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He's 20 And I'm 26. He Isn't Ready And I Am...

3 posts on this thread and the last post was on February 2nd, 2009 5:12 PM
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funkhouse - January 12th, 2009 11:07 PM
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The title says it all. Whats interesting about this scenario is that everything is perfect for us and he would make the most amazing father., However our age difference cannot be denied. He turns 21 in one week and I just found out today that I am at least 4 weeks pregnant. His first response was "I can't believe you would actually consider having it" For me I thought that I couldn't conceive for the past 6 years until last month when I started applying natural progesterone cream. Welp...that stuff sure does work and now I am pregnant. He does not think he is ready (neither of us are financially stable) but we seem to always make things work. We have plenty of food and shelter (he works at the farmers market in town) I dont want to ruin his life..he says that he will resent the baby and not love it the way he would if he had wanted it to begin with. Yet I dont want to regret having an abortion because someone else told me to.

Please help me..

Thanks

lunamoo - January 16th, 2009 8:54 AM

I am confused, his response to the pregnancy is totally unexpected and unplanned but from what you say...that you have been trying to concieve the last 6 years and recently have been taking measures to ensure conception. Did he know about this!?!?!

APPLE - February 2nd, 2009 2:09 PM

I say you should have the baby because you didn't take anything to not get pregnant. It seems you have been trying to get pregnant so to get rid of the baby to me is not right. I am not against abortions but I think if you didn't do anything to not get pregnant then you should not kill a child who did not ask to be here. Whats done is done and now you both need to deal with what you created. Thats how I feel but always remember the choice is yours. And its something you have to deal with for the rest of your life.

sabrinasmom - February 2nd, 2009 5:12 PM

funkhouse- your boyfriend is 20 I don't blame him for not being ready. He isn't even legally old enough to drink yet. My boyfriend is 36 and he isn't ready for another one and wasn't ready at 30 when he had his first child. Bringing a baby into this world is a big responsibility.
At the end of the day it is your body and your choice. Taking in his responses of the news it does not sound as though he isn't ready to be a father right now. I would say he took the risk if he didn't protect himself but at the same time it sounds as though he may have been under the impression that you were infertile and maybe unaware that you were using progesterone cream to increase your chances of conceiving. If this is what you want I say keep it and be prepared to potentially be a single mom.