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IM ASKING THE SAME QUESTION..I'M 33 AND I JUST HAD AN ABORTION..IM WONDERING HOW SOON CAN YOU BECOME PREGNANT AGAIN???

As a christian and personally knowing the love of God and His forgiveness we should be reaching out to women in these situations. I wish someone had reached out to me when I needed it. I became pregnant as a teenager in a private school. I had the baby but was expelled and treated horribly by the church. Thanks to "christians" with the same attitude (not all have the same attitude) as your own about women in this situation I turned from God for many years. I ended up pregnant again a year later. I aborted my baby. A couple years after that I was raped by someone I called a friend and had my second abortion. Speaking from experience having been in three very different situations and now married and ready to begin a new family; don't think for one second that these women don't feel pain or remorse. The ones who want to become pregnant again and can't, like myself, understand and are living with their regrets every day.

Nice job of trying to make Ty feel guilty. If you read her post properly, you would see that her child was not able to live outside of her womb therefore giving birth would not have allowed her child to live "for awhile" as you said. Considering that her baby had kidney cancer, I don't think it was living very peacfully and pain-free in the womb, either. Having an abortion was her choice and likely one that she did not want to make. So please do not make her feel guilty over something that was difficult for her to go through.

Im not making her feel guilty. I simply asked a question. I mean if it was my baby I would atleast want to see it. But thats my choice. I was just curious, and if you re-read my post you would find that it was just that...A Question. I'm sorry for the few who had a m/c and lost their babies I too have been there, but NEVER have I got an abortion.

you should not come on here speaking badly of people who have had abortions for medical reason ! maybe you would want to see your kid but as you can see it was not your child . people on here dont need your unsupportive attitude , they feel bad enough as it is . to upset

I can not believe the nerve of "upset" obviously you have lived a sheltered life with no hardships, trauma, or neglect from family. For those of us who have we have had to make very painful decisions. I had an abortion one year and 5 months ago. I am now 11 weeks pregnant. I was on birth control at the time of conception; but thrilled when i found out i was pregnant. I thought like "Upset" and thought that God would punish me for ever and never again bless me with a baby. Guess what "Upset" MY GOD IS A LOVING AND FORGIVING GOD.I don't know about yours. I did not and still do not condone abortions; I SWORE I WOULD NEVER DO THAT. I hated myself, I had nightmares, I can still hear the sound of the D&C machine in my head. I can still hear my own sobs apologizing to my baby and God the entire time. Ladies-do not give up hope. Just remember that God does not give us more than we can handle. Keep your heads up. We will punish ourselves over abortions forever, when God has already forgiven us. Two or more abortions I'm sorry, but that's a whole other matter. To me that using it as birth control; that is WRONG. That is all- "Upset", maybe you should find a different site to spit your uneducated jibberish out to. These women don't need to hear it. As you said it is your opinion, Opinions are like assholes everyone has one, share yours with people who would care to hear it.

there is nothing you can say to me that I have not already said to myself, so you are not hurting me by what you say. The reason behind the decision I made is none of your business. That is between me and GOD. And since you are not remotely close to that then....... and as far as the pictures, yes I have seen them. I was 7 weeks when I had the procedure done. I was miserable before I had it done and felt worse afterward. Hence; there is nothing you can say to make me feel worse. For everyone else.... Be patient. As I said in my last entry, God forgives. You will be blessed. You must look at it like that this time though. It is a blessing. Don't let close-minded ignorant people like one we have with us now upset you into believing otherwise. If you still have heartache over what you've done, it's because you have yet to forgive yourself, God will forgive you as soon as you ask. "Upset" You are a very shallow, close-minded, ignorant individual. You really should take your opinion elsewhere. For anyone considering abortion.............Don't do it unless there truly is no other option for you. It will haunt you for the rest of your days. In your sleep, when you are awake. Take it from someone who knows and was/is there. The baby I am carrying now does not take the pain I feel for my other baby away. A new baby will not make you forget. Nor will it make the pain go away.
Good luck to All!

very well said in the last entry i think you have spoken for a lot of people out there . could not have said it better myself .

I just have an abortion a week ago, it was a hard decision with me and my husband, we have struggle for 3 mths to come out with the decision, now I've done it, regret and empty. I worried I couldn't get pregnant again? How soon am I physically fit to start trying again?thks!

