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I am glad you do not want an abortion. I was in a similiar situation with my now ex-boyfriend. He did not tell me he had a family when we started dating. Apparently, he had 2 kids and a wife that he abandoned. I found this out when I was 2 months pregnant with my now 4 year old. He is not in our lives and he wanted me to get an abortion too. I refused and I have met a wonderful (SINGLE) man. I am pregnant again and we are getting married in a few months. I have been with him since my son was 2. My son's father is now in jail for abusing his wife. I am so glad we left him because that is not what we need in our lives. I was alone too BTW. I moved away from my family and only had a few friends. Men may come and go but your child will always be yours. Goodluck.

You do what is right for you. If he is so against having anymore kids, he should have had a vasectomy before he decided to cheat on his wife. Don't worry about him. If I were you, I'd move closer to home. You're going to need the support of your family if you decide to keep your baby.

DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!!! I am 20 years old. When i was seventeen, i got pregnant while i was on birthcontrol. Everyone around me said "you're not ready for this, you cant keep the baby" and even my boyfriend didnt want it, he is the one who suggested abortion. I did not want to get rid of my baby, but i was young and i let all of the things that everyone else said get to me, and i ended up getting an abortion, despite what my true feelings were. I just kept telling myself that i would eventually get over it, that i would be fine. Well its been 3 years, and i still think about it everysingle day. And for a while, it was an everynight thing, but now its only once in a while, but i have dreams, scary, sad ones. This is the dream: i have a kid, each time it is a different sex and a different age. But in every dream, someone or something is trying to hurt my baby or take my baby away and there is nothing i can do to save him/her. I wake up in a panic state and just ball my eyes out everytime. The pain and regret just never goes away and you will think about it for the rest of your life.

CURRENTLY: I am 17 weeks pregnant by a man who i only knew for about 3 months. I made the mistake of moving in with him after only a month of knowing him. He already has 2 kids by 2 different women. I thought i loved him, but then about 2 months into the relationship, after living with him for a month , i started to realize that i didnt even know him, and i was just infatuated. Then i found out that i was pregnant. He was really excited, and i was too, but only to a certain extent. I was scared. I didnt really know this guy, i felt like i made the biggest mistake of my life. Then after finding out that i was pregnant, he started acting CRAZY!!! He wanted me to get my cell phone turned off, he got the internet cut off, he tried to get me to sell all of my furniture (and stuff that i had of my own when i moved in with him), basicly he just turned into a complete control freak!! After about 2 weeks of this, i sat him down for a little talk. I told him that i felt like he was trapping me and taking my life away from me. Also i told him that i didnt feel for him the way that i thought i did. He didnt take it very well, and violently kicked me out of his house, and i had to get the police involved to get all of my stuff back.And he actually still has some stuff. I felt really bad about the whole situation, because i loved both of his kids (2yr. old boy, 3yr. old girl) so much and i know that they loved me too. But i had to get out. After this he had the nerve to tell me that he wanted me to have the baby and give it to him as soon as the baby was born....i said no way. i told him that i got an abortion and moved about an hour away to a new city and started a new life. I havent looked back or talked to him. He has tried to make contact with me, but i have pretty much eliminated all ways for him to get in touch with me.

I was really scared at first, i had no job, no place to live, no money, and i'm pregnant. I was in a really low scary spot in my life. Then i had an ultrasound, and got a little excited. Then i got a place to live and a job. Things started to look up. Then i found out that im having a boy and my belly is starting to pooch out a little bit. Now that things are back on track, and i dont have to worry about that psycho anymore, im really happy. Abortion never crossed my mind. And i cant wait for my tiny little son to come into this world. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing and i cant wait to be a mommy!!

I guess i cant really give you any advice, just know that there are other people out there who are in the same position you are. I can just say that i absolutely do not recommend an abortion. It doesnt make things better, its just an "easy fix" to the problem. Just remember that no matter how bad things are for you, there is someone out there who has it worse than you!!! Good luck!!!!

sorry.....i didnt realize how long that turned out to be!!!!

Im sorry to say I am going through the same thing except he was not married we lived together and we were in love? Until he found out I am pregnet. Not only is he leaving I have 2 other children wich are 13 & 12. He has A son 7. He decieded to tell my kids why he was leaving that I am pregnet and I dont want to have an abortion. Now my kids are excited about having a little brother or sisster. I have no help with my frist kids and was really not sure what to do.. Yea i have some friends but they dont buy dippers.. I wish i could be of more help, but i wanted to let you know your not alone i know how you feel very lost and alone, scared.

Lisa, my bf and i got pregnant about 2 yrs ago and i was 25. he flipped when he found out and told me if i didnt have an abortion he would not help me. so confused i did and now 2years later and 3 yrs. with him... he regrets it everyday and so do i. i do b/c i wasnt strong enought to stand up to him about it and he knows he pushed it on me and hates himself for ever doing that. just wanted to tell you this so you see how it affects you years down the road. DO NOT do anything you dont want to b/c trust me its a long hard road of pain.

Well if you've already had two abortions I wouldn't get another one. It can be difficult to conceive after many abortions. I wouldn't risk it. I had one abortion when I was 18 and when I found myself 25 single and pregnant again I would have gotten an abortion, but kept thinking about the previous one. It would be unfair to keep having abortions due to conviences (plus i really did want a baby). I'm in the same situtation. My parents live 1000 miles from here, but I'm still going to do it on my own. My BF walked out on me, so I dn't have that support. I'm in the same situation. I make 6 figures now and I wouldn't be able to make that kind of money if I left this area just to move back near my parents. It's very financial to me. I would say if you are making good money, advancing your career, you can do it without any help. I just went my entire pregnancy without any help and it's made me so much stronger, assertive, and oddly very peaceful. I think what doesn't kill you really DOES make you stronger. The transition will be hard, but well worth it. You will emerge a better person! I promise!

What is best for your child is to not abort it because its daddy is an asshole. I say fuck him and do what is best for you and the baby. He has an obligation to you and the baby now financially, so he will have to deal with it. Sorry, I don't mean to be snippy with you. It just pisses me off about these kind of guys. You can do it! It'll be hard, but you can DO IT!! Good luck!