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This is to "leo" you don't know the whole story or her frame of mind at the time. People men in particular can make you believe what they want to and when you feel that you have a love for a person you tolerate certain things that you normally wouldn't. And when someone gets pregnant does not always means protection was not used you every hard of condems breaking no birth control is 100% he took the chance just as well as her. Yes a lot of us were deluded, but we are all imperfect and no one is looking for pity just some help and advice how to deal and move forward.

No birth control is 100%, but if your having an affair with a married man maybe you should have used more than 1 method of birth control, e.g. the pill and condoms. You cant tell me that you really didnt think he wouldnt leave his wife for you, you should have been more careful, better still dont sleep with a married man. No matter what bull shit he feeds you, you still knew he was married and should of ended the relationship as soon as you found out.

Even with the pill and condems still not 100% and no we should have not slept with a married man but no one can go back and change what has already happened. So if you have nothing to say about right now nothing you say can change what has already happened. We have no choice but to deal with the right now and present no could've ahould've is going to change what is already done.

We all know the consequences of sex. You just sould have kept your legs closed the first time.

U reap what you sow, so like you he is hurting. Use your head next time...hope you have an idea of how much you hurt his wife now.

once again to all the people that is posting with nothing good to say besides "trying " to condemn or judge, find another place to post ur thoughts.

Wow i dont even know what to say.I noticed someone said that you reap what you sow as if the babys were a burden of punishments on us. Everything happens for a reason.If it wasnt intended to happen then god would have never let it happen.All of you married women on here are blaming us for your husbands cheating.If it was meant to be then he wouldnt cheat.You cant go around blaming other women because the guy you decided to marry was not the one and hes a jerk.If thats going to be the case then maybe you should be single.You wives are aparently not doing something right for them to come to us and its true,weather you like it or not, that men lie about being married.One man told me he was a widower and when he got caught with me and i asked him why he lied he told me that he didnt.I asked him if he was married and he said yes but she died and that i never asked him if he remarried.It caught me by surprise. One more thing,you wives sitting here telling us we are stupid for being with a married man,YOU ARE EVEN STUPIDER TO KNOW HE CHEATED AND YOU STAYED WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!

Something that has been said on here over and over I just don't think is fair. I am not the wife, I am the other woman. But for a man to cheat on his wife, does not mean the wife was doing anything wrong. They may have had intimacy issues, they may have had communication issues, but the fact that he left the marriage and got whatever needs met elsewhere is his burden not hers. In all kinds of relationships, marriages, friendships, dating, etc. there are always issues that people either choose not to focus on or that one finds more prevalent but does not confide in the other how they feel. So to read that the wife was not a good wife, or not good enough, or did not know how to please her man so he did not cheat just is not realistic. And if a wife chooses to "try" to forgive her husband after an affair, then she truly is a kind hearted woman.

Some of us do have values you know. When we got married we took vows and intend to keep them. If you had any morals at all you woulld not be BLAMING the wives. YOU were the one sleeping with a married man. You obviously have no remorse for the pain that you cause other people. If you cant face up to the fact that you have brought a child into this situation, then you deserve everything people say to you. You give women a bad name. Yes like you said some of you did not know that the man was married, but does it really take 2 years for you to find out. Havent you ever wondered why youve not met any of his family or friends, the problem is you didnt have the decency to stop the affair when you realised which is why us wives find it very hard to believe that when (the few of you) appologise you really mean it. If you truly had any remorse for the pain which you have caused many people then you would not come on here and slag off us married people. Face facts, you screwed up and have landed yourself and lots of other people in a shitty nightmare. I appologise to any of the ladies who truly feel sorry for what they have done, and feel that i had to speak my mind as i am fed up of the blame being put onto the wives when we are not the ones who have broken hearts, all we have done is put our trust into our husbands. Angelina, its women like you that make it harder for wives to forgive the women who are truly sorry. I pity you. One day you will know how it feels to be in love with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, but when you are just think about what you have done and hope that it doesnt happen to you. Its only when it does that you will realise how it feels, and i honestly dont wish that on anyone.

Me too.... Thank you for saying that. I cant believe what i have read on here over the last few days. Its hard enough for women to forgive affairs, but its people like Angelina who make it even harder. If anyone on here has had a long term affair then you will realise how 'feelings' can take over, its those sort of feelings that make a wife want to work out her marriage. I have been married to my husband for 10 years but have been together for 14, and i can honestly say i love him just as much now as when we first started dating, and ill be damned if i am going to throw those years away because another woman has made it easy for my husband to have an affair. If we as women would stand up and say NO as soon as you realise the man is married, then there would be a lot less misery around.

REMINDER: Women who date Married Man?? Cant any of this lady have self worth and just say NO?? That's way Divorce is the way it is...these Men know there are a lot of women willing to play there games, that's what encourage them is women like you. If more of you stood up for yourself and found a loving man that can dedicate themselves to you, you wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. All these stories are ALL the same..."I was involved with a married man, now Im pregnant...boo hoo, I told his wife, he doensn't want me" Duh, your not the marriage material obviously if you are willing to be his other women. I HOPE EVERYONE learns from your post. There is defenitely no future with a married man.

