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Well ShaunaLaine...you did the right thing by leaving. Now, get ready to give the guy an ultimatum. Either he gets anger management counselling and a job or you're filing for a divorce. No two ways about it. Do not, Do Not, DO NOT, buy into the "I'm sorry, it'll never happen again" thing. It will. If he chooses counselling, make him complete it before you even think of moving back in. And if he doesn't want to go, you're really not losing much. Don't try to support him, you and a child. He's a big boy, he needs to work, and if he refuses, that's one less mouth to feed and clean up after. I know I sound cold hearted, but I have been there.
No child ever deserves a childhood in which it is okay to see Mom get hit. Do you want your daughter thinking it's okay to get beat up by a man? Do you want you son hitting his wife? Break that cycle right now. I was 18, my daughter 1 and I left. You can and will survive without him.
If you're not working, get a job. It'll give you something to do other than brood.
If you are working, pay yourself 10% first for savings for when you baby arrives. Even $100 a month ($25 a week...$3.50 a day) gives you $700 to use for bills, baby stuff, whatever you might need when the time comes. Plus, that growing balance will make you feel good.
Ask for help from family and friends. You did great reaching out here, but reach out too, to the ones that can hug you, tell you you're loved, and help dry any tears. No one knows you need help unless you ask for it.
ShaunaLaine, I wish you the best of luck and happiness.
Regards,
Zim
*32, single mother of a 14 yo, and due again in April*

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