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I read all the above posts and it's filled with so much pain, my heart breaks. I want to say what Jesus would probably say, "Go forth and sin no more." Most of the women on this post regret what they have done and feel shame, loss and guilt. They don't feel this because the pro-lifers are harping on them..they feel like that because the Holy Spirit is touching their consciences. I just wish that every girl and woman who is planning to get an abortion would visit this post and see what she will experience after the ab. This is the kind of stuff that the abortionists don't tell women. One of my dearest friends also had an AB before she became Christian and she tells me exactly what all these women have said. She told me that not a day goes by that she doesn't think of her ab baby. And the other child that she did give birth too, does not stop the regret.
For all these women, there are only two ways to go. Accept Jesus Christ and his forgiveness and sin no more, or become bitter and angry and hardened. Also, you all must understand that what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You have a healthy conscience. Think of it like going through the death of a loved one. Only in this case, you are guilty also and need repentence to gain peace in your heart. (For those who want to write back and tell me that I am insensitive, don't bother. A person doesn't feel guilty if he/she didn't do something wrong.) I only repeat what these posters said. All of you now have an excellent opportunity to go out and tell young and older women of your experiences. You will meet people who are angry at what you have done and they may say things to you that will hurt. I just want you to know that they hurt for you and your babies so much that sometimes it seems that they want you to suffer the guilt and pain all your life. That's not really what they want. They just want you to admit that abortion is wrong and that it's never justified. I assure you that they are well meaning people. It sometimes seems like they just want to bring up your pain. Just as much as you want these people to understand you and your pain, that's how much they want you to understand their point of view.
I wish you all the best. May God help you see how to gain peace and how to minister to those who will be in tough situations in the future.

I don't understand how (nor will I ever) women who have never gone through what a women goes through after having an abortion have any right to judge. The one and only that can do this is not an earthly being; it is my GOD whom I have spent several hours a day talking to like many other women I am sure. I have begged for forgiveness from the two most important, I know I have been forgiven; afterall I can sleep at night again. Someone who has never experienced this will never be able to comprehend what a woman goes through leading up to making the decision, going through with it, then afterward. It is a life altering experience(for the worst)! What the pro-lifers need to realize while viewing this forum is that no one here is glad that they had it done; no one here is happily moved on with their lives; hence showing that they know what they did was wrong. All the women on this forum are filled with sadness and regret.Instead of being so blantly hateful and close-minded why not try to talk with sense to help the women who are so lost to find peace? What upsets me the most is the fact that the most hateful posts by pro-lifers are by those that constantly refer to GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have said before and I repeat- God is all knowing, all LOVING and all powerful. I don't know what GOD those of you who are so filled with anger worship; but my GOD is forgiving! Ask for forgiveness and you shall be healed! The women here are here for support- no one whom is an earthly being has the right nor the power to preach to anyone of condemnation. Something else that irritates me is the fact that one person had nerve to quote GOD in a hateful posting " God says thou shalt not kill" Well, GOD also says LOVE THY NEIGHBOR, DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU, LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE----------------------------- NO ONE ON THIS FORUM MEETS THAT CRITERIA SO WHO ARE YOU TO CALL OTHERS MURDERS AND TRY TO BREAK DOWN A WOMEN'S SELF IMAGE, SELF ESTEEM, SELF WORTH ? CONSIDER THIS!

i was 15 when i had an abortion .... and unfortinitly it went wrong i ended up in the hospital and almost bleed to death . and a few days ago i would have had a baby in my arms but i choose what i choose for me and not for anyone else i had a choice i had to make for me ..... people who have never had an abortion will never understand the pain we all go through the rude comments wont change anything we`ll always regreat it but sumtimes things are for the best my baby is better off now not having to go through life the way i have with all the difficluties ive had with my life parents and all that if anyways needs sum1 to talk to my e-mail is i_love_you_xo_always@hotmail.com
and i shall always love my baby .....!!!

Once again wanna thank you for sharing such a nice responce and hope this really let all the pro-life people realise what they have coz us and dun simply "mis-use" GOD's words to make other feel more bad. Just to share with u, I was strong christian when I was young, but once I was lost and that was at least 9-10years time that I havent come to GOD to pray or go to church. After this ab decisions, where both my husband and I was so hurt and guilty, we now again attend church service and pray together every nite. I thanks GOD for forgiving us and bring us back to church. It might be the most painful things in my life to get me turn back to GOD, but I knew, my future will be bright with GOD loves and blessing.

how soon can I get pregnant after an abortion?

