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I don't think you can ask the people here if you should have an abortion. That's gonna cause an uproar. Only YOU know in your heart if you can keep this baby. I think when you are considering this you should be realistic that THIS IS YOUR CHILD..... meaning, in making your decision DO NOT count your married lover into the equation. No matter what he says now..... You have to search your OWN soul and decide if you can handle a child on your own. DO NOT let anyone else's opinion sway you.... Good Luck!!

I agree with the above response - it seems appropriate in your circumstance. You've certainlyot yourself in a pickle, but the pregnancy wsn't deliberate and I can only imagine the turmoil you are going through. I think you need to be able to tell somebody who you honestly trust to give you some support during this time. I also agree with Monique, that you can't take into account your married lover (or ex)...you need some solid advice. You need to think seriously about your options and how they would affect both you and your baby - could you go through an abortion, or an adoption? Can you support this child by yourself, or if someone else comes into the picture? I think if you do decide to keep baby, the father should know about it, but also let him know your expectations - wether you want child support, wether you want nothing from him. etc. He also has a responsiblity too, wether he wants to accept it or not - maybe one day he will want to be in the child's life, maybe not. There are so many things to consider, I think you need someone to help you so you aren't by yourself on this one. It's a huge decision. Good luck with it all.