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I know you feel like your life is over, first thing is first, keep doing what your doing in case it is yours, that way you won't have missed out on the birth and everything, as soon as he is born a DNA test can be done..make sure you have this done before you sign the birth certificate it makes things easier in case it isn't yours...that being said, you need to gather your thoughts on how you feel about your girlfriend are you going to stay with her even if the baby isn't yours-if so, you really need to think about your feelings, i know she is the one that screwed up but if you do stay with her you need to try to move on from the affair, trust me, it won't make things any better to fight about it all the time, I know you can't ever forget something like that but if you want to work things out with her you need to forgive her..and it may take time...if you aren't going to stay with her, you need to be prepared to take care of your child-finicially and emotionally, but from the sounds of it you won't have any problems with that. I know that it will be hard, and it isn't fair..but only you know in your heart what you want to do, I know when somene cheats on you , you don't just stop loving them, i am curious is this the first time this has happened? It also may be a good idea just to ask her why, i know that nothing excuses her behavior, but it may hel;p you work through the situation. I cheated on an ex boyfriend once, i loved him, but i just wasn't getting the attention i thought he should be giving me, It was totally a self esteem issue on my part, and we evetually worked through it, then he cheated on me continously, so that is why we are together now..i hope somehting i have said has helped you, if you just need someone to talk to, i will be here all night i am working midnights ( i am a nurse) good luck!!!

You just gotta let it burn... And of course take a paternity test to find out. But there should be more guys like you in the world. You are so sweet. Don't change.

I know what you mean your there for her and she does that if she still wants to be with you give her another chance dont be a low life. and I bet that the baby is yours she just wanted to be truthfull

Jeremy, I know you must be in a rough situation. My 3 week old daughter isn't my husband's but he's raising her anyway. He knew from the very start that she could not be his.. I didn't cheat on him. It happened the week before we started sleeping together. I mean, me? I wouldn't stay with her. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It'd be really hard to father the child of her affair. It's hard on my husband to look at Danielle and know she might not be his and I didn't even cheat. I think it would save you alot of heartache in the end but... just prepare yourself for the worst.

It is wrong for her to have done that and why would she wait 8 months to tell you??? Sounds like she is using you for support. The thing is she could have told you 8 months ago, and now she is scared that the baby may not resemble you or you might find out any other way. She has some big issues and she has played you for your time, money and support, that is SO WRONG!

See a lawyer now. You may have rights you don't know about. It's possible by your actions to become legally responsible for the care of the child until it becomes an adult even if it's not your biological child and even if you were purposefully defrauded by your girlfriend. See a lawyer. I admire your wish to behave as an adult, but if you're not the father, the actual biological father would be getting, as it were, a free ride.