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I am so pleased to have found this forum. Lateley I have been feeling really alone, thinking that i am uniquely experiencing certain feelings. I have have recently had an Abortion (7 weeks) My doctor had prescribed Mifepristone. However the medication did not work effectively and i had to be taken to hospital as there were still contents in my womb which had become septic, so then i had to go for an EVAC. I had tried to be strong when making that hard decision, and still im putting on this "strong" mask, people who know about what i had done think im fine, and sometimes i think im fine too. But essentially i know that im not. It has been little over 2 weeks since i have come out of hospital, the physical pain has dissappeared but my heart is so sore. I cry (when alone) quite a bit, and all i want is to have another baby. I feel so angry with myself at times, thinking that i actually had the opportunity. But honestly i had learnt a lot through this ordeal, and now my mindset has changed. I want a baby, and even if i have to manage alone, i will. I have learnt that my throughout my whole life i have been living a life all about "me" - unfortunately i had only realised this once i had found myself laying in a hospital bed. I no longer want to live alone, and not have anyone to care about. I want to have a baby because i believe that i can truely add value to his/her life, as would he/she to mine. About a week and a bit after i had come out of hospital, my partner and i had unprotected sex. i had done a pregnancy test the day after - showing positive. I called my GYNE explaining this to him, and he had said that it likely that it it is a new pregnancy. I am so happy, but also so nervous because its not for certain and i dont want to get my hopes up.
Abortion was the hardest decision i have ever had to make, and after reading through all the postings on this page, i just want to say that I respect every woman here. Thanks for standing together. I have found my new pillar of strenght.

I just wanted to say I had an abortion years ago - against my will and was so scared that I would not get pregnant - especially when I started trying at 31 years of age. It took my husband and I 8 mths. I was so scared that I went to a fertility doctor after 6mths. Just before we started any treatment - it happend! I'm now 4mths!

You can become pregnant very quickly after having an abortion. If you get on the pill or another hormonal birth control right after the procedure, you'll likely have a period around 2 weeks later. If you don't go on birth control, your period will likely come 4-6 weeks afterwards.

If you don't wish to become pregnant after an abortion then it would be wise to start birth control right away. Regardless of pregnancy risk, you shouldn't have sex for 2 weeks after an abortion to prevent infection.
An abortion or repeated abortions should not affect your fertility unless there is some kind of complication or infection afterwards (which is why the precautions and the 2 week check up).

Sorry - typo. If you go on the pill right after an abortion you will have a period 3 weeks later - the week of the sugar pills, not 2 weeks.

im livin proof u can have a baby after an abortion, i had my 1st baby at 17 n then fell preggies again a month later, i had to do it 4 the sake of my 1st son as i no i wouldent be able to cope as much as it killed me inside, i felt dead 4 2 years after but then i fell pregmant with my 3rd child a beautiful girl. but u no wot i wouldent change wot i did then 4 the life im givin my 2 children i have now. n yes im now hopein im pregnant again now im 6 days late but done bout 5 hpt n they ave all came out neg, if u want a baby to much its not gonna happen u have to get on with ur life stop thinkin bout it to much believe me it will happen, if u want some things in life to much it will take longer for u to fulfill ur dreams

i had an abortion 1 week ago and i deeply regret it. i was pregnant 6 months ago and had a miscarriage. i got pregnant a few months after my miscarriage and i feel into a deep depression and was convinced i'd lose the baby again or something was seriously wrong with the baby. i convinced myself in this fog that i couldn't continue the pregnancy. since the abortion my crying spells have stopped and i feel like the fog has been lifted and i can't believe what i did. i want a baby more than anything but in my depressed state i felt like i was alone and no one cared. i'm still in shock over what i've done.

I believe that the overall descion to have an abortion is left upon the individual. I had an abortion when i was 18, it wasnt a very hard descion for me to make, because i was a selfish teenager who decided i would rather be caught out partying late than have any more responsiblities, Please keep in mind that i fell pregnant due to a faulty condom ( this is with my fiance who i am still with). I do often wonder what my child may have been like that being said and done i would have a 3 year old now. But i do wonder if i could have bought the house i live in, travelled with my fiance and enjoyed every moment of my teen years. Given so, I do not commend those who have abortion and continue to have unprotected sex, when they are very aware of whatcan happen, It is very very possible to fall pregnant straight after an abortion as an abortion like a dc, smooths the wall of your uteral lining making it very easy for a fertilised egg to attach. That is why after my abortion my dr strictly ordered me to refreame from sex for just a little while as to avoid becoming pregnant again. Girls, having sex is a big descion, having a baby is a big descion and there is no doubt in my mind that having an abortion is also a very big descion. Lets try to less criticise these Ladies who have or are having an abortion and be sympathetic. I have recently been pregnant twice this year after having abortion 3 years ago, however due to medication i was taking i had lost both babies, i am now off medication and trying for baby number 1. I know many women who have falled pregnant after abortions, remember abortions are performed by a professional, and i am sure that they would be extra careful when considering that they would not like to be sued by a younge woman because of an abortion gone wrong. If you are unsure of what an abortion has done to your body ask your dr, have tests perform to check you all over. I had this done recently and i am in perfect health, all i can say is best of luck to those who have experienced this as i feel for some of you it will be a very large moral issue but please remember you are never alone! Baby Dust and Best of Luck!

