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Decided To Have My Baby And Family Doesn't Agree!

2 posts on this thread and the last post was on April 18th, 2009 11:05 PM
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kritter328 - April 8th, 2009 7:46 PM
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Hi, you may have read my earlier post. I am now almost 12 weeks pregnant, and obviously decided to have my baby. My boyfriend is supportive, but we've been together less than a year, and who knows if he's really going to be able to handle this. Anyway, my entire family thinks I am making the worst mistake in my life. I'm not exactly the wealthiest person. Although I have made a commitment to making any changes in my life that need to happen to take care of this baby. It is going to be difficult, but I know that I will manage. They have pretty much cut me out of their lives. I was told that I should just have an abortion and "get on with my life". No one will even call me, much less lend me any emotional support during this time of massive change in my life. How do you deal with a family who doesn't support you?

clindholm - April 9th, 2009 10:03 AM

I want to commend you for making a difficult decision and not giving in to the pressures that other people put upon you. This is your decision and noone elses. You are truly a very strong, independant woman. Unfortunately I do not have any advice for you on dealing with such a narrow minded family. I do beleive that once you have this baby, they will change their minds.
Your baby is very fortunate to have such a strong willed mom. I know you will do great by your little one with or without anyone's support.

Soli - April 18th, 2009 11:05 PM

I'm sorry your family is treating you this way. My family doesn't exactly approve of my pregnancy either, but I have decided that they had their chance to have me, raise me, and now that I am an adult I will do what I think is best for myself. You need to keep in mind that you are strong willed to stand up to them, and this will carry over into motherhood. The best advice I can give you, is stick to your guns. I know it sucks not having any emotional support, but you have made your decision and they'll have to live with it and get over it, or they'll continue to act in this manner. If they continue, you do not need the stress and they will be doing you a favor. I have a feeling though, that when that baby comes they are not going to want to be left out, and if they are indifferent, then your baby doesn't need that anyway. Gook luck to you.