To "all" while everyone is bashing Angelina, we do not really know what she is or has gone through. I do agree with some things she says like everything happens for a reason..there is one problem here that the "wives" or "other women" are forgetting.. It is th men/husbands..They are the ones spreading lies and hurting hearts, not just their wives but the other women because as I said before.."we"(other women) are human and have feelings too. AS for the comment by Mrs.C if u have read the other postings u would realize that what is so f**ked up about these situations is that "we" other women do meet the family, moms, dads, sisters and u wonder how I know well because it is my situation..We all communicate and they know he brought ME into this bullshit..the problems began when they wanted to work it out and he did not want to let me go..well u could say u should have respect or u wanted to be second..well that is bull...i was 6 months pregnant when the shi* went down (excuse my french ladies but I am very upset)..Now i have a 7mnth old son who I love very much and he loves very much...but he wants to continue to sleep with me..now his wife thinks he's being faithful but if only she knew..so back to my original statement..WE women have to stop putting pacifers in these men mouths and both leave them alone. I know that "!!!" says she put 14yrs into the marriage and do not want to let it go b/c another woman has made it easy for ur husband to have an affair??, well we have been communicating and u seem like a kind peson but I wanted to tell u that no one made it easy for ur husband but HIM! He is the one that chose to say f**k the 10/14yrs but yet u gave him the acceptance of letting him stay... we need to all be stronger and learn how to communicate, instead of blaming the other women, try and find out the truth and u wil be amazed at what u will find out..Now there are some that intentionally sleep with married men, but most of the times we women come into these relationships blind..and when the truth comes out there are real feelings and then it is not so easy to let go.. Thanks for listeneing everyone..I also forgot to say, "HE/SHE who has not sinned, let them throw the first stone! This is a site for encouragement, venting our hurts, and forgiveness...so I will leave with my favorite quote, "Even out of mess God will Bless."

First of all i would like to apologise for my little outburst yesturday. After having many nasty text messages and phone calls from the other woman in my situation yesturday i took it out on here when i know i shouldnt have. Maybe someone who has been the other woman could help me understand why she wont let my husband go. I understand that they have a son together and accept the fact that she will be a part of my life for as long as im with my husband, but why does she insist on hurting me. Some of the things she says are really nasty,e.g. yesturday she said that she hopes i rot in hell and if i were to get pregnant again then she hopes that the baby would die. What she has done has devistated me and already because of this situation i have lost my son at 21 weeks due to the tremendous amount of stress that i have been under. She already has a son by my husband now she says she wont stop until she has my husband to. I understand that many women who have affairs did not know they were married in the start, and then feelings take over, but it seems to me that she has been out from the start to make my life hell. I dont think i have ever done anything to deserve being treated like this, and find it hard most of the time to be strong and carry on. Any advice about what i should do next would be grately appreciated, as i have run out of ideas.

To "!!!" let me be vey honest with you, she can't lust let him go, and I mean CAN"T..what I mean by that is that the feelings you get when you think of losing ur husband is the same that she has but she just doesn'd have as much time invested.. i think the problem with this woman is that she is hurting, she is hurting very much and the only way she knows how to get at him, is by attacking you..because as long as he has to argue/defend himself withyou she knows everything will not go back to the was they were with you two, there will always be problems..I know because that is how I used to be.. I was so angry at him for using me and making me love him, and then just basically saying f**k me... i still hurt because I still love him, it sounds bad but that is just the way is is.. She probably does not even want him at times but it hurts to think that he =can dog her out, dog out out his wife and then after you both are stressing, he gets to go back to his normal life..he has abackup plan, his wife..The words she says are cruel and are meant to hurt u b/c she is hurting..do not get me wrong these are noe excuses but it is true..did she know he was married from the beginning?...u can be strong and carry on because you have made it this far..everything in time will pass..it seems like you can't make it to the next day but you can..as I type this I cry because..I feel for u both..I wonder can I go on too at times but I know if I can survive death of my father, then this too is survivable...If she was tricked then she will not rest until she is completely over him...and until then she will continue to harrass you.. if all else fails put out a protective order for harrassment and advise her unless sheleaves you alone she wil notbe able to call or anything.. I hope I have helped you understand and have strength...

In my first line i meant"just" not "lust", funny that the typo came out that way.

To !!!.
My heart goes out to you. As a previous "other woman", I want you to know that what is happening to you is just verification that you are doing what is right. Your heart is in the right place. Just reading your post has made me feel stronger and able to look past the mistake I made.
The devil is mad now because you are inspiring women who had fell from grace and are trying to pick themselves up again. Do not be discourage by the confusion..that's what the devil wants you to do.
Keep your focus and let her know that she can't hurt you she can't defeat you because what God says is so will be so...including your marriage.
I know this now and I asked God to forgive me for ever trying to come between something that he decreed.
Even if he said the marriage was not working, it was not my place to try to come in between that. As a woman of God I should have been encouraging him to pray. We were together for 5 years and he married the girl he cheated on me with. (DRAMA) So before I knew it..I was not THE woman but the other woman.
Just put it in Gods hands ladies...no matter what side of the situation you are on. The devil feeds off of our weaknesses; the things he know will make us second guess what we have already decided is right.
Keep your head up !!!.
The woman in your situation was probably dealing with some deep rooted issues before she even met your husband. Don't try to deal with this on your own because you will stress yourself out.
GOD loves you so let him fight your battles.
Be Blessed