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hang in there. he sounds like he needs time.. its pretty scary for some men to be tied down.. come here for your support.. live your life day by day.. hopefully it will work out for u.. dont show him your depressed.. i know its hard, but be strong for you baby.. he still cares if hes still comes around. least he calls.. .. your instinct as a mother should be kicking in.. show him you can do it . be the strong one ,,ok,, for yourself and your baby.. when are you due in may? or april..

I don't mean to sound mean. This is NOT what you want to hear, but you've got it easier than most. He cares. He shows you he cares. He goes to your doctors visits with you, he calls you. He is a man who is stepping up to his responsiblity (somewhat-better than my ex). Keeping trying what? Just let him go to your appointments with you. It really could be worse. You need to sit down with yourself and ask yourself what YOU want and what is best for your child. This isn't about you and him anymore. It's about you and your child. You need to write down a list of things you want from him (don't include something like "love"). You need money? a babysitter? an education? How will the father fit into those parameters? Once you figure out how useful he will be you need to tell him what you need and if he doesn't comply you can work out some kind of arrangment. I get the impression from what you've written that you are more worried that you and your ex aren't involved anymore than the real issue of having a baby. When that baby comes the reality of raising a child is going to become very apparent and your not going to have anymore time to frett about some man.

i'm no authority on this because i am going thru my own mess with my baby's father but if theres anything i learned thru it all is that u cant force a man to do or feel anything and theres really no reason to put unnecessary stress on u and the baby trying to do so. all u can do is let him know that u want him there and he is welcome in the childs life but u got to keep going strong for the baby. when he's done adjusting who knows maybe he'll be there like he was before but dont worry urself too much. i know its hard BELIEVE me i know. but u just have to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. best wishes hun, ur not alone.

Lady, if that's not the truth, then I don't know what is !! It took me two long-term relationships ( a total of 10 years) and a whole lot of tears to realize that you cannot make someone feel something they just don't feel. Especially a man! And, as painful as it is to accept, sometimes the only thing you can do is stop worrying about him and start taking care of you. I did learn, however, that some guys are the real deal. You need a man who can give you and your child what you deserve. Give him time, and hopefully, he'll step up to his responsibility and be that kind of man. If that's not what happens, so be it. You are stronger than you think, Jill. You'll be OK!

jill,
yes it could be worse. I go to my prenatal visits alone. I get no calls, no emails returned. AND HE LIVES 3 DOORS DOWN FROM ME!!!!!! I know it is still hard, but it sounds like you have someone who really loves you. I think everything will be fine ....always remember,,,,it could always be worse....thats what i keep repeating to myself!!!! :)