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Hun if you don't want to be videotaped (I don't blame you one bit) tell them NO! This is your pregnancy and your baby and it should be exactly as you want it and they should understand. Your memories should be exactly how you want them (bearing in mind that sometimes babies don't cooperate and can blow your whole plan!)
That's nice that you ring a bell for him, they say if you read to them they can hear it and of course recognize their mommy's voice.
That's great that he's taking it serious now, but don't get upset if that changes. Try to keep your expectations low so you don't get overly upset if he goes back to being an immature jerk. I truly hope he steps up to the plate and turns out to be a good and responsible dad.

im trying to keep them pretty low, i dont have much trust in him anyway... i dont think i ever could so i pretty much dont have faith in him.
Yesterday he came over and rubbed my tummy it was so cute he sat down on the floor and closed his eyes like he was happy and felt connected to zachary i think he really loves his baby. :) Im trying to be more positive.

That's the best you can do now. Just remember that he will probably feel more fear as your due date approaches.
I truly hope he is there for you and your baby. It sounds like you will be a good mommy to your little one.
Please keep me posted on how it goes.

Keep your head up and a smile on your face! You are the main act, and he is the audience. One thing to remember is that having a baby by a guy creates a lifelong tie between the two of you - he will always know he has a child out there. In some cases it may be a very remote tie, but it will never fade. Do your best to play it cool - keep the relationship civil. Try not to load him up with guilt or expectations. I suggest you try to have him present in the delivery room - it will strengthen his attachment to both of you. His name on the birth certificate gives him rights as well as obligations - think that one through. BTW, I don't think 4 1/2 months pregnant in early March ties in with a June 5th delivery. What's the deal?

i think i made a typo :P well the due date is june 5 according to the ultrasound tech i think i meant 5.5 months when i wrote it sorry i was crying so yeah lol well
now im all confused haha i think im 25 weeks cuz when i went to the ultrasound on the nine i was 23 weeks and 6 days XP
no idea haha
um the thing is that i want to be happy and his memory perturbs me. its like everytime he creeps into my mind tears form in my eyes so my mind wishes i could sever that connection because hes really mean and jerky sumtimes
im trying just to be friends but sometimes its hard to be nice when that was the person who abandoned you knowing you both created a life, in fact he knew first.

You have every right to feel hurt and sad. The only thing you can do is try to find some peace and come to terms with his attitude for yourself and your baby. I think anyone in your situation would have a hard time being friends with this jerk. Just try to remember that you are trying to be civil for your baby, not for him. You are so young and will have plenty of time to meet a guy that will treat you and your son with the love and respect that you deserve. You will be happy, please know that, I know it's hard to believe right now but it WILL get better.

i try :)
i notice that the closer the due date comes, the less i think about him so ive been increasingly happier
i told him the same thing (about finding a nice guy) and he gave me a weird response
it was like a fake good for you kinda thing
oh and now that i remember someone asked us if the baby was planned and i was like no and he said what makes u so sure *scary isnt it?*
or like sumtimes he says i miss you and ill be like oh um... lol
my plan is since hes like 15 and im 16 i have a chance to just move away so i can make a life for me and zachary if he wants visitation rights i wont deny them but i dont want him to act in this confusing way anymore it just confuses me even more
lately we havent been able to talk normally

It sounds like he's playing mind games with you. And if he intentionally got you pregnant and then does not stand by you and the baby, he is a total piece of shit (excuse my language). He needs to grow the **** up!
What a jerk, you would be better off without him. What does your family think of him?

Nah, I understand I trow myself a few of those a day lol I really dont get it yesterday he was all cuddly and he was rubbing his cheek against mine and putting his head to mine and argh seriously
well my stepdad hates him, my mom thinks hes just scared but she says he feels a feeling of sadness and pity when she looks at him. Its weird.He does need to grow up my counselor told me that what we can do is practice for the moment i tell him that he needs to stop acting that way with me so right now im debating on whether to wait or wait for my counselors cue.
sometimes i feel like throwing the computer at his fat head lol