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Should I Have An Abortion

7 posts on this thread and the last post was on September 1st, 2004 5:38 PM

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Undisclosed - September 1st, 2004 5:38 PM

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I am a 22 year old university student. I met and instantly fell in love with a boy through school. We have been together and inseperable for the whole year. When the year finished he had to leave and go home which was 8 hours away. He is a muslim, dating is supposed to be a forbidden act, but we dated anyway. He recently informed me that he would be leaving the country to go on his spiritual journey for 4 months. I also just found out im pregnant. I do not know what to do. I have had a previous abortion and it didnt bother me at all, but it was also with someone who i didnt care for. My boyfriend wants me to have an abortion because having children b4 marriage is disgraceful for his family and customs. He wants to get married when he returns and then do things the right way. Also I have a 5 year old daughter already which makes my schooling difficult. My parents will disown me if they find out im having another child. I am really confused as to what the right thing is to do. Having the abortion itself is not a big deal, but i guess the question in my mind is is this a justifialbe reason to have one or not. Abortion is not just something you do for the sake of doing things the right way. Im confused, help

Racquel - July 23rd, 2004 3:44 PM

I have to say that having an abortion is an big, my question is what is your religious back ground? It seem you have all the reasons down why you shouldn't have the baby. But if you knew that you didn't want to get pregnant, you should have used protection. I am not criticizing you but, you have had an abortion before and that isn't the best way not to have kids. It is all about what you can live with, and you sound like you can live with another abortion on your brain, but you will have to answer to those children when you leave this earth, believe me, it may be a disgrace to a have a baby pre-marriage in his religon, but you already have a child, are you a disgrace to his family? I am not gonna go on because I am pro-choice, but that doesn't mean having an abortion as alternative to contraceptives. I believe abortion clinics have been abused but irresponsible hormonely raged people who think... this is a quick out, so basically the choice is your.

melissa - July 26th, 2004 12:43 PM

although i don't agree with abortion u having a 5 year old daughter already and attending school is hard enough. base ur decision on wut's best for ur future and ur kids future not his. and no abortion is not something u just do just cause.... although it does seem to have the affects on u as most people doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.

SaRaH - July 28th, 2004 11:42 AM

it think that it is ur choice even if it is against his religion. If it was so WRONG then y was he having sex with u?? I do agree that abortions is not a form of birth control, but like u said u have trouble now with 1 child. I think yall should really talk about it and if he is willing to spend the rest of his life with you, then he should marry you now and if not then do what u feel is best for u and thechild u already have! GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sam - August 25th, 2004 12:45 PM

I dont think you should have an abortion-like sarah kinda mentioned that if it was such a wrong thing to do then why have sex with you in the first place.If he cared about his religion so much then he would'nt of even had sex with you if that was against it-it seems to me that he is only telling you to have an abortion and using his religion as an excuse!!!Dont think what is best for him-now is the time to be thinkin about ur unborn baby!!!also-is'nt abortion meant to be against the muslim religion??

MICHELLE - August 28th, 2004 9:50 PM

I THINK IF YOU HAVE AN ABORTION IT SHOULD BE BECAUSE OF WHTA YOU WOULD GO THROUGH NOT HIM,IT'S FUNNY HOW PRE-MARITAL SEX TO HIM IS WORSE THAN MURDER LIKE I SAID THINK OF YOU AND YOUR ALREADY BORN CHILD

Saz - August 30th, 2004 11:16 PM

No one can tell you what to do. Whatever you choose you need to be doing it 100% for you and no one else. Only you know what is a justifyable reason to you. I wish you luck in your choice

Jennifer - September 1st, 2004 5:38 PM

I don't think you should have an abortion. I agree with abortions, to a degree. I think that you and your boyfriend should be responsible for your actions. Having an abortion is a big deal, unlike what you said. That's an innocent life that you are taking. It didn't ask to be the mistake of your lives. I think you need to truely think about your actions. If you don't want to have this baby, then think about the many people that would love to have a child, but can't. Maybe you should think about adoption. Help make another couple's lives a lot happier. I advise you to think long and hard.

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