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Talk to your mother.. Ya she might get upset but she will get over it and be there to help you.. Do not keep it all bottled up inside, its not good for you or the baby. Everything happeneds for a reason, so hang in there and try to stay positive.

You may be able to tell who the dad is if you remember your last period, the date you slept with man #1 and the date you slept with man #2. Usually most women ovulate about 14 days before the date of the expected/missed period.

I also am pro-choice but only in certain situations i.e. rape, date rape, a very very young mother (underage) or abusive relationship. In my opinion, you are an adult and made an adult decision to have unprotected sex twice in one month and I don't feel that an innocent baby should lose it's life b/c of it. Obviously it's your decision, but you aren't a child, you are educated and will have a good job in the future to support a child. I don't mean to offend you, as I stated, this is my opinion.

Either man will have no choice but to help support their baby financially. Noone truly feels emotionally ready for a child, it's a big responsibility and very scary at any age. I agree with oct19bad, I would suck it up and talk to your mom, she will probably be able to help you get some perspective. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

Thank you for your opinion. I completely agree that this was my decision and I do not feel it is right to have my baby lose its life because of a mistake I made. I truly feel it is man #1 because I started to feel the symptoms really before I slept with man #2. I think part of me just wants it to be the latter man because of who he is to me, but I cannot deny the truth you know what I mean? My problem is that I am receiving a lot of pressure from people to have an abortion, but I know in the end it is my choice and if it is something I am not okay with then I know I shouldn't do it. I plan on going to Planned Parenthood and speaking with a professional counselor and hopefully I will make the right decision. Thank you for being so honest with me because I was ready for that when I posted this.

I agree with both of you about speaking to my mom. I have decided I will speak to her after I have confirmed the pregnancy, how far along I am, and so on. Thank you for your advice and I will take all of this in to consideration.

I wanted to give an update that I have made the decision to keep my baby. I am actually starting to get excited over the thought of being a mommy and I can't see myself getting rid of my baby. Thank you for all of your help and any further words of encouragement would be so amazing!

sweetpea- congratulations on making your decision! I'm sure you know in your heart you are doing the right thing. Although it may not be easy at times (being a mom can be very challenging) everytime you look at your baby and see his/her smile and beautiful eyes, you will never regret your decision. I am so glad to hear that you are getting excited. Have you spoken to your mom yet? I'm sure once she gets over the initial surprise she will be just as excited. Please keep us posted, I wish you all the luck in the world and a healthy, happy pregnancy!

Congrats! FWIW, I don't think anyone ever feels 'ready', or totally prepared, or not afraid, when it happens to them, planned child or not, married or not, young or 'not as young'. There are so many variables. I think the fear is natural, and healthy - and a sign of wanting to do right by your child. I do hope your mum's been helpful and supportive. With all the literature on poor mother-daughter relations, I think pregnancy makes for one of those rare opportunities to bond, if both parties are willing. Cheers!

I am in sort of the same boat, I am 21 (i turned in July) I took off a year of college and was going to go back for fall semester when I discovered that I am pregnant. I had sex with 2 men and I am pretty sure of which one it is. I told both men and the one who I am pretty sure of..doesnt want anything to do with it, I wasnt with eiether man and the other guy is older and more mature about it but thinks because of the timing that its most likely the other guy. I had sex with one guy on the 7th/8th day of my cycle and the other guy on the morning of the 15th day of my 28/29 day cycle. Everyone knows and it was difficult to tell people and their reactions were harsh but your family will love you no matter what. Thats whats most important. I am 18 weeks along now and I am not doing it with help and it is beyond hard because i dont have friends and I feel alone too...we can talk if you want to

Hi sweetpea I was in the same position. As you were I was terrified to tell my family. I am 20 years old and my dad told me my whole life not to have children young like he did. TELL YOUR PARENTS! my perspective in it... why as a bunch of other 20 year olds for advice when your parents always want whats best for you. To my surprise my parents were thrilled. I also slept with two men my ex fiance' and my ex boyfriend. I told both of them as well and they wanted nothing to do with it. My family remained supportive and it is tough to hear what people say. You will just have to wait for what happens and have faith in the people around you. God would never give you more than you can handle. I am sure you are a very strong person and can be a wonderful mommy

dear sadgirl email me whenever and we can chat if you want someone to talk to. I need it probably just as much... My IM is angelgirlashe

sweetpea... we are in the same boat... if you want to talk more about it, give me your email. I will be 21 in 4 months, im also in college, just found out that i was pregnant yesterday. And havent told my parents...

Some people aren't going to like this, but I had an abortion and I still think it was the best decision for me at the time. I have no regrets. But if you want to have the baby, you sound like you would be a good mother! Best of luck, whatever you decide to do.

I am in the very same perdiciment. I have decided to not worry about which of the two iis the father, considering im sure both would want me to abort. I also am pro-choice, but I am 23 and really think this is what I am sopost to do. I also only have a year left of college. I found out when I was 5 weeks along, and was terrified. Two months later, I have managed to tell my friends and family, including my mother. If your mom is anything like mine, she will be thrilled... no matter your current relationship or financial status. If I have learned anything through challenging life lessons, is everything will work out like it was planned :)

tell your mom. i was 21 when i had my first. i waited way too long to tell mine.

Talk to ur mom u will be surprise on how she is going to be there for u and the baby.
I am in the same situation as u I slept with 2 guys on the same day. I told my ex and he wants out and the other guy is happy about the baby, is just that he doesnt know I slept with my ex. I dont know what to do I have the support of my mom and other family members but I want my baby to know it daddy. As i am scared of the fact that it might not be the other guy own What do i do.

I was in the same situation myself. It isn't easy. I have never felt so alone in my life! Eventually I told my family, and I was really surprised at how understanding they were about the situation. Good luck!