i had my ab on may 1.
we're trying to concieve, and i'm assured that it'll happen eventually, but i know how hard it is to wait. when i concieved the first time, it was by a man who was a friend, who took advantage of me one night. i never drink. and i shouldn't have that night, but whatever. what's done is done. my husband [got married in Aug] knows everything about it. when i found out i was pregnant, i immediately got an ultrasound in order to find out the conception date. when i found out it was that night. i felt like a sledgehammer hit me. i had the ab as soon as possible. now, i wish i had known this pain before i walked into that room. i have been pro-life since i was little, and my baby brother died from birth defects. when i found out i was pregnant with that man's child, that entire situation shattered my worldview of abortion, as well as the view i had of myself. i felt that i nolonger could have an opinion about ab.
Now, thru God's incredible healing, i can again say that i am pro-life. but not the naive, uneducated, ignorant type. i am unfortunately well educated as to why i will NEVER do that again. and i don't force my opinion on anyone else. i just know that for me, i cannot ever condone it for myself, ever again. I remember on the day of my ab, driving by the hospital where pro-lifers were picketing with all sorts of fantastic [sarcasm!] signs about how God is going to punish abortioners, etc. etc. and wanting to scream at them and ask "prolife??? well, WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO HELP ME, RIGHT NOW??? HOW ARE YOU GOING TO HELP ME GET THROUGH THIS???" easy for them to march outside, without having to get their hands dirty, offering no practical help, just heaping on the guilt and shame onto every young woman who was about to walk into that hospital and terminate her pregnancy. I can't wait to fulfill a dream that i've had since i was small, a dream that my ab nearly crushed; i'm going to offer practical help, by opening a maternity home for young teen moms who have nowhere to go and want to keep their babies. i'm willing to put my prolife money where my mouth is. do something practical. change and save lives. after i had my ab, i felt like such a hyprocrite, since this has been a dream for about 10 years. i felt like i could never do it, since i chose to not tough it out myself. but now, i realize that i MUST do it. That these girls will be able to learn and benefit from my mistake. and i'll be able to tangibly help them. to all those women out there who are reading this, i challenge you go rise from the ashes of the past, much like the phoenix, make your pain [when you're at a place where you can emotionally] into something beautiful by helping other women who are going through this. if you allow your pain to immoblize you, then why bother going though it??? most of us had no idea what lay ahead before the ab, so why not use your voice of experience and educate people??!! take your pain. make it something beautiful. not by preaching condemnation or hatred or guilt, but by educating others as to the detriments of it. i too am a christian, and i too believe that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. i know, also, that God is just, and we do have to seek repentance and forgiveness. then, we must WALK FORWARD. change the world. one life at a time. hence, my maternity house :)

Dear Ladies, thank you so much for taking the time to share your pain and lessons. I only wish I read it before I had a medical abortion 7 weeks ago. It was my first and as my gut feeling assured me of the fragile trust between my guy and I, it seemed like the best thing to do then. I am surprised that I didn't even tell my own mother and sisters who have always loved me. I felt like a failure for getting pregnant so thought there was nothing to tell. I am going through depression as I am struggling to recover and balance myself mentally. I just recently talked to the lady my guy was with my guy the day I was at the hospital taking the first pill. I was so deeply hurt. I have been dying for a week since I found out. How inhumane was he!!! I am fearful to hope to find love, trust and a baby. It kills me to see my friend's baby. Probably, narrow of me. But life is beautiful and meaningful after all. I just want to make it through this period alive. Thank you ladies again. Oh, one sad thing was that conception happened almost the same day as my father's death a year ago. It spilled my blood inside when a gf of mine told me that it could have been my father's reincarnated spirit. I don't know any of it anymore.

well, first, no i don't think it was your father's reincarnated spirit. you have your father's spirit inside of you because he's half of you. and secondly, some day you'll find the right guy that will treat you right and will live only to love you and you'll have the baby you've always wanted. it's unfortunate this jerk got to you, but don't worry. life has a way of getting people back. you stay strong and don't worry. life doesn't put anything on your shoulders that you can't handle.

