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Hi Ceno...
Well, you seem to realize you're better off without the guy, and you are! Trying to stay in an unhealthy relationship because of your little one is a bad idea, and I'm glad to see you say you aren't staying with him.
Best pieces of advice I can give you is: *Don't be afraid to ask for help, from family, friends, maybe a church group if you're so inclined.
*No one expects you to be super-mom. Don't expect perfection from yourself and you'll be much more content with yourself and baby.
*Get child-support! In some states, you can get support without Dad getting much as far as visitation goes. If he proves to be detrimental to your or the child's well being, he may get nothing other than supervised visits, but you'll get the financial resources you need.
I am the single parent of a 14 year old, and I am pregnant again. (My middle child lives with my ex-husband in another state) I ask for help when I need it, I don't go insane over a cluttered house (clean, but not tidy all the time) and when it's hardest, I count my blessings. I can drag myself down in the dumps pretty fast some days, so trying to remember the good things I do have in life, and knowing that some folks are much(!) worse off, helps.
You'll be okay! It might be tough to go it alone, but take it one day at a time. Don't worry about yesterday, and worry about tomorrow when it gets here.
Best Wishes,
Zim
 
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