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Feeling So Alone

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on August 18th, 2006 1:17 AM
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Lou-ann - August 17th, 2006 2:21 PM
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I've been with my bf for 5 months - and 2 weeks ago i found out im pregnant now 6 weeks. my bf absolutley flipped and has become really nasty telling me to have an abortion, we work together which is making the situation difficult. He say's he's not ready for kids and said he doesn't know if he ever will be. I dunno what to do, i feel so alone, i don't think i could go through with abortion, i absolutley love children and everyone says when i eventually have kids i'd make an ace mum. I don't wanna loose my bf, but i don't wanna loose this baby. he seems to have his family to talk to and he's told them all and told them what he's told me to do, i've got no one as i recently moved. can;t talk to my mum as she's too ill. Please help and give me some advice. I would never consider adoption, it's either abort or keep, but i dunno what to do.

KBC - August 17th, 2006 4:25 PM

Whatever decision you make you need to know that it’s yours and only yours. I’m going through the same thing and I can honestly tell you that it took this for me to realize that the man that was supposed to “love me” is someone that I never knew at all and the person he turned out to be is not someone that I can respect let alone be with in a loving relationship. Either way you go this will probably end your relationship. If you choose to terminate this pregnancy you will resent him for it and if you choose to keep it you’ll have to face the fact that you’ll probably be doing it on your own and if not on your own you’ll have to deal with the fact that he probably doesn’t want to be in the situation he’s in. It’s such a tough decision… I’m still in the process of making it. I suggest writing out a list of pro’s and cons and really thinking about how your life will change in either situation you choose. My heart goes out to you.


Emma2 - August 17th, 2006 9:29 PM

How is your relationship going to go from here on out? You will never be able to take it to the next level and you will resent him . You need to think about you and the child 1st. Forget the bf... no one put a gun to his head and told him to cum inside you...he is just as much responsible for the making of this baby and if he cant handle it he should have worn a rubber! Tough luck buddy!!!


Missa - August 18th, 2006 1:17 AM

Honey I was in the same situation. My bf and I had PLANNED my pregnancy though and he left me when I was 8 weeks pregnant for an ex girlfriend. He encouraged me to have an abortion and when I decided not to he said he'd sign over rights. I'm 38 weeks now and waiting..... I've had abortions before so I'm not going to preach to you about that being wrong. Are you ready to be a mom?? Do you want a baby now?? You have to make this decision for yourself and not be influenced by your boyfriend. It's your body and your decision. I decided to keep my baby because I'm almost 26 years old and I know I'll be a wonderful mother and I CAN and WILL do this with or without the aid and or support of a man. If your boyfriend really loved you he would not be bullting you around and he would support you nomatter what. Men seem to think that when we pop up pregnant that we created this baby all by ourselves..... Some men need to have licences for the use of their testacles!! Good luck sweetie and if you believe in a higher power.... pray. It helped me!!!