I just recently made the biggest mistake of my life on May 3 - so tomorrow will be a week and the pain of course is very very fresh. I am 35 yrs old and could not believe that i was pregnant - shortly after I found out my son who is 17 and his g/f were pregnant too. Our due dates were 10 days apart. I was a born again christian in 2001 but slowly backslid into the ways of the world. My negative thoughts would not let me enjoy my blessing..... I was tormenting my mind. I had two opposing people inside my head....the born again person reminding me that ab was a sin vs. the worldly person telling me that my life would be easier considering the circumstances at this time in my life. When I went to the doctor a second time I saw my sweet baby moving during the ultrasound and I told myself that I was having the baby. I called my sister and told her that she did not need to go with me to get the abortion. I even bought maternity clothes 2 days before. On Saturday a force of weakness came over me and it was like i was a zombie - I went straight to the clinic by myself and as much as i wanted to walk out I forced myself to go thru it even though I was still scared and unsure. These people did not care about me....shortly they sent me on my way still very drowsy from the drugs I drove myself home. Once the drugs wore off - the feelings of regret kicked in and I could not believe what I had done. I screamed, I cried, I honestly wanted to die. I knew that I had two children that I had to live for and I had to get it together. I went to church on Sunday and asked GOD to forgive me. My ungodly friends tried to console me by telling me that it probably wasn't meant to be.....then I started to blame the devil for my weakness.....then I realized I had no one to blame but myself. I had someone pray for me and until then I realized why Jesus died for our sins. I realized how blessed we were and how beautiful GOD is that he sacrificed his only son to wash away our sins. At that moment I gave my life back to the LORD. I realized had I been closer and stronger in my walk with GOD that my faith would have not let me go thru what I have done. It brings me hope to hear of the mothers on here that have learned from there mistake and now choose life. I believe that if more people spoke out about the regret and pain after an abortion that so many baby's lives would be saved. I found out from so many friends and family members that they had also gone thru the same experience and I would've never known it before. If I can help one woman reading this site to not have an abortion I would feel closer to healing my own pain. GOD Bless all of you on here for sharing your stories and know that if GOD can forgive you - than surely you can forgive yourself because we are not bigger than GOD. Accept his precious gift of forgiveness and volunteer or minister to someone thinking of an abortion.

if you saw the baby moving, you were what 8w? i think you should have seriously considered adoption and if you don't want to get pregnant, use condoms, get fixed or get on a form of b/c. because abortion is the lamest form of birth control and you are so old you should have known better. now that i'm done admonishing you, don't be hard on yourself. everyone has moments of weakness and in time you WILL learn to forgive yourself for it. but for you to truly repent, if you are truly born again, you need to find ways to avoid pregnancy if you are unable to handle it. i'm sorry i don't have any kinder words, but i'm kind of shocked. but it happens every day. you're not the first or the last woman to have one, so you'll be alright. just stay strong and remember you do have 2 children to live for.

i have a question please.. I had an abortion 1 month ago and havent started my period, but i went to the doctor to get on birth control and had a positive pregnancy test. when will my body go back to normal?

depending on how far along you were and if they got everything, you'll test positive. you might ask that some betas be taken so they can make sure all the levels are falling like they should.

HELP ASAP I am SO LOST! I've been looking for answers all over the net! I'm in a pickle! ok heres the prob!!! I had a hard pregnancy! I just had my son on May 5th 2008 Via C-Section. I'm still slighty scuffing?! light pinkish blood spots go's away for a day or so then comes back and i still have 1 stitch on my lower stomach!. it hasn't yet been 6 weeks just yet, and my husband and I enjoyed ourselves sexually when i was pregnant ( no worries) And the other night we were fooling around and he pullout but i'm still worried. I'm going to buy plan B but I'm scared for my uterus and I'm freaking out that "Can I already Be pregnant?" even though I'm slightly bleeding?!! I also felt bad when i read that it's a chemical abortion and yet i'm still not ready to go through all that crappy treatment again. today i feel a bit dizzy and i have headaches but, i want to know is it possible?! and I want others out there to give me some advice! please! I know it was stupid of me but my hospital won't even let me get a tubical ligation and is taking too long to book me for birthcontrol! og god i just feel so bad and stupid. my husband puts me on the spot a lot i had no worries when i was already pregnant. i said i don't want another 1 until we plan but i have a feeling he's hoping to get me pregnant asap. please help! advice?!!....
THANKS in advance...

i know it's been said you can resume being sexually active when you feel ready, but if you still have stitches in you? i think you should wait for your 6 week exam. that's pretty much to tell you if you're ready for that yet. especially after a c section. and if by chance you've ovulated and today is your conception, then it won't be a chemical abortion and there won't be any horribleness to it. it just keeps it from implanting and you have your period and bleed it out. and if you aren't ready for another baby, get him to wear a condom and don't give in without it. he isn't forcing sex on you, so you're both in this if you get pregnant again. none of this "my husband puts me on the spot". if you agree to sex without protection, you agree to another possible pregnancy. i doubt you are, though, but you might take an ovulation test to see if you're fertile.