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(Presuming this is in the US)
If you're going to move, move while pregnant.
If you have the child while living in another state, he can't make you move back. I don't know what planet he lives on. I hope he's just ignorant and not the kind that likes to use intimidation tactics. I had an ex who was a little bit of both - we dated on and off for 4 years too - and I always counted my blessings that I never got pregnant with him. Threatening to make you move back sounds exactly like something my ex would have tried to tell me. *rolls eyes* I feel your pain, dearie.
When the judge is done laughing at him, he/she will tell him that if he has a problem with where you & the baby live, he can move closer. Transferring custody of children is one thing, but mandating state residency of a non-criminal mentally-competent adult is another entirely. We don't live in a police state.
Keep in mind: if you have the child in the current state you live in, and then attempt to move, he can block the move.
You have a reasonable reason for wanting to move home. And you can permit the father visitation. You're going to need child care, a support structure - if your family can give your child this, it may be better for him/her.
Esp. if your ex has a tendency to dictate what he 'allows' and 'disallows'. Sounds so unhealthy.
 
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