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It isn't easy... that's for sure. Somehow though at the end of the day you make it work because you love your child and you don't have a choice! But trust me you have so much love for your little one... it doesn't matter. I am 26, alone raising an amazing little boy. I have no close friends or family in the area... THAT makes it expensive!!!! But honestly my family is in such a mess I don't know that I'd have a ton of help even if they were close. Look at what you DO have. Perhaps your grandparents could have one day a week. Maybe a friend could have another... or be a backup. A lot of daycare centers (once you do your research) work on a sliding scale. Me personally I prefer a daycare center rather than a sitter at home. Tuition is tax deductable, your child will socialize with others (you'll meet moms with children your child's age!!!!) and the kids have more structure.... some babysitters let the tv do all the work! If you only need a few days a week rather than 5 it is a little more affordable. I work really funny hours that daycare doesn't always cover them so I have to mix and match sitter and school. The schedule is madness and sometimes REALLY confusing. Interviewing babysitters is a headache by itself, but there ARE good ones out there. INSIST on references! Regardless of whether or not he WANTS to be a dad, you are entitled to child support. When I was pregnant I knew I was going to be alone and that motivated me to go college. I have a degree now. It gives me confidence to know I can take care of us. Some days It is scary. There are days I crunch the numbers and I don't know how we'll get through, but we always do... you will too. :)

I know your being helpful and Im greatful but family and friends just aren't a choice.. i can't ask an 80 year old women to baby sit my child. Besdies as much as it sucks, I know the answer they tell my uncle (grandmothers son) no all the time. and i love my friends, and maybe they aren't the greatest people but im not letting druggies watch my child.

i pick up a insurance payment in april which sucks, its my brithday. Sounds like a great birthday gift huh? So im losing out on money when I wanted to wait and hopfuly save some. A day care would be good, they have daycares for new borns?

entitled to child support? yes, want it? No. I dont want anything from him. He doesn't want his child and i dont want his money (yes i know it would help) but I refuse to take it.

Wrost part I plan to move away from my friends and family. i can't take the snow, every year i get into an accident. So that's going to kidna suck 2.

Thank you for your help and sharing Mim42!

Ha! You sound like me. I don't want the money either. I guess I am stubborn and proud, but so be it. Sorry that friends/family aren't an option... that's the boat I am in. So I HAVE to rely on strangers. Yeah most big daycare centers take children 6 weeks and up. Six weeks is the average maternity leave from work. My sister babysits from her home... that is an option too. Being a single mom isn't really unusual anymore and there are lots of programs. You just have to do your homework. Where are you planning to move to? Do you have a job lined up? I was moving around with a little one and that's tough. I ended up here because that's where the job was.

I want to move to Nevada, and actually the job i have now has about 8 different companys within every state, so i can transfer from my job here to the same job in another state.

im probably going to have to do the stranger thing, im thinking of maybe putting the baby in day care for 2 days a week and seeing if my friend will watch her or her the other 3 days. or other way around.

TPHC- Have you called some area daycares to get pricing to see if it's affordable or not? Some daycares do not take babies. I know your job future is up in the air, so why not check some daycares in they area you plan to move to?