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well my sisters actually going to have her baby this mth in 2 weeks and the baby dads going jail sometime soon so she will be by herself for a while......the point is with support any kind of support you can do this with or without that asshole.You have parents that can help cause they are your best bet.Be strong my friends baby dad did that too worse he told my friend that it wasnt his baby then used the baby to get booty calls from ym friend.Thats not right.If he does sign over his rights then let him just remind him that hes never had it so good and that once its done and over with he will regret what he is doing but cant come back to the child after.BE STRONG YOU CAN DO IT

First... I don't believe that he can sign over his rights unless you have someone willing to adopt the baby (like if you get married, or perhaps a family member--but I'm not sure on that). Only let him sign over his rights if you don't need child support. If you DO need the support... make him pay for it. and I KNOW that he can't sign over his rights without your consent. My ex left me when I was 4 months pregnant, got engaged to a 19-year-old 3 months later, and has barely spoken to me since we broke up. I was REALLY hurt when all of this was going on, but now... I couldn't care less. Our daughter will be 8-months-old on the 14th. I haven't had any contact with him in the last 2 months and I don't even care... haha. The ONLY thing that bothers me about it is that my daughter has such a deadbeat of a dad, but I know that she'll be fine without him, and I'll eventually find her a great dad (and a great husband for me). My point in all this is that even though this is hard for you now... it will get better. You will be having your baby soon... so just focus on him/her. I know that when Alena (my daughter) was born, she became my whole world. I'm not even interested in dating or anything right now... I'm just focused on her. and honestly.... if I didn't NEED the child support from my ex... I'd offer to let him sign over his rights (that is.. if my mom would be allowed to adopt Alena). because I don't really have any interest in having anything to do with him anymore... and I'm not so sure he'd be a good influence on my daughter. but oh well... it'll all work out. Just hang in there... and don't waste too much brain space on that jerk. He's definitely not worth stressing over.

OK, guys are under the false impression that all they have to do is "sign over" their rights. Sign over to who????? You just tell him that there is no such thing as signing away your responsibilities and that you WILL go after him should he refuse financial support.

Hey Dawn! I've sort of been down the road you are on now so I'm hoping a I can provide you a little comfort. I got pregnant when I was 20 by my bf and had my little boy when I was 21. My bf and I were together when the baby was born but we had been on and off throughout the pregnancy. Right after the baby was born, he started dating another girl (although we lived together). Then one day, he decided he was just going to up and move out on me with no money, no nothing. I went to the Texas Department of Health Services and filed abandonment on him. Don't really know if anything came of that b/c I moved back to Houston shortly after (I had been living in Dallas with him). The night before I came home I stayed at his parents house and he came over to visit the baby. He was all crying and putting on some big damn show for his family and telling Garrett, "I'll come see you in a week little buddy." Well, that week has now turned into 4 1/2 yrs. I chose NOT to have his rights taken away but to make it as hard as hell for him to see the baby. I filed for child support and took some recordings that I had from him off of the voice mail cussing me out. I then told him how violent he was with the baby's furniture and things when we would fight. And then told the lawyer that he had never changed a diaper, nor fed him a bottle, so how was he going to take this baby every other weekend for visits? Well, as a result, the only time he could have visitation was once a month on a Saturday. He would have to call me and make an appt. He would then have to drive to Houston to the Safe House where armed guards would be in a room with him from 8-12. He was allowed to have no contact with me whatsoever (except for when making the appts.). My dad knew all along that he would never make the 4 1/2 trip down here to spend 4 hours with a bunch of armed guards in the room, nor would he ever pay a dime of child support. And he was right. He managed to move from job to job and child support never caught up with him. So now he owes me around $25,000.00 and in my opinion that is wonderful. The reason for that is I am remarried to a wonderful man who has taken Garrett in as his own since Garrett was about 7 months old. It is the only daddy that Garrett knows. This summer we are taking Taylor (my ex) to court for him to turn over his rights to my husband. If he refuses, then I can possibly have them involuntarily taken away since he has not seen him in so long and paid no support. See, now I have this $25,000.00 hanging over his head and if I want, I can have his ass thrown in a jail for a LONG TIME!!! So, I'm thinking when I request for him to sign over his rights, he will have no problem in doing so. So basically, what I'm trying to tell you is that you don't need this asshole. Just like you, I was once devastated and could not believe that he was tearing apart our family. Well, now I've learned that I'm much better off without him. My husband is a wonderful husband and father both and that is something that my ex could have never been. If you play your cards right, you could end up the winner of this all, and don't worry about it right now. I know that is a lot easier said than done, but seriously do you want someone like that to be a big influence in your child's life? I know that I didn't and I am very lucky that my ex has no desire to be in my child's life. I know that sounds crazy for me saying that, but he would ruin my child and turn him into a con artist like him. My child is much better off without him. Just remember, anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy. Is he acting like he really wants to be a daddy to this baby?

typo... *4 1/2 hour trip*

No he can't sign over any rights. That's not possible. He can be immancipated but he still has to pay chld support. Besides, you don't want him to get out of this that easy do you? I bet your just in shambles hon, but this is the best thing that could have happened. This way, you'll avoid waisting anymore time with someone who doesn't love you when you could be spending time with someone who does. I know it doesn't feel like a good thing, but it is. How can someone treat someone like that? I'll never understand. When I was pregnant with my first, I went through a lot of stress and cried and cried bad. My baby came out just fine, but I suffered from PPD.

Hi Dawn. I am 6 months pregnant by my estranged husband. Instead of growing up when he found out that I am pregnant, he denied the baby and is claiming that it is someone elses. His mother, who emotionally supported me thru the entire relationship, is now saying that the child is not his. My advice to you is this: He wants to sign over his rights, that is his loss. It will be hard on you because this is the last thing that you thought you happen, but as long as you think about you and the baby you will be fine. Believe me I am going thru the same feelings that you are and I am surviving. Don' t worry about the future, what happens, happens. When the child is older and they ask about the dad, be honest and let them know that he made the decision that he did. Until then, relax and think about the little one that is still growing inside of you.