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Thanks everyone.. I agree, I'm better off without him. Today has just gotten more bizaar by the minute!!! The other day I got a request on my myspace, I live in VT and this guy was from MA but I didn't know him so I ignored his friend request.. then today he emails me telling me he came across my profile, liked the pic and wanted to be myspace friends.. so I said fine and I accepted his request. Then he says "oh I see you are expecting, when are you due?" so.. I tell him.. then he asks if I'm with the father and I just said no, that we aren't really talking and that he's gone back to his ex.. he tells me that he also has kids but could never leave them like that.. then he says "who is this dead beat?" That sent red flags up.. my ex is from CT, I'm in VT, and this guy is from MA, so why is he asking for a name? It's not like he's going to know him.. and I told him that too. Next thing you know, John's ex or gf, whatever you want to call her, is emailing me on myspace.. telling me that she knows that John and I are having a baby and wanted to talk to me and so on.. so I said fine, that I was leaving and if she needed to talk, call me. So, she did.. I told her what was going on and she told me that he'd lied to both of us, etc.. Well, then her and I hang up.. John calls me.. yelling at me, asking me why I'm talking crap about him to her behind his back.. I told him I wasn't.. and that SHE is the one that made a fake myspace and pretended to be some guy.. and that she had contacted ME. I told him I didn't say ANYTHING bad about him in the least! Why would I? I knew it would get back to him.. He starts yelling at me and really losing his temper then hangs up on me. Then his mother calls me asking me whats going on.. apparently his gf called his mother crying.. and so now once again, she feels like she's in the middle.. I told her I was minding my own business and that now I've been dragged into this.. AGAIN! Then John calls me back.. he wanted me to call his gf and tell her that I don't know if he's the father or not because that night we were both drinking and he was on pain killers and that we passed out.. and next thing you know I was pregnant and that I'd also slept with someone else right around the same time and that I'm not even sure if I'd slept with John that night.. Which is all a complete LIE and belittling what we had! I told him I was not going to LIE to his gf just to make him look better.. and to get her off his back.. The nerve!!! I asked him if he was going to be at the hospital for the birth of his child.. I told him it's a once in a life time experience and if he misses it he doesn't get another chance. He told me that it will all feel real when he sees it on paper and that right now he's not ready to deal with it.. he KNOWS the baby is his.. he's the only person I've been with.. he just wants to put me through hell! I told him that it's impossible to know before the baby is born in his own mind whether or not it's his.. unless of course I need an amnio for some reason before then. He said he knows and that yes, he'll be there but that it just won't seem real to him til he sees a test.. I think he's hoping it's not his.. well, IT IS! I just can't believe this day..

Man I am so sorry to hear about this drama. It's the last thing you need right now. You should have peace and calm in your life while you are growing this new person in your body. It sounds like the old high school he-said-she-said crap. I hate it! These people need to grow up. I admire you for trying to keep him involved in the baby's life. I don't think I would. I would let him wonder for the rest of his life (or until he grows up enough to take some responsibility) if it was a son or daughter, if it looked like him or acted like him. Stuff like that. I guess I'm a bit vindictive. :/ Finding out on Myspace?! How CRAPPY!!!!

Hello January- Yeah that was a long day for you. You seem to have the same mine set as me. I would be hurt if the mother (your friend) didn't give me a heads up. I would not care much about him, but would want him to be in is childs life. It's funny how men just comes up with it's not mine. I guess they think if they say it enough it will come true.

Hi all, things still haven't changed any. My mother passed away in July and she had a few pieces of furniture that were left to me but the catch was, I had to get them into my house. Obviously at 7mo pregnant, I can't move or lift things so I was in a jam. He was the only one I could ask so I did. I did get that furniture moved and he did help. We didn't talk about anything relevant to 'us' or the pregnancy. Just usual banter. When we were done I was taking him back to his mother's house which is two streets over, I mentioned how tired I was and I was gonna take a nap. He said why are you tired, you didn't do anything, I did all the moving. I told him that when he is 7mo pregnant, he can tell me how much energy he has.. that's when he informed me that there are women still running marathons at 7mo pregnant. What an ass!! I'm so glad to not have him coming around and things are so much more drama free. It's his loss for walking away from both the baby and me. Like I said before, I'll let him know when I'm in labor.. if he chooses to be there great, if not..well, that's great too. I don't need him and neither does my daughter. He's the one that is going to feel awkward with his new baby girl just two streets away.. not me. He'll see us around town and I'm not going to lie about who the father is and if people ask, I will tell. It's only going to make HIM look bad in the end.

Good for you January. What a great attitude to have. I can't believe what a jerk the father wants to be! It's amazing how nice they can seem in the beginning and just turn on you. I'll keep praying for you.