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Sorry to say, I'd bet my life that Cat is right. Hope things go ok for you, but please keep your eyes open. Unfortunately you were a party to what was done to his wife (you stayed after finding out, didn't you?) so my guess would be that this will not end with you running carelessly through a field of flowers thanking god for such a great man. Do us one favor, if/when he wanders, don't let your daughter see you accepting that behavior, she should be taught that she is better than that. This cycle does not have to continue. But I DO mean it, hope things turn out for the best!

his ex wife had a son on the 19th and we have been waiting to hear the paternity test of him and my husband was faithful it wasnt his baby it was her ex bfs baby like we figured. so he has been faithful to me since we got back together in september. So herbaby has a father who wants it to be his and my husband and i have our daughter and another one on the way which i am even more excited about now this mess is out of the way and we can rest cause he isnt my husbands baby.

that is good news that he isnt the father but nothing you can say or do will ever negate the fact that your husband is a cheat, you can never say with 100% knowledge that he hasnt cheated on you, he so easily lied to you when you were going out so yes he is capable, very capable and he can do it again when the next younger, prettier bit of skirt comes along with unfortunately is only a matter of time with cheats. its nice to think that everything can be fairytale and he can change etc etc but reality and the way he finds it incredibly easy to lie speak volumes. at the end of the day though its a lesson his ex wife learnt and it will be a lesson you will learn, whether that be 3/4/5 kids down the line until you realise. what makes you so special to think that he would never cheat on you yet he would do it to his ex wife? or is that because his ex wife was 'psycho, mental case, not as attractive' etc etc otherwise known as all the crap they tell you to make you feel secure they wouldnt do the same to you. i had exactly the same thing with a girl who hopped into my ex's shoes quicker than i could say his name! of course he then cheated on her, except she really believed for some strange reason that he wouldnt cheat on her. what goes around comes around. people have to learn the hard way sometimes. i hope his ex wife has moved on to a better guy who knows what the word fidelity means.

By the way i thought y'all should know i am carrying twins.

hope the fairytale works out how you want it to hawaii. just remember having more and more kids with a guy doesnt stop him being a cheat. if anything in a few years you will most probably be the next wife he is bored of when another young woman comes sniffing. good luck, you will need it.

i read thru the entire thread. i turn a very negative eye towards cheaters - men and women. but, i don't believe 'once a cheater, always'. a lot of times, i think cheating is a symptom, not necessarily the cause, of relationship problems. anyway, i just wanted to say congrats, hawaii, both on your twins and on things working out with your guy. cheating doesn't have to spell the end of a relationship or bar the development of a good one, and it sounds like you guys did the required leg-work to stabilize your relationship. your situation is extremely rare, but you know it, and i think you handled it right. moreover, your kids are going to thank you (especially the twins)!

You said in one post his wife (now ex) couldnt have kids. Then she could?

And no, a cheater is not always a cheater. People who say that are the kind people who wont allow people to change. I speak from personal experience. The once cheater is now a wonderful father and soon to be hubsand.

hi yall i thought id give you an update well . things have changed im a mom of three now and he and i aren't together once a cheater also a cheater but i have learned my lesson and hes gone back to his ex wife but i don't care cause all i want is to do best for my girls
Samanatha, Savannah, Sabrinna i know i made a major mistake by taking him back and marrying him but then all of us have lessons we need to learn but i know its over and i am not planning on ever getting back with him. its a tough lesson to learn but sometimes we need too.

his ex wife is expecting a baby with him her 2nd i feel so stupid for believing that he could change but i guess i should of just left thing alone when i found out he was married and now he wants nothing to do w me or the babies but i know ill be collecting alot of alimony and child support from him through our divorce and i do have full custody of our girls.

Hawaiiangel81 ~ thanks for updating us on what's going on. I've followed this thread for 2 years now, and was one of the first to comment. No one is happy to see that it failed.. I know it's been a long road for you and I am hoping that things get better for you.

Just wanted to say, be strong -- and don't look back, no matter how much he sweet talks you if he reaches another indecisive point!
And three little girls, you've got a lot of fun years ahead. Good luck to you. :-)

this happened to me too....It broke my heart...but you do recover...

Yall were totally right about my husband he cannot be trusted that why i am divorcing and i have my daughters to focus on i don't need a guy who lies and wont be honest with me that is not right for me having to deal with but i should of never gotten back with him that was foolish of me but now i have the 3 most precious angel's and now he wants nothing to do with me or his girls when i found out he was spending time with his ex he denied but i knew better and hed been lying to me for month over her hed been cheating with his ex wife our whole marriage that just makes me mad i could of handled that he wanted to be with her and i could of moved on but marrying and sleeping with her just seems like the cowardly thing to do but its over and i have moved on.

he lied to me that his ex wife didn't want kids and couldn't but it seeems funny that she got pregnant about the times we wee fighting but i know both thoose babies are his with out a doubt.

Hi there, I am in a similiar situation. I am pregnant by my boyfriend, and found out he has been messing around with some other woman for the past few months. He was so excited about this kid, I never saw this, or I never wanted to see it.
I am now facing doing this all on my own, and I am soo angry and hurt by him.
I honestly wish there was some way to keep him out of our lives forever.
But I know that is unfair for my baby, but I honestly don't trust him to watch our soon to be baby for a couple of hours, or have him have his #1, #2, or #3 girlfriend during that weekend to be touching my child!
am I alone on that thinking?? Is that unfair to not want him to have the baby for visitations for a while...IDK...so confused