This is for all the ignorant people who have come to this web site spitting out ignorant slurs to women who feel bad enough without any outside help. I have already submitted to replys under different names- ladies a word of advice; take it for what its worth. Coming from someone who has been there. If you just had the procedure done a week ago, you have not give yourself time to heal, mentally or physically and your body needs time for both. It had been about a year and 5 months before I got pregnant again. Getting pregnant was a very exciting time for me and my fiancee' because we fully regretted the decision right after having it done. But, this baby has not made the pain, nightmares, or regret go away. I thought that it would but it hasn't. To be honest, I hoped that it would. That was not why we got pregnant. Please make sure you are trying to get pregnant because this is what you truly want, not because you think it is what you need to get over the mistake you made. Because, please believe me it wont! I wish you all the best. And never mind what the brainless assholes are talking-------We all know what we did and we all know it wasn't right, that is why we have heartache and regret. Just remember; I said it before-GOD will forgive you as soon as you ask the key is allowing yourself to forgiveYOURSELF.
GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK

I just have a ab 2 weeks ago and now I worried whether will I able to be pregnant again? Will the ab have any side effect or done any damage to me. I totally regret and wish to get some advice

TO THOSE WONDERING ABOUT GETTING PREGNANT AGAIN-
after having an abortion your body is just as fertile as it would be if you had delivered. A friend of mine got pregnant three weeks after having an abortion. It was one year and five months for myself only because my boyfriend and I weren't ready to try again any sooner than that. Be patient, it will happen again. Just be sure that this is truly what you want and your not doing it just to make yourself feel better or to fill a void. Because, the sadness that you feel will not go away by trying to replace the baby you chose not to have. Trust me I know. I still cry for my other baby, I still have nightmares about the day I had the procedure done. God forgave me by blessing me with another baby, as I am sure he will do for you; just make sure it is what you want. Remember-you don't have to explain your actions to anyone if you don't want to. That is between you and God.

Who Are you to say there is no justification? Have you ever been raped? Buy a close blood relative? That is the shit that had me lost. I carried for six weeks. I could not live each day with the constant growing reminder of what was done to me. Do you know the consequences and possible birth defects of close blood relatives having intercourse? It's ignorant bitches like yourself that make life hard. You are so quick to judge before you even have all the facts. This is how I look at it - Being raped by my uncle is f**#!*!!justification!

People who are asking why someone wants to get pregnant again after just having an abortion, apparantly never had one and severly regretted it. Regret is a horrible feeling and to have an abortion and later feel empty and lost is a feeling that one should never go through. It is a feeling that cuts your heart out into a million pieces.So if someone wants to have a baby after an abortion then it is their choice. I am pregnant right now and due in a few weeks. I had an abortion a little over a year ago, and wish to God I didnt. Worst mistake I ever made. So yes you can get pregnant again. If you are really worried go see a doctor, like I did, and they will do a quick check to see if you are physically ok. Getting pregnant again brings up many emotional feelings about the previous abortion, so it is wise to talk to someone if you have guilty emotions about the past.

Thanks a lot on ur response and u just touch my heart. Looking at other meanful person's response, I just dun understand why they want to have all the criticizing. Yah, I totally regret on my decision and trust me, is a hard decision to made. And asking about whether can I get pregnant again got nothing to do with those people who say "why u ab when u want another children..."Of cos, I know I need time to heal for mentally and physically.And I will ask for GOD forgiven and I'll be patient till I know I'm ready to be a mom again. But other than this, of cos everyone that have went thru a painful decision like this wanted to know whether will one able to be pregnant again. Infact I have made appointment to have a post op check up just to check everything is fine and arrange counselling to help me thru this stage. To all those that keep condemning, please stop and listen.Everyone that come to this forum is with concious and regret of what they have done, so please dun judge. GOD will forgive and HE will mold them to a better person.Thanks to HOPE for giving ur sensitive advice as well. God bless!

I read all the above posts and it's filled with so much pain, my heart breaks. I want to say what Jesus would probably say, "Go forth and sin no more." Most of the women on this post regret what they have done and feel shame, loss and guilt. They don't feel this because the pro-lifers are harping on them..they feel like that because the Holy Spirit is touching their consciences. I just wish that every girl and woman who is planning to get an abortion would visit this post and see what she will experience after the ab. This is the kind of stuff that the abortionists don't tell women. One of my dearest friends also had an AB before she became Christian and she tells me exactly what all these women have said. She told me that not a day goes by that she doesn't think of her ab baby. And the other child that she did give birth too, does not stop the regret.
For all these women, there are only two ways to go. Accept Jesus Christ and his forgiveness and sin no more, or become bitter and angry and hardened. Also, you all must understand that what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You have a healthy conscience. Think of it like going through the death of a loved one. Only in this case, you are guilty also and need repentence to gain peace in your heart. (For those who want to write back and tell me that I am insensitive, don't bother. A person doesn't feel guilty if he/she didn't do something wrong.) I only repeat what these posters said. All of you now have an excellent opportunity to go out and tell young and older women of your experiences. You will meet people who are angry at what you have done and they may say things to you that will hurt. I just want you to know that they hurt for you and your babies so much that sometimes it seems that they want you to suffer the guilt and pain all your life. That's not really what they want. They just want you to admit that abortion is wrong and that it's never justified. I assure you that they are well meaning people. It sometimes seems like they just want to bring up your pain. Just as much as you want these people to understand you and your pain, that's how much they want you to understand their point of view.
I wish you all the best. May God help you see how to gain peace and how to minister to those who will be in tough situations in the future.