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i am kinda in the same boat sept for he had left me then i found out i was pregnant... but the hardest thing to do is take that step for you and ur child.... i have been that person throwing up all the time, stressing out like crazy... he could break me down to tears in a second if he wanted to... and he still does... problem is that i know i have a problem with him and what not... but for the life of me i still havent let go ...i just continue to let him hurt me... and thats the worst thing u can do for yourself your children and the lil one growing inside of you... i honestly wish i could take my own advice and get outta this situation... and im trying... but all i have to say is that you are worth sooo much more than you are getting from him right now... "if a guy cant love you at your worst he doesnt deserve you at your best" and i doubt that your worst would be anything compaired to the horrible stuff he has been doing to you... he just makes you feel/ believe that you are the problem so he can justify what he is doing is alright... but it is not and you didnt do ne thing wrong so stop thinking it... other wise you will be like me sitting there contemplating everything you do trying to be perfect... until you get to the point where even when you are perfect it doesnt matter cause it will never be good enough for him cause hes jus going to keep putting you down and doin the same thing to you to make you feel like shit so he will feel good.. there is something messed up in the brain of guys like that and no matter how hard you try you can't fix it... but what you can do is not be a victim to it... believe me i ahve waited way to long and been the victim now too long... im 30 weeks preggo... and yea.. if u need to talk or ne thing lemme know cause we're in the same boat

Thank you for your reply and I am so sorry you are going thru the same thing. I wouldnt wish this kind of pain on anyone. We should be excited and happy, loving being pregnant, instead when we need them the most they are just cold. Before we got into this fight we had sex the other night and I bled bright red blood, I was so scared and I called my doctor, he told me to be on bed rest but to come in first thing on Monday to make sure the babys ok. He took my car yesterday when he left and I need it to go to the doctor tommorrow so he finally called to just tell me that he might come over but why cant I just reschedule or find another way. I explained to him I dont have another way or any money or anything and he just didnt care, I started to cry and told him that no matter how he feels about me, I love this baby and i have to do what ever I can to save it, he said he didnt want to hear me cry because Im the biggest bitch in the world to him right now and he just wants to get his stuff and never see me again.I cant believe he doesnt even care about the baby and how a man who said he loved me can be so cold and heartless to me. This whole thing was over nothing really and he acts like I did something so horrible, no one deserves to be treated this way. Im afraid when he does come what hell say and how much its gonna kill me. Why does he have the power to crush me, I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but I really cant help it. I will pray for both of us and I hope things get better or at least that we can find some peace. Thank you for listening, I really needed someone right now. I will be here if you ever need to talk too.

im really sorry that's happening to you ... i really hope you can get things worked out so you DONT have to rely on him... because i know in his kinda situation we use it as our handicap... that we need the guy... and hey it would be nice but hey if they dont give a shit and they have changed to that point ... they shouldnt be worth our times at all.. and we will jus have to figure out other ways of getting things done... it's kinda hard with me though... cause he had a child when i met him.. and i love his son to death i take care of him like 5 days a week... and ive been letting him use me like it's ok for too long... and im trying my hardest right now to break myself of this horrible habit i have got myself into right now.... it's like he controls ne thing... he can bascially make me throw up on command with things he says and it's not healthy at all... all i can say is really try to not to rely on him and getn through this being strong... cause if u rely on him you will jus keep saying to urself that u need him and when u get further along it will be harder and harder and harder.... to disattach yourself from him... ne ways... do whats best for you and your baby .... do it for you guyss cause in the end no one else can do it for you.... as for the car situation, try and find a friend , or a bus or something.... make sure he knows that you dont need him.. but by all means if it is your car get it back asap.... you own it , its yours and u and the baby need that and he can go figure out stuff on his own... its not ur fault he dont have acar .... and it isnt fair for him to make u have no car when u need one .... have a better day today ... and i hope all goes well at the doctors.... and trust me you can get through anything... when i was 3 months preggo i had to have my appendix out which is like a1 in a million chance of happening while u r preggo and very dangerous... but hey the babys strong and it will get through ne thing as long as u know you can ....

Pray because we are all going through some kind of problem...but from alot of experience and time...I know there are men out there that will love you for who you are and all the flaws you have...God loves you and the baby unconditionally...pray God changes his heart and keep in mind you can never make someone love you only be lovable and be yourself...keep your head up hunn...and GOD BLESS...stephanie