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You have to set limits with him. That's the hard part. I struggled with it a LOT! However if he is always around and being an affectionate "friend"... it will be really hard for you to separate your feelings. Good luck!

My read is that he is very much emotionally involved with you and moomoo. Don't let his words get in the way. They are a distancing thing that is about avoiding responsibility. His emotions will win out if you give them time. Just smile and say "I hear you". Good luck!

I hope, Deep down in my heart beneath all of the hurt I really want us to be a family. I mean the last five years ive had no father and his father abandoned him before he was born. we went to the ultrasound and all he did was kick my shoe, unplug the earphones from my ipod, and poke me. And when they were showing us the ultrasound, he was texting!!!!!!! he missed everything im pretty sure he missed everything and its a boy and it looks like him exactly. :( Im thinking that in a few years me and moo moo should move far away, should i?

How sad. Have you thought to sit him down and ask him if he plans to be a father like his own father or a responsible, loving parent as he wished he could have had in his life. It's time to break the cycle, accept responsibility and be a good father to his child. I hope for your sake and your baby's that he does the right thing.

Well he says he always wants to be there but i see no effort. my mom says its that hes scared but he loves his baby and you can see it. *sigh* I hope he does the right thing because the baby doesn't deserve to be abandoned just cuz we're not a family.

I just really wish that i could escape :(

Well it sounds like it is beyond your control. It's probably best to assume that he will not be there for you and if he is, be pleasantly surprised.

I hope your family is supportive of you and will help you through the tough times ahead.

Try to stay strong and always put your baby's best interest first. I wish you luck, this will not be easy for you but I'm sure you will be a good mom.

Thank you :] Im hoping that with time itll be less painful and my family friends and his family are 100% behind me so atleast moo moo will have oodles of love I just have to keep my head up high and hope for the best i guess

He got a new girlfriend and now he doesnt call to check on moo moo should i deny his rights? cuz i know he's always going to do this

I would not go that far b/c you want to be able to receive financial support from him to help provide for the baby.
I'm so sorry he has really turned into a dirt bag.
You will need to indicate him as the father before you leave the hospital after delivery. So I would just blow him off and avoid contact. He's a loser anyway, not someone you want to have a future with. Obviously you don't want to deny your baby the right to see his/her father if he actually is man enough to be a part of the baby's life and he need to at least accept financial responsibility.
Hang in there hun, it will get better. As soon as you lay eyes on your little one it will all be worth the heartbreak.

I know :) moomoos so cute im just hoping that after June I'll be able to forget what happened and I can move on and be happy for moo moo I was just thinking about denying his rights because he abandoned moo moo once all he could say was get rid of the baby everyday and all I did was get mad at him for asking me to and he left and now that I gave him a chance to redeem himself he does it again and twice. I'm beginning to think that he doesn't deserve to have a son. To tell you the truth his mom had to force him to be there. I don't mind the fact that he has a gf but the fact that he abandoned his son for some girl twice makes me think that moo moo would be happier without him. I don't eVer want to see moo moo cry because his dad isn't there, I've already cried enough for the two of us.

I know you're hurt and just want him to hurt as much as you do, it's completely normal and understandable. Try to put your feelings aside and make your decisions based on what would be best for the baby. You don't want to be the reason that moomoo does not know his father. If that turns out to be the case, let the blame be on the father. Never give your baby any reason to resent you. Right now your hurt feelings are getting in the way, and you're right, he doesn't deserve that baby, but the baby deserves to have the opportunity to know his father. I know once the hurt fades you will be able to make clearer decisions. Anytime you want to talk, I'm usually around. Colleen

Should i ask him if he wants to be there for moo moo (zachary I finally picked a name!!!!! :P) then? I've been thinking if i should call him or not

Love the name, great choice! I would ask what role he intends to play in the baby's life. As far as having him present for the birth, that is entirely your choice. When are you due?

June 5th Im getting nervous
my mom wants to video tape me giving birth!!!! Im like no way but everybody gets mad
I dont want to be video taped my only memory should be zachary shouldn't it?
hes doing somersaults in my tummy :P
oh i was playing with a bell and he liked the sound i think haha
i was talking to his dad and he says he wants to be there
i was telling him about my concerns and he seemed to actually take it serious for once *very impressed*
all he could say was that he loved his son very much and that he always wanted to be there
i told him that i doubted that he was going to be responsible and he said i dont know if i am yet but i could be there and atleast say i tried. that convinced me.

Hun if you don't want to be videotaped (I don't blame you one bit) tell them NO! This is your pregnancy and your baby and it should be exactly as you want it and they should understand. Your memories should be exactly how you want them (bearing in mind that sometimes babies don't cooperate and can blow your whole plan!)
That's nice that you ring a bell for him, they say if you read to them they can hear it and of course recognize their mommy's voice.
That's great that he's taking it serious now, but don't get upset if that changes. Try to keep your expectations low so you don't get overly upset if he goes back to being an immature jerk. I truly hope he steps up to the plate and turns out to be a good and responsible dad.