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How Do You Move On?

2 posts on this thread and the last post was on September 26th, 2004 5:14 PM
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Kari - September 21st, 2004 2:55 AM
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I am 19 and due on November 17th. My boyfriend has a 4 month old baby with his ex. He and her dont speak and he rarely excercises his visitations. I just recently moved out of our apartment because he was treating me so poorly. I know I deserve better and couldn't take it anymore. We agreed to continue to try to better the relationship but just not live together till we were ready. The second I was gone he went right back to being immature and taking care of only him. I don't want to still care about him and dont even think I love him, how do I move on? I am usually a happy bubbly person but can barely get out of bed. I am so afraid I wont be emotionally strong enough when my baby girl gets here, does anyone have any advice?


JJ - September 21st, 2004 9:58 AM

if you don't think you love him anymore then it shouldn't be that much harder to move on. you don't need a man in your life to make you feel good. you have a child on the way, let alone its a beautiful baby girl on the way. you have to learn to suck life up and spit out all the old sh!t. start fresh today and live life for you and your baby only. if he doesn't care, why should you. if he doesn't take care of his 4 month old child then i think its time for you to realize that he wont take care of yours either. forget about him. if you are they type of female that needs a man to make you feel good, then trust me there are men out there better than yours. and most men now a days dont mind you having a child already. i should know. i met my husband when my son was only 2 months old. Good luck to you and your baby!


April - September 26th, 2004 5:14 PM

Hey girl...I know how you feel. I am going through the same thing. trust me the first few weeks after a break up are the worst but things will get better. I would suggest not to worry about what he's doing or your relationship with him anymore. Start focusing on the fact you have a beautiful baby girl to take care of. I used to hate my ex and then I started to realize that you know what someone else can have him and deal with his shit. I still do love him and want whats best for him but were just to different to be together as lovers. He used to beat me and although it was hard when he actually broke up with me being pregnant I realize it was the best thing he could of done. I mean now he is asking for forgiveness which I have, I honestly dont hate him but we were not good for each other and know there is someone else out there who is.
I geuss once I got over my hate for him I was able to let go and move on with life. Look at the good things thats going on. There are so many women out there who cant have children and even though its gonna be hard to raise her on your own its so worth it...be strong and start planning your life to better not only your babys but your own. Good luck.