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Hi Gina
I just read your message and I feel that two months in his eyes may not be very long. I know for a pregnant woman 2 months can seem like an age, but I can give the example of a friend of mine who is about to have a baby, She lives some way from me and I hadn't seen her for about 8 weeks, and suddenly she's only got 3 weeks to go until her due date!!!

I think he is avoiding the issue, and is trying to ignore it. But for your own peace of mind I'd suggest you give one last call to tell him how you feel, and be completely honest with him. Try to make him face his responsibilities, I mean he's pregnant too...he's going to be a Daddy!
Otherwise, after that I'd not call him again.

I know this is a very difficult situation it will be 7 months since I have heard from my babys father in less than a week. I unlike you have no way of contacting him I have thought many times that I would like to over the past 7 months but now that he has made no effort I feel that it is better that I wasnt able to call him I have almost mnade it to delivery on my own he dissapeared less than 2 weeks after I found out that I was pregnant and now hasnt even called to find out if I am ok and at this point I am glad. I dont need someone like this in my life or in my daughters life stability is important for children and he cannot offer that to her. If you want to read my whole story it is posted under This is my story...so be prepared. I hope that knowing what I have gone through might help you make your decision I know that I havent really given any advice but this is a decision that you have to make for yourself but I think that knowing what other people in similar situations have gone through can help others in making their own decisions. I hope this helps and best wishes to you in whatever you decide, just dont let others push you into doing something that you are not sure is the best for you and you unborn child.

Fiona, thanks for your reply as of yet I have not called " when in doubt do nothing. I will think a lilttle longer before I make that call although guess I have to make it sometime. Peace and love

bmorebabe, I read your story and my god things have been difficult for you. Why on earth would his mother tell you to have an abortion and some people on these boards tell you to give your child up for adoption. I too like your boyfriend am adopted my mother had me in a magdalin laundry 40 years ago in Ireland ( where I live) this is one reason why I could not abort and it is ilegal in Ireland. While I think abortion / adoption works for some people, like you its not for me. As a fellow adopted person I am sure your ex boyfriend will not let this go forever maybe he is running scared like most men but when your adopted biological family is important. That is my opinon but god who knows with men. And also if you would want him around after leaving you with no support at all in another story. Sorry to hear you have been so ill which makes things even more lonely I was ill just for two weeks and I felt so alone so I can guess how you have been feeling but in the end it will be worth it when you have your beautiful baby.What is your due date ?
Peace and Love
Peace and love Gina

Gina-It is kind of a relief to hear a response about my story from someone else who is adopted I also believed that with him being adopted it might be an incentive for him to at least be curious about his child which he has no clue is even a girl. Right now I have less than 4 weeks to go and the past few weeks since I have found this board have seemed to have flown by I dont think that I would be able to make it without the advice and encouragement that I have recieved from the people on this board I know that some people are just not understanding of what women like us go through to get by financially and emotionally without the support of the men that have the same amount of part in us becoming pregnant than we do and I dont understand how some people can try to put all of the blame on the woman knowing that the decision to have unprotected sex is something that both must agree on. I just went to the doctors today and he said that he wants to check the growth of the baby to see if she is an ok weight to turn her because she is still breech. My due date is 12/01/04 but I really think that the baby will be here sooner than that because of the diabetes, they raise my insulin almost every time that I go to the doctors now and I go every week. Best wishes to you and I sincerely hope that everything works out for the best for you.