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I''m assuming that you're from The States? Are you aware that approx 57% of marriages in the US end in divorce in aprox 26 months? Where's the commitment in that? Marriage is absolutely NO guarantee for a lasting relationship. Love, friendship and mutual respect are and you don't have to be married for that. Just my two cents.

I would just like to say that this is appaerntly not only a belief/religious/moral issue but also a cultural issue. Lexa, I am from the states and I have read articles about how mostly in European cultures and also in America people are losing the understanding of the meaning and significance in marriage. I would also like to say that I also understand that a majority of people who do get married divorce. The problem is that they don't take it seriously. Marriage is a promise to God and the person that you love, that binds you as one. In addition I realize that a majority of Europeans aren't Christian. However , these days people run around getting married with the thought in the back of their heads that if it doesn't work out they can get a divorce. And that is wrong. And so everyone is entitled to have their own opinion and I am not here to judge, but as an answer to your question Bidelle, most of these couples aren't of the same beliefs. Or perhaps they are pregnant and too young to marry. Or, maybe they do not feel that getting married due to pregnancy is the right thing to do(which it isn't in my opinion). I personally feel like marriage is sacred and have been married for almost 2 years to someone I have been with for nearly ten. But I also realize that God doesn't see things the same way we do. He reads the heart. Anyway, I just wanted to say that.

bidelle you posted this in another topic in this site. didnt you get the responses you are after in the other post?..

I sorta agree with you. I am having my 3rd child with my husband of 5 years. I could not imagine having a child not married, but I know lots and lots of women do. I want my child and I and their father to have the same last name. I want my child to grow up knowing 2 people can love each other for many, many years despite the struggles. I want them to know when you struggle and work it out, it makes you a stronger couple.

I just want to say I was with my finacee for 3 years ttc and nothing happened I finally went on bd and ended up pregnant. That was going on 5-6 years ago now and me and my fiancee" I call him my husband" have 3 children and a 4th on the way, we have been together for over 8 years. I have known women to get married have a baby and than get divorced awhile down the road, just because your married you make it sound like the man will stick around forever, which in alot of cases he won't. my mom NEVER had sex before marriage and was a virgin when she married my father and had 4 of us and my dad cheated so she divorced him. For me marriage is the connection of two hearts and two souls and me and my husband believe we are married, we dont need a piece of paper to say we are.

Well I'm 18, got married in October...found out I was pregnant a few days after, then miscarried two week after I believe...then got pregnant one month later and found out in December. Although they weren't planned...I'm glad knowing we were married.

but also, getting married because of a baby, isn't a good way to go.

well i just have to say one thing being married doesn't mean the man will be around in a few years. any boy can create a child it take a man to raise it . basicaly if wants to be a dad he will be there if not he won"t marriage won"t change that

Marriage licence is a piece of paper making you legally together. if you dont want to get married because you don't feel it is what you want and you would rather show your trust and honestly and love in another way that is fine. Most people that say this are religious and are against PREMARRITAL SEX not that it is a bad thing at all. Only having sex after marriage is a something that isn't all that common and i totally agree with Lexa!

you all she started this same thread on problems getting pregnant and said she was just doing research for a paper. i dont believe that. i think that she just wants to cause trouble. i think that she has issues.

my little sister was born less than 3yrs after me in the same hospital to the same parents, should she not have the same rights as me? why then do i deserve to marry the person i love if she can't? she is probably a better person than me in some ways so what makes her less deserving of a formal committment? well thats bs if you ask me. i have a child with the man i love and he and i need only to make our committment to one another to God, the government can go screw itself...as if it hasn't already. to my family, friends, and most importantly, to God we ARE married, to the us goverment we are just unwed parents and i couldn't be happier. i'll marry my man when my sister can have a wife of her own!

I would like to say that I feel that marriage is important and I am very happily married to a wonderful guy. But on the flip side If a woman is 35 or forty and has no kiddos or even lets say someone younger wants to have a baby and can financially support it then go for it. I know some of the best single mama's around. and just because your married is no guarentee. But I do agree that people take The Vows for franted along with each other. I do not believe however that people who get married intend to divorse. I think that people, and not just from america, believe that running from their problems is easier then trying to fix it.