into a routine is very important for a baby (some people beleive this theory some dont, but its a good excuse if you dont want company) so its essential to set up appropiate times for visiting, and you must know in advance, also you'll be expecting alot of visitors and just coz shes the gran doesnt mean she can hog all the visiting time!
Good Luck!

I agree with Gemini - have your husband breaks the news that you guys both don't really want company - especially unannounced - your mother in law sounds like mine personality wise she does drive and has been known to show up unannounced so my husband will be laying down the law with her before the baby is born - I have an idea also that I am going to try....I will mention how I watch the baby shows on tv like baby story etc. and that I think it's so rude when all of these people smother the new family. hopefully she will get the hint. She used to be a nurse in the post delivery department and always used to comment that people get too many visitors in the hospital so...just an idea I am going to mention the baby shows all I can so that he sinks into her thick skull. Good luck

I hadn't thought about this but you are sooo right. I am the type of person that is very honest with people and I would sit her down and tell her the truth. Have your husband there with you if that would make it a lil easier, but lay down the rules ahead of time. Believe me, she will listen because she won't want to miss seeing the baby when she is welcome to come over. Good luck and I'm sure evrything will work out.

It actually is important that you all get to spend time with each other without disturbance after coming home for adjustment, so don't worry about this being a needless concern, you're on the right track. :) Make sure you let everyone know ahead of time that you want to be left alone for a few days, and don't just tell them once - remind them every couple of weeks so there's less chance of them forgetting. Then when the day comes if anyone shows up stick by your decision and don't let them "bully" you! How you do this is up to you, probably the most polite thing to do would be to have your DH inform them at the door/on the phone that you don't want to be disturbed for a few days. I'm a little less tactful... I fully plan on locking the door and ignoring both it and the phone, lol. :P

I'd probably worry about the same things, luckily we live far enough away from family that they will probably come visit for a day or two and then leave. Noone will be dropping by daily at all. I actually am thinking of having my mom come stay with us the first week to help me out as I'm pretty nervous about handling it all by myself and my bf will be 10 times more clueless than I am already, lol :)

oh wow! I can really relate to your situation. My meddling mother in law tends to be the same way. With our last baby, he's 3 now, my husband had to have a talk with her and let her know that it isn't anything against her but that we needed to bond as a family unit. She took it for what it was worth... but I sense she always thinks it's me who told her son what to say. But whatever. She acts like a "normal" mother in law... whatever that is. =)