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Hi - i've actually ran out of places to turn to for advice. So i'm hoping a forum can help me find out whether i'm alone in this situation or has anyone ever experienced this :
i gave birth to my son 3 years ago. it was a vaginal birth, but my son had to be vacuumed out. i also had episiotomy as a result. the birthing was relatively pain free as i had epidural, but recovery was very hard for me. i had postpartum blues, where i would cry every evening for the next 2 weeks. my girly bits still felt tender even after 60 days postpartum.
it took a long time for me to even feel like having sex again, and when we did try we found out that my husband was unable to penetrate me. this didn't really bother us much because between juggling a baby, a demanding job, and housework, we were both pretty exhausted. our baby also woke up regularly at night for feedings for the next 2 years.
now my baby is 3 and starting to be independent. my husband and i feel that we should try again for another baby. problem is, i can't seem to get him inside me. :( we've used lubricants, foreplay, etc. i even tried taking pain killers before sex in hopes that it would numb the pain. it didn't work.
i was a virgin when we got married and it took us a few attempts before he could finally penetrate me - but it was never as painful.
i don't know what to do. i want to get pregnant, but if i can't seem to get my husband inside me, what are my chances? :(
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