Hey ladies, just wanted to let you know that abortions can indeed cause fertility problems. My understanding is that abortions can cause damage to the uterine walls making it difficult for a fetus to attach. I'm proud of you ladies who are looking to keep your little ones this time around but it is very sad that you had an abortion first. Just remember that this is your opportunity. You can be the greatest moms ever. I am a Christian as well, but I think learning from your mistakes is one of the best things humans can do. God's blessings and love on you ladies! I hope you are all safe and healthy and that your little ones fill your lives with joy!

I had an abortion 9 weeks ago and really regret doing it. It seems so easy to do, its afterwards that the pain starts. So to all you people on here who regret doing it and are pregnant again then good on you! I know people are saying what about the baby that you could have had but you have got to follow your heart and if its what you want then so be it. I regret my abortion and now i want a baby so much. We all make mistakes. You can only learn from your mistakes and i feel it makes you want to care so much for the baby you are having now. Dont listen to other people cos its your life and your choice!

I just had my first baby 7 months ago and I think that I'm already pregnant again! The thing is, my baby has MANY medical problems that we're in the prosses of diagnosing. It's VERY possible that it's genetic and I don't want to take the chance of passing it on to another child. Theres alot of pain seeing your baby go through so many tests at hospitals and have so many problems. We're stressed and worried...everything that we that have inside of us goes to our seven month old right now and I'm exausted...but don't get me wrong, I love my baby more than anything in the world and I'll keep going and going and going to give her everything that she needs, but I'm only 20 years old, my husband is 21 and we're just not ready to do this again and it wouldn't be fair to the next baby if it too has medical issues. My question for you is, CAN YOU HAVE AN ABORTION 7 MONTHS AFTER HAVING A BABY C-SECTION?

I had an abortion 2 years ago...I tryinga to get pregnant for 1 year no,,but no luck. help me please

after an abortion you are at your most fertile... you can get pregnant straight away although they advise you not to have sex for two weeks or to use tampons

HI
I had an abortion four months ago
Just recently I have been feeling abit guilty and thinking about what could of been and that if I decided to have the baby we could have made it work but its too late to turn back the clock but I'm not about to go out and get pregnant again for the sake of my guilt

I Have had 3 abortions, my last was about 8 motnhs ago and now I am pregnant again and keeping it. But yes i do worry about a miscarriage since it was less than a year ago but finger are crossed!

BUT i do have a question!! What are the chances of a miscarriage for someone that is now pregnant but had an abortion less than a year ago? Anyone have any personal stories?? Please help...I dont want to loose my baby and i'm worried...

I have no answer, I had an abortion against my will 13 years ago. I just started trying and I'm so scared i'm cursed

of course you will be absolutely fine. Please dont worry unless you get an infection, which can even be treated then. mI had an abortion 2 years ago at under 5 weeks pregnant, I was lucky enough to be able to take the abortion tablet. I then underwent counselling for a year as I was so worried I would never conceive again. I got married 3 months ago and am now nearly 2 months pregnant, we conceived the first try! Unless you had a problem after the abortion, you have nothing to worry about. Even if problems do occur it doesn't mean you wont be able to get pregnant. The reason why a lot of women dont get pregnant after an abortion is that there bodies are under to much stress and anxiety to conceive, so my advice is relax and it will happen, it did for me and I have been in that situation....good luck to all thoses ladies ttc

I am so pleased to have found this forum. Lateley I have been feeling really alone, thinking that i am uniquely experiencing certain feelings. I have have recently had an Abortion (7 weeks) My doctor had prescribed Mifepristone. However the medication did not work effectively and i had to be taken to hospital as there were still contents in my womb which had become septic, so then i had to go for an EVAC. I had tried to be strong when making that hard decision, and still im putting on this "strong" mask, people who know about what i had done think im fine, and sometimes i think im fine too. But essentially i know that im not. It has been little over 2 weeks since i have come out of hospital, the physical pain has dissappeared but my heart is so sore. I cry (when alone) quite a bit, and all i want is to have another baby. I feel so angry with myself at times, thinking that i actually had the opportunity. But honestly i had learnt a lot through this ordeal, and now my mindset has changed. I want a baby, and even if i have to manage alone, i will. I have learnt that my throughout my whole life i have been living a life all about "me" - unfortunately i had only realised this once i had found myself laying in a hospital bed. I no longer want to live alone, and not have anyone to care about. I want to have a baby because i believe that i can truely add value to his/her life, as would he/she to mine. About a week and a bit after i had come out of hospital, my partner and i had unprotected sex. i had done a pregnancy test the day after - showing positive. I called my GYNE explaining this to him, and he had said that it likely that it it is a new pregnancy. I am so happy, but also so nervous because its not for certain and i dont want to get my hopes up.
Abortion was the hardest decision i have ever had to make, and after reading through all the postings on this page, i just want to say that I respect every woman here. Thanks for standing together. I have found my new pillar of strenght.