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I'm 36 weeks pregnant. The baby's father and I were together for 5 years and planned this baby. We were both very happy when I got pregnant.
I should mention also that we were in a long distance relationship and when I got pregnant I wasn't ready just yet to move away from my support system. Read on to understand why.
He was in prison for the first couple of years we were together. He was different when he got out, but he didn't get really horrible until after I was a couple of months pregnant. It was like he got shell shocked to fresh air and maybe started getting nervous about being pinned down so soon after being locked away for such a long time, but he still wanted me too.
I finally just couldn't stand it anymore and broke up with him. Even though we weren't together he did want to be involved in the baby's life and told me on numerous occasions that he still loved me and hoped we could be together in the future after everything gets settled.
I found out that he had started seeing some girl around this time and he was trying really hard to hide it from me. I found out anyway and confronted him. He said he didn't love her, it wasn't about love, he was still here for me. I refused to talk to him for two months. I felt betrayed. So he felt pinned down with me but he could be with somebody else? He complained that I wouldn't move up there, but why would I move away during a very vulnerable time in my life to him going out all hours of the night to bars and living the wild life while I stayed at home, alone, pregnant, and knowing no one?
He wrote emails and begged me to reconsider, that he wanted to be a father to his child and he was kicking himself for ever letting me get away in the first place. I finally gave in and decided that I'd talk to him.
We've been talking again for a month, and it seemed that he had learned his lesson on being nice to me. I was glad we could get along for my daughter's sake. If he wants to be a dad, I won't deny him those rights.
Yesterday, I get a call from the aforementioned girl. She's pregnant too. Drilling me for questions about what do we talk about, this and that. When I confronted him about it, he didn't deny it, but said that he wanted to wait until my baby was born until he told me and that he did still want to be with me and that he loves me.
But what to believe? I'm really hurt that he was careless enough to get another girl pregnant. I'm told she is very vindictive and horrible. I could tell her main motive was to upset me with him when she called. I'm just too old for this. I'm 32 ffs.
I'm just so sad and confused and need a hug.